Stopping sending cards

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Rose65

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Funny what a strong obligation it can be perceived to be. It takes courage I find, to stop sending birthday and Christmas cards to someone. I decide there comes a point where it is just a waste of money and an unnecessary chore. Friends who are no longer in my life. Even very distant family who don't send one back anyhow.
Has anyone experienced the meeting of lovely people on holiday and beginning that fatal exchange of cards forever? Afraid to stop!

I have a much shorter list now than years ago. The price of stamps now means I send only vital cards to closest family. I cannot believe I used to spend so much money on cards abroad, often on friends who had moved forever! Now only closest family abroad get a greeting - on WhatsApp.

Now, if they are on Facebook, birthday greetings are on there. Christmas is strictly only closest best friends. I now find nice but economic cards , no more silly prices.

Another thing I stopped was exchanging presents as well as cards between friends. Huge headache. I bravely broached the subject with my female closest few friends and agreed a card only and spend time together. Relief all round, no more pressure.
I definitely want economy and simplicity in my later years.
 

Lady said:
I stopped Birthday and Christmas Cards Completly a few years back and 2 year back i stopped buying presants for family.
I wish Happy Birthdays and Christmas Greetings to immediate family by Text .
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I like your work! You save so much time, energy and money.
Better to spend time with those who are important to us than buy material things.
 
If I send someone a card for any reason it is because I appreciate their kindness they have given me. It is not about a holiday or even a birthday. It is to let them know I think of them often. A card is a personal thing and a letter, hand written is even more so. I hate at Christmas to get that letter enclosed in a card that is a photocopy that is sent to everyone. If you feel strongly about a persons place in your heart they deserve so much more than some generic message.
 
I used to spend $20+ on individual ā€œspecialā€ Xmas cards for immediate family every year; some sent me one, others didnā€™t. When Hallmark and American Greetings boosted their prices to often $5+ for a single greeting card, I think a lot of people backed away from the practice of mass card-sending; postal rates continue to go up, too. Now I mostly send cards for birthdays and graduations. And to think, I can remember when a store-bought special greeting card went for well under $1ā€¦
 
Blessed said:
If I send someone a card for any reason it is because I appreciate their kindness they have given me. It is not about a holiday or even a birthday. It is to let them know I think of them often. A card is a personal thing and a letter, hand written is even more so. I hate at Christmas to get that letter enclosed in a card that is a photocopy that is sent to everyone. If you feel strongly about a persons place in your heart they deserve so much more than some generic message.
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That sounds like a Round Robin. Those are both annoying and hilarious. Lots of news usually about people you don't know and so couldn't care less about!
 
CallMeKate said:
Until about 6 years ago, I always had a huge stack of Christmas cards going out... and not just that because I added a handwritten letter on Christmas stationery in 50% of them. I'll have to admit it was a relief when I decided to stop doing it.
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Me too. I sat and thought, looking at about 100 cards to write, what the hell am I doing?

I culled the list, now I send about 20 and just immediate two neighbours because I like them.
 
Forgot to buy grandson's BD card for tomorrow and all I have in my neighborhood is CVS's horrible selection. Son sternly reminded me. Cards are important to him for some reason. As for me, I hate the expense. Bah Humbug.
 
We send cards to close family.

Howeverā€¦if you are on the receiving end itā€™s a wonderful thing. šŸ˜Š
I received an unexpected get well card last month, which made my heart happy.

I absolutely love receiving cards from loved ones at Christmas or birthdays. It means they are thinking of me šŸ˜ŠšŸ’•
 
I successfully stopped Christmas cards during the pandemic.

Now, if I could just get my daughters to agree to stop gifts. I have taken a stand within the family that I will give monetary gifts to children and cards to adults. Still, I got a gift from one daughter on Mother's Day from Edible Arrangements , which I love but obviously she isn't cooperating. The other daughter was out of the country and sent flowers. I'm still going to send cards when it is their birthday. Their grandmother stopped shopping for gifts at age 70 and if it was good enough for her, it's good enough for me.

My son does much better with this. He sent a text saying Happy Mothers Day, Mom! I think men are relieved not to have to shop. Sensible.
 
When I go to my daughter's house for Christmas I see all my grandkids (and her of course) but I still bring those "special" Christmas cards for each of them. Why am I doing that??? If I wasn't going to see them at Christmas, that's a different story. My grandson, 9 years old, doesn't even open his card. Just throws it on the floor and opens his presents. For what I spend on cards ($5 - $8 each) I could have provided a turkey to feed all of them. It's a Hallmark "tradition" that needs to go away.
 
Of Course, no need to send cards anymore, because you all now have Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Email, and numerous others!
so why worry about spending a few dollars and buying a card that you have chosen to give joy to the recipient by opening something physical, that is the trouble with our world today, so many of us don`t do things like we used to, just be nice and kind.
 
caroln said:
Why buy a card that gets looked at once and thrown away? It's like like throwing $8 into the trash. Instead of a card I could just add that amount to a gift instead.
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Well, you might do that,(lack of respect to who sent it) we and all my friends display our Christmas cards for 12 days on the mantlepiece
window sills, sideboards, etc. Perish the thought if I sent a card to a friend or family and they opened it, read it, and threw it in the bin REALLY what sort of a person would do that, nobody I know? maybe it is different in your neck of the woods!!
 

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