Trade-off moving away vs being near family

[Teacher Terry]

It really hits when I see pictures of her with my grandkids (4.5 year old and 5 month old baby) knowing that I’m not able to build that same kind of relationship with them. Thank goodness for video chat, and I do talk on the phone with the older one several times a week, plus my daughter nearly daily.

I’ve tried to get them to move to my area where they could easily afford to buy a nice big house (hubby works at home so could relocate) but they seem stuck on inaction. They rent a duplex from his mom who charges them a fraction of what she could get on the open market… I say she’s subsidizing their rent as a control to keep them there, but I keep that thought to myself. She is a rather controlling person, but that’s neither here nor there.

Besides cost of living location is very important to many people. So in order for them to make the move, they would have to like the weather, political atmosphere, and the people in general. There may be more preventing them from moving than the cheap rent that they’re getting. I’m just giving different perspective for thought.

 

[OldOld]

Besides cost of living location is very important to many people. So in order for them to make the move, they would have to like the weather, political atmosphere, and the people in general. There may be more preventing them from moving than the cheap rent that they’re getting. I’m just giving different perspective for thought.

Nope. If someone can not afford to live in the current location, and has to move to a cheaper location far way, this is what the person has to do regardless of the weather, political atmosphere, and the people. It's simply a matter of survival.

 

[StarSong]

My daughter’s mother in law said to me that my move was a trade-off. She didn’t elaborate but I’m guessing she meant I was trading time with new grandbaby and family for buying a home.

It really hits when I see pictures of her with my grandkids (4.5 year old and 5 month old baby) knowing that I’m not able to build that same kind of relationship with them. Thank goodness for video chat, and I do talk on the phone with the older one several times a week, plus my daughter nearly daily.

I’ve tried to get them to move to my area where they could easily afford to buy a nice big house (hubby works at home so could relocate) but they seem stuck on inaction. They rent a duplex from his mom who charges them a fraction of what she could get on the open market… I say she’s subsidizing their rent as a control to keep them there, but I keep that thought to myself.

Both of these situations are trade-offs.

Life is full of trade-offs. For instance, I'd love to again live a mile or so from the beach but the trade-off would be living further from my kids/grands and having a more expensive home, so I don't.

Why does it rankle with you that your daughter's MIL stated an obvious truth? You traded off greater financial security for in-person time with your DD and her family. Nothing to be ashamed of...