Tough time just trying to get just 2 people together for a lunch date

debodun

debodun

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At least once a year, I like to reunite with three of the "girls" from where I used to work. One has moved away, so she can't come any longer. I sent emails to the other two and listed the days I would be available in August. One of them, now retired herself, answered and said her son is coming home for the month of August before moving overseas after Labor Day (Sept. 3rd) and she wants to spend every available moment with him. Then I wrote to them that it didn't have to be August - we could set a date in September. Now the other one, who is still working, can't do that as she will be very involved for several weeks with a work/study seminar, then going on a much-needed vacation after that for the last week in September. Now I suggested October, but have not heard anything back yet. Is this unbelievable or what? It's like trying to schedule a doctor's appointment.
 

It's just a lunch, not a formal time-consuming function.

When people really want to do something/spend time together, they MAKE the time.

Their excuses are lame. Let it go. To continue to contact them makes you look desperate and needy.
 
I agree with Falcon Deb, they may just have been trying to be polite. I wouldn't keep contacting them, if they really wanted to get together, they know you're available and would likely call you. Did you get together with both of them last year?
 
Well, I though I had things settled. Both answered and said we could do August 15th or 16th. So I chose the 15th and sent them a email to say which day. Now one wants to change to the 16th.
 
Changing to the 16th shouldn't be too much of a problem for you Deb, is it? Unless you have other business on that day, I'd just go out with them and enjoy!
 
SeaBreeze said:
Changing to the 16th shouldn't be too much of a problem for you Deb, is it? Unless you have other business on that day, I'd just go out with them and enjoy!
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Sounds like a plan! If that does not work out then face the fact that they do not want to get together with you and stop forcing the issue. For years after our hospital closed and we were laid off, three of us would meet EVERY Jan. 1st for Mexican food and catch up with each other. It was a tradition and then one friend died and the other 2 of us just did not see the point of meeting. She was the glue that held the 3 of us together and it was not important enough to the 2 of us to keep it up. We are friends but not close as we both realized that Linda kept us together and without her we did not feel the same. No problem for us.
 
Time to move on like they have. Old friends ,we all have them but we don't see them anymore.
 

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