The act of learning to be patient with others...

Fit4Life said:
Yes, so very true...
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I agree with you that looking on the bright side of life is much healthier. There’s a lot of negativity in the world and it appears to be contagious but so is positivity.

Interestingly I think our basic temperament is due to our nature with some influence from nurturing but we can definitely all learn to respond differently to things that irritate us. My sister and I have always been polar opposites.
 

bobcat said:
My wife passed away a year ago, but when she was going through chemo, I was driving us back home after one of her treatments, and as usual, she was as sick as a dog. The mountain road was curvy, so I was taking it easy to try and ease her discomfort. The driver behind me got frustrated, passed over a double line on a brief inside corner, swerved directly in front of me, and both the driver and passenger threw me the finger out the window.

I was secretly wishing I could run them down, jump out of the car, and pull them out through the window, but I gathered all the composure I could manage, and just chalked it up to ignorance, and tried to let it go. I realize that they couldn't have known her condition, but that's the point. You never really know what someone else is going through, so patience should be something that we all try to exercise because we never know what the conditions are in the lives of others.
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What a horrible experience on top of caring for you wife. I'm so sorry. I do swear there are some people who would never care. Makes me upset and sad.
 
Alizerine said:
I often drive a mile or two out of my way to avoid dangerous intersections. I would rather be safe than sorry.
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I don't do that but I sure will take a right turn instead of crossing over and going left on a busy street. So much easier to go and turn around or simply go around the block.

We have to do what is most comfortable for us.
 

Kir7 said:
We're all different. It is natural for a phlegmatic to be calm and poised. But a temperamental person to be patient in everything and everywhere, it is a real mastery of self-control.
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Yes Indeed. A good read is "the art of self-control by John Ward". I think if someone desire to make a change within they most certainly can succeed. It's all about the mindset and desires to "want to do better". There are so many books that is available as a start. This year my goal is to read 30 books. Last year was 25. It is amazing to me, the more I learn something new, is the more I realize I don't know much...lol
 
Remy said:
I don't do that but I sure will take a right turn instead of crossing over and going left on a busy street. So much easier to go and turn around or simply go around the block.

We have to do what is most comfortable for us.
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Yes indeed! It is what works best for each of us.
 
Teacher Terry said:
I agree with you that looking on the bright side of life is much healthier. There’s a lot of negativity in the world and it appears to be contagious but so is positivity.

Interestingly I think our basic temperament is due to our nature with some influence from nurturing but we can definitely all learn to respond differently to things that irritate us. My sister and I have always been polar opposites.
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So very true. I believe that there are more good in the world than bad. The bad is always magnified in a larger scale than the positives. Once we have that mindset, we are able to scale away some stress. Our temperament to add to what you have stated, is based on one's upbringing and surrounding to include the people we keep company with.
 
Fit4Life said:
I don't look my age. People usually think I'm 45ish.This is actually a current pic. I am 60 currently..61 this year--Yikes. I work out 6 days a week. Lift weights, cycle (bike), run/jog outside, golf, pickelball. Usually do 5-10 miles outside depending. Hmmmmm let me see..I'm up at 5A, to get ready for my international clients.
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patience ?? crikey you are making me feel exhausted !! wink wink wink!!
 
Fit4Life said:
Haven't heard the word "crikey" in donkey years...wink back to you..lol
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I’m Australian and we had a very famous Queensland wildlife warrior who was killed by a stingray
His famous saying was Crikey ….

We haven’t traveled to that part of Queensland as yet , altho we travel to our favourite part of QLD Your Guide to Coolangatta - Discover Queensland every winter for up to 5 weeks to escape some of the cold SA weather, in either May June or july ( I live in South Aust )
where we go in winter is about 2.200 km by road each way from SA

copied this cause I wasn’t sure of the year Steve was killed
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On 4 September 2006, Australian zookeeper, conservationist, and television programmer Steve Irwin was killed by a stingray while filming in the Great Barrier Reef. The stingray's barb pierced his chest, penetrating his thoracic wall and heart, causing massive trauma.

By the way I enjoy reading your posts
@Fit4Life
Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter - Australia Zoo!
 
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Steve’s quotes
Steve Irwin - Quotes - IMDb

Steve had the patience of a saint (y)
  • If something ever happens to me, people are gonna say 'we knew a croc would get him!'
  • Crikey, mate. You're far safer dealing with crocodiles and western diamondback rattlesnakes than the executives and the producers and all those sharks in the big MGM building.


  • I have no fear of losing my life - if I have to save a koala or a crocodile or a kangaroo or a snake, mate, I will save it.

  • Crocodiles. I've been catching them since I was nine. No problem.

  • I am a wildlife warrior, and I will fight, fight to the death for wildlife

  • On illegal poaching and animal testing: "These Hitlers use the camouflage of science to make money out of animals... so whenever they murder our animals and call it sustainable use, I'll fight it. Since when has killing a wild animal, eating it or wearing it, ever saved a species?"

  • I'll meet my match when I'm dead.

  • My job, my mission, the reason I've been put on this planet, is to save wildlife.

  • My life revolves around conservation. That is my work. That is my life, and I'll die doing that.

  • [last recorded words before his death] Don't worry, they usually don't swim backwards.
  • My dad once said to me, "if they're biting you, you know you've got 'em"..
 
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I can feel my mind getting fitter and fitter ? - is there a fitter in the room just to tune is up a little more - tighten the threads - yes this thread of course - I joined a local buddhist 'temple' for a year or two and watching those monks practicing mind fitness was incredulous, Members were scurrying around here and there organizing things for them but those monks just made gentle polite suggestions and things got done? They taught us to stop listening to the chattering of the monkeys in our heads. 50 in a hall and you could hear a pin drop or the occasional cough or barking of a dog in the distance. Making the mind fitter!!
 
Basically, I think I got started with patience by living in shared households with other people my own age — starting at age 20 when I shared a house with two other guys & sometimes our girlfriends. The trust & self-work required to pay the rent on time, get along with each other's various habits, tidy & clean the place, live by agreements and all that can help someone to develop patience. I lived in that sort of situation until I was 25.

And having read the OP... Well, now having lived for many years in a region that has a cold, often snowy winter, my patience isn't tried by slow drivers. It's tried more by drivers who will verge on my rear bumper when I'm doing the speed limit on our frequently twisty mountain-region highways... or when I'm driving cautiously & slower because there's snow or icy patches on said highways during winter. (You sometimes notice familiar cars halfway onto their side in a deep roadside ditch, I presume due to their been driven too fast, or having inadequate winter tires, or both.)

So, opportunities to exercise patience do continue to crop up.
 
Around here the vehicles in the ditch are more likely to be SUVs and all-wheel drive vehicles. Probably because they are the vehicles of choice for poor drivers.
 
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The person I have the hardest time being patient with is MYSELF. Getting older means getting slower, less coordinated, can't balance well, can hear as I used to, can't see as I used to, get sleepy sooner, etc. It is just so frustrating. I just am not aging well.
 
Kadee said:
I’m Australian and we had a very famous Queensland wildlife warrior who was killed by a stingray
His famous saying was Crikey ….

We haven’t traveled to that part of Queensland as yet , altho we travel to our favourite part of QLD Your Guide to Coolangatta - Discover Queensland every winter for up to 5 weeks to escape some of the cold SA weather, in either May June or july ( I live in South Aust )
where we go in winter is about 2.200 km by road each way from SA

copied this cause I wasn’t sure of the year Steve was killed
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On 4 September 2006, Australian zookeeper, conservationist, and television programmer Steve Irwin was killed by a stingray while filming in the Great Barrier Reef. The stingray's barb pierced his chest, penetrating his thoracic wall and heart, causing massive trauma.

By the way I enjoy reading your posts
@Fit4Life
Steve Irwin - The Crocodile Hunter - Australia Zoo!
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Yes, good read. I used to watch Steve. What a tragedy. His daughter is carrying on. Thanks for enjoying the post.
 
EmptyCup said:
I have been told I am very patient. It would have been difficult to have a career in education without it. Dealing with hundreds of students every year, plus parents, faculty, administrators and the public - it would have been impossible without patience.
The one thing I still have no patience for is willful ignorance/stupidity. When someone knows better, but prefers not to rise above that unfortunate habit. It leads to so many sad endings, but nothing can be done about it.
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You have chosen a career that wants you. Don't get discourage. Stupidly and ignorance will always show its ugly head. Just keep going and look up as you climb that ladder of life. The view will be must better when you get to the top...Be encourage.
 
Some people I deliver meals to seem to take forever getting to the door. Not too bad if the weather is good, but in summer heat, rain, or winter cold and wind in homes without sheltered entrances, it's an exercise in patience. I realize in some cases it can't be helped - these are elderly and/or handicapped people.
 
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debodun said:
Some people I deliver meals to seem to take forever getting to the door. Not too bad if the weather is good, but in summer heat, rain, or winter cold and wind in homes without sheltered entrances, it's an exercise in patience. I realize in some cases it can't be helped - these are elderly and/or handicapped people.
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How about calling them on the phone, 5 minutes before you arrive at their door? Work smarter not harder, right ? JimB.
 
Wes said:
The person I have the hardest time being patient with is MYSELF. Getting older means getting slower, less coordinated, can't balance well, can hear as I used to, can't see as I used to, get sleepy sooner, etc. It is just so frustrating. I just am not aging well.
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Understand. But give yourself some grace. Unless you are not able to get out for long walks, go to a gym, learn golf or pickle ball, then one will get frustrated as the body age. Perhaps now might be a good time to try something new for "you".
 
Fit4Life said:
Understand. But give yourself some grace. Unless you are not able to get out for long walks, go to a gym, learn golf or pickle ball, then one will get frustrated as the body age. Perhaps now might be a good time to try something new for "you".
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The frustration derives from me wanting to do one thing and the body wanting to do different. The body used to cooperate. Not so, any longer.
 
I learned at a very young age while in nursing school to be very patient with my patients. It was a lifestyle and now that I am retired, I find my patience is running very thin with the younger generation.

There are a myriad number of reasons for this, and I shall refrain from boring you to tears with them. Let's just say, I am working on it.
 

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