Sometimes I lose the meaning of life.

Ilya

Ilya

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Sometimes I lose the meaning of life.
In high school, the goal was to finish the training. At the university, the goal was similar. In adult life, it was more difficult, but I set myself virtual goals in my work. In addition, creating and strengthening a family was also the goal.
But now I feel that the children have grown up, the work is over, and raising grandchildren is not the same as raising children. In addition to the moments with travel (which I love very much) and conversations with people, I became bored with life. I have read all the books that interest me, and using endless entertainment also gets boring over time.
I feel like my mental health is getting worse. How do you find the strength to have fun, find meaning in life every day, and do you succeed?
 

I think that this kind of thing happens to all of us as we grow older, @Ilya . When I was younger, I was busy taking care of my family, and we had good times together.
We went hiking, fishing, and rode our horses (and ponies) high up into the mountains.

Now, I have heart failure, bad balance, and other heath issues that would prevent me from riding a horse even if I still had one, or doing most of the other things that I once enjoyed.

I think that the answer has to be with our attitude.
As the saying goes , “an attitude of gratitude”, is important. We need to be grateful for what we can still do, and enjoy that while we still can.
The things that I am still able to do, I do, and for the things I can’t, I look for replacements. I also read a lot every day, and try to expand my mind, and I read to learn how better to take care of my body; so that it will last longer and I can keep on doing the things that I am still able to do, for as long as possible.
No matter how old we are, we can still search for truth and knowledge.
 

Ilya, You look like one of my paintings!
Where are you located?
I gather you're not in America!
Are you alone? This makes a difference in how I answer your question.
Was your whole life tied up with your children in the past?
Guess i need to know a little more about you before I answer, as I'd like to help!IMG_1057.JPG
 
Gaer said:
Илья, ты похож на одну из моих картин!
Где вы находитесь?
Я так понимаю, вы не в Америке!
Ты один? Это имеет значение в том, как я отвечу на ваш вопрос.
Была ли вся ваша жизнь связана с вашими детьми в прошлом?
Думаю, мне нужно узнать о вас немного больше, прежде чем я отвечу, так как я хотел бы помочь!View attachment 170475
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I was born in Russia, but now I travel to different countries. My life has not been completely connected to my children in the past. Children and a loved one nearby do not matter. Rather, this is due to the fact that I have always liked to achieve something and strive for a specific result. When I didn't understand art, I wanted to understand art, and I did. When I wanted to be the best manager in the company, I became one. But in my old age, I can't set such big goals anymore. That's probably the problem. Because of the global nature of the past, I lost the fire in my eyes.
 
Ilya said:
I was born in Russia, but now I travel to different countries. My life has not been completely connected to my children in the past. Children and a loved one nearby do not matter. Rather, this is due to the fact that I have always liked to achieve something and strive for a specific result. When I didn't understand art, I wanted to understand art, and I did. When I wanted to be the best manager in the company, I became one. But in my old age, I can't set such big goals anymore. That's probably the problem. Because of the global nature of the past, I lost the fire in my eyes.
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There must be something that sets your soul on fire!
There must be something you love to do, a passion!
Don't do something because others think you should. or take the tried, easy way.
Do what you REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, REALLY want to do, even if it scares you!
WHAT WOULD MAKE YOU SO HAPPY RIGHT NOW, even if it seems impossible?
You are too young and handsome to give up.
You must have ideas that come into your head! Follow them and see where they take you!
If a Holy Angel appeared before you this moment, and asked for your one wish, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
 
Gaer said:
There must be something that sets your soul on fire!
There must be something you love to do, a passion!
Don't do something because others think you should. or take the tried, easy way.
Do what you REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, REALLY want to do, even if it scares you!
WHAT WOULD MAKE YOU SO HAPPY RIGHT NOW, even if it seems impossible?
You are too young and handsome to give up.
You must have ideas that come into your head! Follow them and see where they take you!
If a Holy Angel appeared before you this moment, and asked for your one wish, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
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"If a Holy Angel appeared before you this moment, and asked for your one wish, WHAT WOULD IT BE?"
My wish: maybe erase my memory and re-hear the music of Bach? I think curiosity is the key to everything.
 
But everything that I was interested in, I learned.
That's the problem.
 
Do you stop learning at a specific age? NO!
I'm old but I feel young and have the time now to study! I am studying metaphysics, literature, philosophy, ancient wisdoms;, all kinds of things I had no time to do when I worked. It's a whole new beginning! You keep all these things as you pass to new lives!

You said you are curious. STUDY what you are curious about! Woodworking? Playing the piano? Reading? Writing? Bach?
The whole purpose of life is the expansion of happiness! If music excites you, surround yourself in music!
Ask your angels (who are with you) to guide you to your happiness!

I will give way to let someone else give suggestions. I must not take up all this space!
 
Ilya said:
But everything that I was interested in, I learned.
That's the problem.
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How did you know what things interested you before you found them? It seems that somehow you found things of interest before, maybe you can go through that same discovery process to find other things of interest now. Or maybe you can create an interest that's unknown to any of us now. I get bored sometimes and that's when I start thinking about things like what is the meaning of life, all those heavy thoughts. Maybe if you shared your knowledge with others who don't or haven't learned everything they are interested in, maybe that would rekindle the fire inside of you and you'll find other and lasting interests. A candle doesn't lose anything by using it's flame to light another candle you know. It just makes the night a little brighter. Teach me some of what you've learned. That will keep you busy for a while!
 
Ilya said:
"If a Holy Angel appeared before you this moment, and asked for your one wish, WHAT WOULD IT BE?"
My wish: maybe erase my memory and re-hear the music of Bach? I think curiosity is the key to everything.
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I don't know for sure but it might be possible that you could bring "bach" the music of Mr Bach. He hasn't made anything new lately, I'm fairly certain of that but his works are still out there to be heard. You say that you think curiosity is the key to everything, well maybe you might be interested in learning how to be more curious. I'm curious about many things myself. I'm so curious that I did a search for ways I could be even more curious. You're welcome to have a look, this is the link - How to be curious
 
I get where you are coming from. The problem is that as retirees we have no meaningful goals. What to do about it, I don't know. Things that had to be done before to have a successful and comfortable life are now finished.
 
Boredom is the old person’s companion - we’ve seen it all - done what we wanted to do, read all the books, seen all the movies, travelled the world. And yet, overcoming this horrible dilemma of boredom is probably the hardest thing of all.
 

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