Holly, your question is valid and I'll ask it honestly.
I was never quite comfortable, even as a boy and liked my female classmates for their pretty dresses.
Being a young man at the university I read all the books on transsexuality (the term transgender did not exist at that time), mostly in English since many German books on this topic didn't exist then and bought a lot of them. Older books I copied completely. I still own most of them and also buy new literature.
I developed my own hypothesis why I never did fit into this exact exclusive male or female scheme.
Now, at 66 years and in a conservative country, I am living my life as it should have been from the start.
I don't pretend to be a woman nor do I look like one, but came to peace finally since I don't fight against my female inner side anymore.
Now this was a confession. And all of this without a confessional.