Starting to feel like me again :)

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Cin

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I think of last spring and summer and how in shock I was losing my guy of 8-1/2 years suddenly, it was goodnight I love you and I said the same and that was it. He was just..... gone the next morning, like someone popped a balloon, and he is just gone along with everything that was familiar to me. This summer I feel like I'm starting to become me again, I can look at all the places we would be with a smile now not a tear.
I joined this group almost a month ago and I have to say.....how welcoming you all have been, how kind you have been, and I thank you for it.
 

It took my Mom a good full year to find her footing after the unexpected death of my father. It's not just the greif of losing someone you love so unexpectedly but the long process of learning to live on your own. I think everyone takes for granted what the partner does to help complete our lives day to day.

Glad you're beginning to see light at the end of the tunnel. Keep pushing forward; you'll be fine (y)
 

Cin said:
I think of last spring and summer and how in shock I was losing my guy of 8-1/2 years suddenly, it was goodnight I love you and I said the same and that was it. He was just..... gone the next morning, like someone popped a balloon, and he is just gone along with everything that was familiar to me. This summer I feel like I'm starting to become me again, I can look at all the places we would be with a smile now not a tear.
I joined this group almost a month ago and I have to say.....how welcoming you all have been, how kind you have been, and I thank you for it.
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So sorry but glad you are coming around. Most of us here have experienced loss. I hope this forum helps. Happy to have you among us.
 
Cin said:
I think of last spring and summer and how in shock I was losing my guy of 8-1/2 years suddenly, it was goodnight I love you and I said the same and that was it. He was just..... gone the next morning, like someone popped a balloon, and he is just gone along with everything that was familiar to me. This summer I feel like I'm starting to become me again, I can look at all the places we would be with a smile now not a tear.
I joined this group almost a month ago and I have to say.....how welcoming you all have been, how kind you have been, and I thank you for it.
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Sorry for your loss but glad you are recovering from it and able to connect with life more easily now. Iā€™m so happy you found this site.
 
MrPants said:
It took my Mom a good full year to find her footing after the unexpected death of my father. It's not just the greif of losing someone you love so unexpectedly but the long process of learning to live on your own. I think everyone takes for granted what the partner does to help complete our lives day to day.

Glad you're beginning to see light at the end of the tunnel. Keep pushing forward; you'll be fine (y)
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Thanks for your kind words.
 
Cin said:
I'm trying. I'm glad I found this site too, but am having a hard time connecting to it.
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Youā€™re probably still in mourning. Do you have any hobbies you can talk about? Maybe talking about what youā€™re familiar with can help you connect.
 
hollydolly said:
why what's the problem connecting to the forum ?.. is it something we can help with ?
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I try and sign on with my laptop ND it say can't connect to site. So I have Ben using my phone. I don't get it. I tried to sign on using different browsers bot to no avail. Any ideas?
 
Cin said:
I think of last spring and summer and how in shock I was losing my guy of 8-1/2 years suddenly, it was goodnight I love you and I said the same and that was it. He was just..... gone the next morning, like someone popped a balloon, and he is just gone along with everything that was familiar to me. This summer I feel like I'm starting to become me again, I can look at all the places we would be with a smile now not a tear.
I joined this group almost a month ago and I have to say.....how welcoming you all have been, how kind you have been, and I thank you for it.
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My wife and I were going to bed and 5 minutes later she was dead of a heart attack.

But what I wanted to say was that I was so lost that first year after she died that the only people I wanted to talk to was a room full of widows in a grief support group.

The other thing I can relate to was the feeling of coming out of a funk the following year.
 
Cin said:
I try and sign on with my laptop ND it say can't connect to site. So I have Ben using my phone. I don't get it. I tried to sign on using different browsers bot to no avail. Any ideas?
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Yes that's a real PITA using your phone I agree..

Have you cleared your cookies on your laptop?...try clearing cache and cookies, then ensure you have the correct URL for this site.. and then try signing in again...
 
Cin said:
I try and sign on with my laptop ND it say can't connect to site. So I have Ben using my phone. I don't get it. I tried to sign on using different browsers bot to no avail. Any ideas?
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Literally you are having a hard time connecting. Sorry. Iā€™m not very technically inclined so canā€™t help you.
 
I'm pretty good with this stuff but it's not responding to anything. I hate using my phone for this.
 
Cin said:
Thank you for sharing that. Sorry for your loss. I have suffered much loss but not in that sudden way, just left me speechless and in shock for some time. I still can't believe he is gone just like that.
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When I was 11 my mother died. That's when I learned that life was going to suck.

Losing my wife was even harder because, like you, I lost an identity. I was no longer half of a whole.

I'm glad you're getting clear of some of what's been holding you down.
 

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