Suggestions for Some Social Rules to Live By

Jules

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SOME SOCIAL RULES THAT MAY HELP YOU:
1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;
2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.
3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.
4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;
5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;
6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;
7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;
8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;
9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;
10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.
11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;
12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will;
13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;
14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;
15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;
16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;
17. Never give advice until you’re asked;
18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;
19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;
20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech; and
21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.
22.After reading a good message try to say "Thanks for the message".
APPRECIATION remains the easiest way of getting what you don't have....
 

SOME SOCIAL RULES THAT MAY HELP YOU:
1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;
2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.
3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.
4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;
5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;
6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;
7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;
8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;
9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;
10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.
11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;
12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will;
13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;
14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;
15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;
16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;
17. Never give advice until you’re asked;
18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;
19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;
20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech; and
21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.
22.After reading a good message try to say "Thanks for the message".
APPRECIATION remains the easiest way of getting what you don't have....
Thanks for the message Jules (y)...but I do want to know who borrows lunchboxes ...:unsure::ROFLMAO:
 
When someone tells you that they're buying a new car, going on a trip, cutting their hair short, etc, refrain from the urge to tell them why *you* wouldn't buy that car, vacation in that spot, cut your hair, etc.

If they want your opinion on their choices, they will ask for it.........THEN you can comment on your experiences and make suggestions. Until then, "That's nice!" will suffice.
 
SOME SOCIAL RULES THAT MAY HELP YOU:
Great list

One that has never failed me;

When borrowing something, return it promptly, and in as good or better condition than when borrowed.

I seldom borrow anything, but when I do, it's usually a tool.
Before returning, I clean it fastidiously until I consider it better than when I borrowed it, and change fluids, fill tanks, new weed eater line, sharpen things.

They are always pleasantly surprised
 
Romans 12:

9 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.

10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.

11 Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord.

12 Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.

13 Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.

14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them.

15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight.

17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all.

18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
 
Great list

One that has never failed me;

When borrowing something, return it promptly, and in as good or better condition than when borrowed.

I seldom borrow anything, but when I do, it's usually a tool.
Before returning, I clean it fastidiously until I consider it better than when I borrowed it, and change fluids, fill tanks, new weed eater line, sharpen things.

They are always pleasantly surprised
I'm of exactly the same mind as you Gary, I rarely borrow anything , and I can't even remember when the last time was.. but it's always returned in as good if not better condition....

I grew up being told, never lend books, Music, Tools or money if you want to have them returned ...and unfortunately in my experience when I've lent any of those things, I've rarely had them returned ...so now I don't lend anything to anyone but family
 
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I have a bit of a problem with #14. If the person specifies the type of appointment they’re going to, implicit in the statement seems to be an invitation to ask them for more information, especially if it’s a friend or someone with whom you tend to share details.

Otherwise just say “I have an appointment” and leave it at that. I mean, one could be intrusive even with that statement by asking where are they going or what kind of appointment, and I think that is rude if you don’t know the person that well. But if they share the kind or type of appointment then I think it’s showing care and concern to say something like “oh are you Ok?” or something along that line.
 
I'm of exactly the same mind as you Gary, I rarely borrow anything , and I can't even remember when the last tiime was.. but it's always returned in as good if not better conidition....

I grew up being told, never lend books, Music, Tools or money if you want to have them returned ...and unfortunately in my experience when I've lent any of those things, I've rarely had them returned ...so now I don't lend anything to anyone but family
@hollydolly I should have learned the lesson about not lending books or music long ago, but I didn't. Favorite vinyl albums are gone forever, as are favorite books. I need to remind a borrower of a book I loaned her before the pandemic started and try to get it back. But it's been so long, it almost seems petty - except that it was autographed by the author and an important book to me.
 
@hollydolly I should have learned the lesson about not lending books or music long ago, but I didn't. Favorite vinyl albums are gone forever, as are favorite books. I need to remind a borrower of a book I loaned her before the pandemic started and try to get it back. But it's been so long, it almost seems petty - except that it was autographed by the author and an important book to me.
Yep I agree with you.. it may seem Petty to the Borrower but it means a lot to you, and after all it's yours and if it's good enough to lend, it's bliddy good enough to give back, so I'm right behind you.. get onto that person today and remind them about the book
 
Although I can’t recall the exact wording, a friend had a large label that said “this book was stolen from Jane Doe. If you have it, please return to Jane.” I don’t know if she used the word ‘stolen’ but whatever it was got the message across.
 
I don't lend people money. I give it to them, and tell them they don't have to pay it back. There is no way I'm going to put pressure on someone in need. I don't lend money I need, either.

Only one person has asked to borrow a book from me - and it was special to me, and he did not return it. I am not opposed to lending books, but despite my house always being called "the library", no one ever asked to borrow a book. Now I have far fewer books, maybe only 100, but I have lots for my Kindle.

If someone steals from me, it had better not be my dog or I will come after them and never stop until I get him back. I have not been stolen from, ever. The only burglar who was ever in my house was discovered to be a squirrel by the police.
 
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I agree with all of those Jules except for one I have some trouble with no.
20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech.

I am very prone to glares so I have to keep my sunglasses on. I do take it off for a few seconds and apologise to the person though.
 
I agree with all of those Jules except for one I have some trouble with no.
20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. Moreso, eye contact is as important as your speech.

I am very prone to glares so I have to keep my sunglasses on. I do take it off for a few seconds and apologise to the person though.
This reminds me once of a situation I experienced years ago. We were outside of church, talking to some older friends. The lady friend was listening and I gave her advice about something. She reached in her purse and I thought she was going to get a pen and jot down what I had told her. Instead, she had fished for her sunglasses and put them on. I guess it was sunny that day (I rarely wore sunglasses then). But that shut me up pretty quickly! :p
 


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