The Real Estate Version Of An Ambulance Chasing Lawyer

Lee

Lee

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Location
Chatham, Ontario
Two weeks ago I was a caregiver, this week I am a widow. The thing that makes me so angry is how some people react when they hear your hubby was taken to the hospital.

















Two weeks ago I was a caregiver and this week I am a widow. Thankfully hubby went peacefully but I was churning up with anger at one particular person.. Such absolute gall makes you lose faith in some members of the human race.

The ambulance had been by two days in a row, the second time he was not coming home. An acquaintance called me and asked about Paul being in the hospital. How did you know I asked her? Yvonne the real estate agent told her was the reply. How does Yvonne know I asked. Yvonne knows everything I was told.

I would not have been quite so angry had Yvonne called me direct rather than going through someone else. Yvonne smells a possible listing. Could she not wait till after he passed and sent a sympathy card or made a phone call......I'm waiting to hear from you but after telling the acquaintance what I thought I doubt I will hear from Yvonne now.

Got that off my chest, feels good, nah, not good but better now after this rant.

Now a question???? Should I have left hubby's wedding ring on. I did not. Something just tells me he would not go into the hereafter with it, you hear of theft all the time.
 

Lee said:
Now a question???? Should I have left hubby's wedding ring on. I did not. Something just tells me he would not go into the hereafter with it, you hear of theft all the time.
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I'd wager 99% of morticians or personell wouldn't think of robbing the dead. Then there's those who don't care.

Reminds me of a young man was killed in an auto accident, another person came, found him dead, took his wallet.

The mother was not upset at the money, but her child was an organ donor, there's 10 people who could have used his organs to live, see and breathe.
 

When money is involved, manners & tact often take a back seat.
I have a disabled friend (Cerebral Palsy) in a wheelchair. She was considering a move out of state to Colorado. She told me about her 2 other friends - a married couple who live in Colorado & travel often in their motor home. They offered to take my friend with them on one of their trips & they would visit Colorado & help her find a house there. She's always telling me how nice they are.
I told my friend to be careful & don't let them pressure you to buy a house or sell your condo; they have a friend who's a real estate agent & they might be nice to you because they want to split the profit - both on the sale of your condo and the purchase of your house in Colorado.

Well, the real estate agent offered to do a quick sale on her condo by listing it at $30,000.00 less than it was worth. When I showed my friend what her condo was really worth, she changed her mind & told her friends, "I better think about this first."
Her "friends" got very angry with her & the wife said, "Listen, I put a lot of work & time into this & we took you with us on our trip."

I didn't have to say, "I told you so." My friend said it for me.
 
(((Lee)))
Sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. Condolences.

PS, after my mom died I got a call from her neighbor wanting to buy her apartment. Disgusting.
 
Oh Lee! I know what you are going through and my heart goes out to you!

The last thing you need to deal with while you're going through this deep grief
is the horridness and greed of these ignorant people. I'm so sorry!
People were like that when my husband died too.
Please, please , please write your concerns on this forum so we can possibly
help you through this.
 
So sorry for your loss. This is always a tough time and some people with no conscience and sense of respect always just think of themselves.
Wedding ring, no reason it leave it on. That is for your memory. Actually whatever you decided to do is the right thing for YOU.
 
Gaer said:
Oh Lee! I know what you are going through and my heart goes out to you!

The last thing you need to deal with while you're going through this deep grief
is the horridness and greed of these ignorant people. I'm so sorry!
People were like that when my husband died too.
Please, please , please write your concerns on this forum so we can possibly
help you through this.
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Gaer, while difficult, it is a sense of relief as the last few months have been not too good. Anyone who has gone through watching a loved one slip away, fight for another day, rally, and then finally be defeated knows that when they are finally at peace you are too.

my sense of humour shall perhaps give you all a small smile here. Coming home from making the arrangements and knowing I had to carry on with daily duties I knew that changing the litter box had to be done.....this new litter is called Fresh Start.
 
My condolences, Lee. Even when you know things aren’t good, it doesn’t make it any easier.

Definitely, imo, you made the right decision with the ring for you. My mother took my stepfather’s wedding ring and another one and had them made into a new ring for herself.
 
Lee said:
Gaer, while difficult, it is a sense of relief as the last few months have been not too good. Anyone who has gone through watching a loved one slip away, fight for another day, rally, and then finally be defeated knows that when they are finally at peace you are too.

my sense of humour shall perhaps give you all a small smile here. Coming home from making the arrangements and knowing I had to carry on with daily duties I knew that changing the litter box had to be done.....this new litter is called Fresh Start.
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You are handling this well. I remember waking in the morning and wondering
why I have to get up at all, why I have to brush my teeth or take a shower?
I couldn't cook. Couldn't eat. I got SO SKINNY!

He is in no more pain. It IS time for YOU to have YOUR "fresh start". (synchrony)
Sometimes it will hurt like hell! We are all here to help you through
the bad times! Let us help you, OK? Bless your heart!
 
Lee, what a horrible experience to have to go through, at such a difficult time. Sad to say, there are
vultures everywhere.

Please accept my heartfelt condolences 🤗
 
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband as well. The only advice I can give is to take it one day at a time. Do not make any decisions until you feel ready. Do not let anyone take advantage of you, they will try. Do not worry about what others think you should do. Take your time to grief, it may take time to gain your footing, it did for me.
 
So sorry, Lee. I kept DH's wedding ring. He was cremated, and I put it in his urn. When I die, my ashes and wedding ring will join him in the same urn.
 
Condolences and prayers for you, Lee.

Yes, remove his wedding ring and keep it with you forever. Will remind you of the good times.

You do not need the Yvonne's in your life, so small loss there.

Take care of the kitty, your faithful companion.
 
Disgustedman said:
I'd wager 99% of morticians or personell wouldn't think of robbing the dead. Then there's those who don't care.

Reminds me of a young man was killed in an auto accident, another person came, found him dead, took his wallet.

The mother was not upset at the money, but her child was an organ donor, there's 10 people who could have used his organs to live, see and breathe.
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It's hard to prove when the theft was done. My grandfather left the house in an ambulance with a 1-carat diamond ring on his finger. He hadn't had it off in years and it would have taken a real effort to get it off. Nobody thought about taking it off as he was still alive when he left. The funeral home claimed it was not on his hand when he finally was sent there from the morgue. Who took it? Who knew. Complaints were filed with the ambulance service and the hospital, but as I said earlier, no way to prove who did it. The hospital said it wasn't on his hand when he arrived, but I'm sure they'd say that anyway. I doubt it was the funeral home; they were honorable people, well-respected in the community and friends of the family.
 
I'm sorry for the loss of your husband, Lee. I understand you being relieved at his passing after watching him suffer, but even when death is expected, you don't grieve any less. You know we're here for you.

As for Yvonne, she's been anticipating this, just waiting in the wings, ready to pounce. She's an opportunist who has no decency. No matter what you said about Yvonne to the acquaintance, I wouldn't be surprised if she contacted you.

I kept my husband's wedding ring. He wore it every day. I'm sure he would have wanted me to keep it. In fact, I'll never part with it.

Bella ✌️
 
Condolences on the loss of your husband Lee. As Blessed said ... "take it one day at a time". You'll find yourself in time. My mother removed my father's wedding ring when he passed so yes, I think you did the right thing there. It means more to you than anyone else, not in value but in sentimentality.
 

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