Too thin-skinned, I guess

Good post Debby!!

Whilst I don't feel the need to have a mountain of ''friends''..I have a few people that I call friends..

Sometimes I can go into a bar..and feel an immediate connection with someone..

Don't go looking for ''friends''..they will find you..

And remember..''Sometimes it is better to be alone, than badly accompanied''
 

I'm pretty "tough skinned" and have taught my wife how to be somewhat that way. She isn't as "tough" as I am, but she can be "tough". I got my "toughness" partly from the military/Navy and just life. Let's put it this way, I wasn't "taken care of/looked after" nearly as much as my wife was in her life. We have no family that live anywhere near us that's fine with us. My wife has two sisters in So Calif. and there always seems to be problems happening with the one. We are both GLAD we don't live there anymore!

However, when it comes to watching a "teary-eye" type movie, we both can become "teary-eyed". The old "toughness" goes out the door!
 
ClassicRockr said:
I'm pretty "tough skinned" and have taught my wife how to be somewhat that way. She isn't as "tough" as I am, but she can be "tough". I got my "toughness" partly from the military/Navy and just life. Let's put it this way, I wasn't "taken care of/looked after" nearly as much as my wife was in her life. We have no family that live anywhere near us that's fine with us. My wife has two sisters in So Calif. and there always seems to be problems happening with the one. We are both GLAD we don't live there anymore!

However, when it comes to watching a "teary-eye" type movie, we both can become "teary-eyed". The old "toughness" goes out the door!
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Wow..good post..CR..I was a sniper in the Royal Marines for 20 years..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N-wIvsZBFhQ
 

Twixie said:
Good post Debby!!

Whilst I don't feel the need to have a mountain of ''friends''..I have a few people that I call friends..

Sometimes I can go into a bar..and feel an immediate connection with someone..

Don't go looking for ''friends''..they will find you..

And remember..''Sometimes it is better to be alone, than badly accompanied''
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Agree 100% on all points Twixie.
 
Funny that this thread generated more responses now...just last night another brother posted on FB that he's been invited to visit the brother in Washington next summer. I still haven't heard a word from the Washington brother...

And just a week ago I got a friend request from my niece...Washington brother's DD. I accepted, of course, she's a sweetheart.

Oh...eight brothers, five sisters
 
One thing that I have learned from life, don't expect much from anyone, not even family, if so inclinde take what is being offered. Even though at times I have felt let down, at least not being constantly hurt.
 
Fern said:
One thing that I have learned from life, don't expect much from anyone, not even family, if so inclinde take what is being offered. Even though at times I have felt let down, at least not being constantly hurt.
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I try to follow that philosophy as well. That way when people follow through or think of you or whatever, it's a bonus and if they don't...oh well, and life goes on. You're less likely to waste time stressing about the slight.
 
Looks like this conversational thread stopped last month. So I'm not sure if anyone wants to share their experience with aging and family ties or aging and friendships. I hope that GeorgiaXplant has found solace in his own company, which from the sounds of it, he's quite a sensitive person. I too, am sensitive when it comes to broken promises. So, do I take a person at their word, or has a person's word become less meaningful in this day and age?
 
Hi, Patra. I'm a SHE! LOL

Still haven't heard from the brother(s) in question. That's the breaks, I guess. I do hear from their kids, though, and am friends with them on FB. Guess my older brother...the one in Washington state...is all wrapped up in his new marriage/life. The other brother? Who knows? Life's too short to get all bent about it!
 
I am owned by a cat also. She is my closest confidant and she never berates me no matter how grouchy I get. Before I got her, I was fortunate enough to be loved by a gorgeous black cat with green eyes for 17 years. He helped me through my adjustment to life in the civilian world and my early retirement years. (been retired since 1997).
 
Just seems to me that personal vistits by family and friends have been replaced by Facebook visits to some extent. Sad!


Georgia, why not just visit family yourself and post lots and lots of pictures on Facebook.....that'll show him.
 
I'd love to go up there and visit, but it's 1200 miles away:( so probably not going to happen. And Falcon? Yes. I always have my SF family right here at my fingertips:)
 
Glad you brought this up, GeorgiaXplant. After working and being too busy to even pursue friendships or stay involved with family, seems like it is much harder and almost futile sometimes to be included. Initially it really bugged me. Now it doesn't. I simply don't want them in my world most of the time and I don't want to be penciled in to accomodate them or to serve some useful purpose. I've already served my time being useful. I want to play, go outside, discover, enjoy. Most do not find these things interesting. That's ok because I have discovered and still discovering all kinds of hobbies, interests; I start them and stop them when I want. I do not like being stood up, put on the back burner, or sitting around gathering dust. I like my life very much and I have found that usually these people simply do not fit in MY world and cannot come in. My husband and I do many things together because we like each other's company; however, we also have separate interests. It would be great to be an included member somewhere, but I just am not. Maybe they can pick up my indifference; maybe I just don't appeal to most people. Oh well. I still just love waking up everyday and finding something else absolutely wonderful to get into, for awhile, by myself.
 
crochet lady said:
Glad you brought this up, GeorgiaXplant. After working and being too busy to even pursue friendships or stay involved with family, seems like it is much harder and almost futile sometimes to be included. Initially it really bugged me. Now it doesn't. I simply don't want them in my world most of the time and I don't want to be penciled in to accomodate them or to serve some useful purpose. I've already served my time being useful. I want to play, go outside, discover, enjoy. Most do not find these things interesting. That's ok because I have discovered and still discovering all kinds of hobbies, interests; I start them and stop them when I want. I do not like being stood up, put on the back burner, or sitting around gathering dust. I like my life very much and I have found that usually these people simply do not fit in MY world and cannot come in. My husband and I do many things together because we like each other's company; however, we also have separate interests. It would be great to be an included member somewhere, but I just am not. Maybe they can pick up my indifference; maybe I just don't appeal to most people. Oh well. I still just love waking up everyday and finding something else absolutely wonderful to get into, for awhile, by myself.
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I am a little slow, so I just now realized that crochet is very close to crotchety.:)
 
Okay I am a little late getting around to reading these post. I don't get to visit home often either. Since we are 70-85 we visit quite often on the phone and neices and nephews on Facebook. As far as friends I have quite a few I feel close to but none who seem to have time in their lives for me. I am making my new mantra; "Don't expect much from people, Make no demands on them" I read somewhere on one of these post that people who are supposed to be in your life will be drawn to you. I hear over and over from women my age," how they wish they had another woman or couple to pal around with" and then you suggest going out somewhere and they don't have the time, and they never respond back. I used to invite people for meals and they loved coming over to eat but when I figured out they weren't going to take the time to ricipocate I don't do that anymore.
 
Georgia xp, I am sorry that happened. I understand how you feel. Have you ever heard of Mega Bus? How far do you live from your relatives? MegaBuses are inexpensive and are everywhere. When I give up driving, I will probably go this way. It will cost between $1.00 and $12.00. It will take longer than driving or flying, but you can read your IPad or whatever. If you want to know more just type in mega bus on computer.
 

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