Thoughts On Separate Vacations

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Dave03

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How do you feel about them? Is it weird for you and your spouse to go to different vacation destinations?

In our younger years, we went on more family vacations than I can remember. Then, after the kids were grown and gone off to live their own lives, we went on a few vacations together, just the two of us.

Don't get me wrong, we have a good time together, and enjoy one another's company.

But we soon discovered that without the kids as the common denominator, we have very different definitions of what a vacation actually is.

She wants to sit by the pool and drink fruity drinks and peruse magazines, and go to ceramic shops and look at plates. I'd rather go race go-carts and see historical sites in the area.

So, about 3-4 years ago, we decided there's nothing wrong with pursuing your interests on your own.

For instance, this year, she's going to a psychic convention. She likes that stuff and if it makes her happy, I'm glad to pay for her tickets and her hotel and give her a wad of money to take with her.

My vacation is on hold until I get my new knee, but I'm thinking about road tripping to see the USS Constitution.


Anyway, what are your thoughts on this topic?
 

We vacation together, but sometimes choose to go our own way while on that vacation.

Using your example, we would go together. While DH was at a convention, I'd be off exploring the area, geocaching, etc.
Then we meet up for dinner and what not in the evening.

PS... the Constitution is pretty cool, as is so much in Boston!
 
Not a problem at all. My parents took separate vacations due to their work schedules and different interests. Sometimes we went as a family, but we still travelled a lot. My ex didn't like going traveling so I went on vacations by myself.
 

Dave03 said:
How do you feel about them? Is it weird for you and your spouse to go to different vacation destinations?

In our younger years, we went on more family vacations than I can remember. Then, after the kids were grown and gone off to live their own lives, we went on a few vacations together, just the two of us.

Don't get me wrong, we have a good time together, and enjoy one another's company.

But we soon discovered that without the kids as the common denominator, we have very different definitions of what a vacation actually is.

She wants to sit by the pool and drink fruity drinks and peruse magazines, and go to ceramic shops and look at plates. I'd rather go race go-carts and see historical sites in the area.

So, about 3-4 years ago, we decided there's nothing wrong with pursuing your interests on your own.

For instance, this year, she's going to a psychic convention. She likes that stuff and if it makes her happy, I'm glad to pay for her tickets and her hotel and give her a wad of money to take with her.

My vacation is on hold until I get my new knee, but I'm thinking about road tripping to see the USS Constitution.


Anyway, what are your thoughts on this topic?
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I think it's a good idea. You both get to have the holiday you enjoy. Hope your knee op goes well (y)
 
Dave03 said:
How do you feel about them? Is it weird for you and your spouse to go to different vacation destinations?

In our younger years, we went on more family vacations than I can remember. Then, after the kids were grown and gone off to live their own lives, we went on a few vacations together, just the two of us.

Don't get me wrong, we have a good time together, and enjoy one another's company.

But we soon discovered that without the kids as the common denominator, we have very different definitions of what a vacation actually is.

She wants to sit by the pool and drink fruity drinks and peruse magazines, and go to ceramic shops and look at plates. I'd rather go race go-carts and see historical sites in the area.

So, about 3-4 years ago, we decided there's nothing wrong with pursuing your interests on your own.

For instance, this year, she's going to a psychic convention. She likes that stuff and if it makes her happy, I'm glad to pay for her tickets and her hotel and give her a wad of money to take with her.

My vacation is on hold until I get my new knee, but I'm thinking about road tripping to see the USS Constitution.


Anyway, what are your thoughts on this topic?
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Season 5 , episode 25 of King of Queens the separate experiment did not work out for Doug and Carrie .
 
BF takes vacations separate from me and I have no problem with that. We enjoy different types of things and places but we still love each other at the end of the day and that is what counts most.
 
My husband and I took many vacations together, but I also took solo vacations. He did too but it was mostly to visit his family out of state. We visited and stayed with my family in South Carolina a few times and would pop in to see his relatives in a small S.C. town that seemed to be filled with his family members. One time, we also stayed with one of his daughters at her timeshare in the Poconos.

We also took vacations at our oceanfront timeshare in Atlantic City. I love being at the ocean so I wound up taking several solo vacations as well when he couldn't get away or I just needed some me time. I believe couples should spend time away from each other every now and then (if it doesn't cause problems). It gives them time to de-stress (if necessary), miss each other and experience things they can come back and share with one another.
 
We vacation together, but when hubby was working I just needed to have a change of scenery and took a Caribbean cruise by myself. I still had a blast. We are taking vacation in late March and then he will begin his job search in earnest. He won't have much vacation time if he lands a job so I may go away by myself again.
 
My thoughts are that each couple should do what works for them

We have gone on big holidays together - sometimes done different things within the holiday, when there is a choice of 2 excursions, for example

But also some smaller holidays that one or other of us went on for different reasons.
 
Dave03 said:
How do you feel about them? Is it weird for you and your spouse to go to different vacation destinations?

In our younger years, we went on more family vacations than I can remember. Then, after the kids were grown and gone off to live their own lives, we went on a few vacations together, just the two of us.

Don't get me wrong, we have a good time together, and enjoy one another's company.

But we soon discovered that without the kids as the common denominator, we have very different definitions of what a vacation actually is.

She wants to sit by the pool and drink fruity drinks and peruse magazines, and go to ceramic shops and look at plates. I'd rather go race go-carts and see historical sites in the area.

So, about 3-4 years ago, we decided there's nothing wrong with pursuing your interests on your own.

For instance, this year, she's going to a psychic convention. She likes that stuff and if it makes her happy, I'm glad to pay for her tickets and her hotel and give her a wad of money to take with her.

My vacation is on hold until I get my new knee, but I'm thinking about road tripping to see the USS Constitution.


Anyway, what are your thoughts on this topic?
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Seperate vacations are a good idea. As our cat Lilou was still alive, my wife and I had them for years.

If the interests are such different, it makes sense also.
 
As others have said, whatever works for you. We are a couple who have enjoyed one another's company all life long. In the early years of our marriage we were mad keen dancers, as in, Latin & Ballroom. My guess is that all the training and rehearsing that we did together acted as a bond. Certainly last August, when my wife had heart surgery, and the surgeon was quite clear about what was involved, it emphasised the "couple" that we are.
Mercifully, my lady's recovery continues and hopefully, given time, we can take a cruise and enjoy the ship's ballroom floor once more. But if that's not to be, just to have her by my side is more than enough.
 

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