Spouses and Lovers

Horribly so....After police urging, to save body and sanity, I put 1,300 miles between us.
 

This is a common scenario with my S.O. We'll be out in a crowd or walking along a busy street. I'll spot a female who I know is his "type". I'll look at him and find him looking at me, smiling, having already checked her out. I must admit, the reverse scenario happens too. :)
 

tnthomas said:
I think that he is discreetly dodging the bullet. :wink:
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I agree, but its an act of kindness. I looked, and my wife knew it. We never had any doubts about each other, though.
Truthfully, when I saw a pretty girl, I thought "pretty girl", and that was it. I never did the imaginary undressing bit, or the "boy I would like to do her" thinking. My wife was in actual fact "My One and Only Forever Girl".
 
Cookie said:
Yes, I certainly do look and admire, but when I'm out with a boyfriend, I wouldn't ogle, stare at or flirt with another man as I consider it not just rude and disrespectful to the person I am with but also hurtful - and vice versa. Elementary my dear Watson.
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Yes, that's the essence of being a courteous, thoughtful spouse/partner.
 
" when I'm out with a boyfriend, I wouldn't ogle, stare at or flirt with another man as I consider it not just rude and disrespectful to the person I am with"

Exactly so, I didn't do it when we were courting (or I wouldn't have been courting for long!) and being married is not a reason to change.


 
I find that I look at women more than I do men.. I think if we were honest, most women do that. We what to see what she is wearing.. how it fits.. make judgments... and critique... wish we looked like her... or be smug that we DON'T look like her..... It's not sexual...
 
I find checking men out only takes a second for a quick scan - like or no, and move on. With women its usually the same. If its a like, I'll look more closely at the men and check women out for style, etc. too.
 
I'm guilty of checking women out for how they are dressed, If I see something I like and it flatters the woman, I try to remember when I go shopping for myself.....Love checking out good looking men, hey, I'm not dead yet....ha
 
Yes, my husband at the beginning of our relationship. How did I over come this, lots of patience, love, affection, assurance and transparency. It took a number of years for him to realize he was my one and only with no desire to stray. Today it is much easier, and happier.
 
I'm far from dead as well! Looking is fine. I've seen men I thought were attractive even though physically they wouldn't be seen as handsome. Something about them that makes them attractive.

My dh likes to say he's jealous of a character in a book, now a tv series. It's a funny joke between us. But the guy playing this character is really hot! Half my age, but that's fine. Just enjoying the eye candy. (fyi: Jamie in Outlander)
 

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