OneEyedDiva
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I just finished watching the double funeral for a dear cousin and his wife on Facebook. She had been in the hospital having suffered a myriad of ailments and he was home. I was told he was quite worried about her. He was found unresponsive at home by one of their children last Tuesday Jan 5th and died at the hospital. I was worried about how heartbroken his wife would be laying there in the hospital knowing she lost her beloved husband. Well...she died the next day! He and I had just reconnected by phone and had two wonderful conversations a couple of days before Christmas. When I spoke with her she outlined her ailments and told me how much pain she was in. I had sent him a picture of him and his sister together (she was like my big sister), my birth mother and me. He told me he had already enlarged the picture of him and his sister. We reminisced about them and my birth mother, whom he remembered fondly. Whenever my husband and I visited relatives in S.C. my cousin would take me to get flowers then to the cemetery to put them on my birth mother’s grave. I'm glad I got to tell him that I loved him (he returned the sentiment) and that I so appreciated him taking me around. He was the sweetest, kindest man.
About a year ago, I found out that one of my best friends had been unexpectedly hospitalized. I knew something was wrong when he didn’t return my Happy New Year voicemail. We had spoken around Christmas time and never went more than a couple of weeks without talking. He used to call me sometimes and say “Were you summoning me”, when I had indeed been thinking of calling that day. Thank goodness I had friended his son on FB, so we connected there and he kept me posted. My friend, who was really like a brother and I went to school together and worked together for decades. He died on Jan 29th. My heart broke that day. My son had to come after work to console me.
My friend and I had no qualms about talking about financial matters. He'd tell me things and sometimes ask my advice. I kept in touch with his son and helped him regarding what he needed to know about his father's accounts. There was a retirement account from work that he didn’t even know about. When he needed info, he knew I would help if I could or if not find out who he should contact. He sent me messages of love and appreciation. He had just moved into his father’s large house in September. I received word on November 9th that his son had been found dead at home, most likely a heart attack or stroke! I still can’t wrap my brain around that!
I lost a few online friends. One graduated with me and had started keeping in touch by phone. The other was one of my first and favorite online friends for 13 years. My son lost a few friends, three of whom were neighbors and two who were also children of my friends. My DIL lost a few friends, one of whom was pregnant. She was murdered by her BF and managed to stay alive just long enough to deliver her baby. She was related to my husband's family as well. In addition, my brother in law died recently, the latter two deaths causing much grief for my husband's close knit family especially since that family experienced several losses as well. I want to say more about some of them but this has gotten long so I’ll add to the story later on in the thread.
About a year ago, I found out that one of my best friends had been unexpectedly hospitalized. I knew something was wrong when he didn’t return my Happy New Year voicemail. We had spoken around Christmas time and never went more than a couple of weeks without talking. He used to call me sometimes and say “Were you summoning me”, when I had indeed been thinking of calling that day. Thank goodness I had friended his son on FB, so we connected there and he kept me posted. My friend, who was really like a brother and I went to school together and worked together for decades. He died on Jan 29th. My heart broke that day. My son had to come after work to console me.
My friend and I had no qualms about talking about financial matters. He'd tell me things and sometimes ask my advice. I kept in touch with his son and helped him regarding what he needed to know about his father's accounts. There was a retirement account from work that he didn’t even know about. When he needed info, he knew I would help if I could or if not find out who he should contact. He sent me messages of love and appreciation. He had just moved into his father’s large house in September. I received word on November 9th that his son had been found dead at home, most likely a heart attack or stroke! I still can’t wrap my brain around that!
I lost a few online friends. One graduated with me and had started keeping in touch by phone. The other was one of my first and favorite online friends for 13 years. My son lost a few friends, three of whom were neighbors and two who were also children of my friends. My DIL lost a few friends, one of whom was pregnant. She was murdered by her BF and managed to stay alive just long enough to deliver her baby. She was related to my husband's family as well. In addition, my brother in law died recently, the latter two deaths causing much grief for my husband's close knit family especially since that family experienced several losses as well. I want to say more about some of them but this has gotten long so I’ll add to the story later on in the thread.
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