Un-Friending People is Difficult

Karen99 said:
I just want to clarify that my decision not to use FB is just a choice. I didn't say that to offend anyone cause quite honestly I totally get that some people love it for their own personal reasons. I'm very fine with that as I do have family and friends who use it. I get requests and say no..but it's never been a point of contention or trouble between me and anyone I care about. I enjoy texting, phone calls, cards, etc. I only text at home when I'm relaxing :)

This is my first experience with a forum and I'm enjoying various aspects of it. I am very much a live and let live kind of person. I am able to see and understand another's pov without it being any threat to my own. Anyway, I just wanted to say that.

:peace:
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Don't even give it a second thought, Karen99. I don't see where you or anyone offended anyone. People who look for something to argue about will easily find it.

As I understand it, this thread is about Unfriending (on FB and elsewhere) – not about the general use of FB or asking for advice about how they can deal with their dislike of FB (if that is even the case).

Anyway, I know of people who, on the rare occasions when they are not actually on FB, they’re talking about how many people are on their FB friend’s lists and being unfriended and who they unfriended and who they are thinking of unfriending and why. :rolleyes:
 

applecruncher said:
Don't even give it a second thought, Karen99. I don't see where you or anyone offended anyone. People who look for something to argue about will easily find it.

As I understand it, this thread is about Unfriending (on FB and elsewhere) – not about the general use of FB or asking for advice about how they can deal with their dislike of FB (if that is even the case).

Anyway, I know of people who, on the rare occasions when they are not actually on FB, they’re talking about how many people are on their FB friend’s lists and being unfriended and who they unfriended and who they are thinking of unfriending and why. :rolleyes:
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Agreed!!
 
I was unfriended by a former co-worker. Not sure why. And I recently unfriended by boss. When I became facebook friends with her a number of years ago, she wasn't my boss. And I've just had it with her anyway. It just seemed unprofessional to have your boss as a facebook friend.
 

I did briefly venture on FaceBook to try to crowd fund my dogs knee surgery. Didn't work out so well but three positive things

I got to tell my estranged kid that I'm still her mother and she can't do a frickin' thing about it, have a nice life...

I saw my cousin turned into Jabba the Hut with a beard

Something happy, I looked up a Jr High crush and got to see the handsome man he became
 
Like others, I don't usually unfriend anyone, I just stop following them. I have no idea whether the "unfriended" gets some sort of notification that they have been dropped and I don't want to hurt their feelings.

I've had to drop a cousin and a couple of friends who constantly post the warning-warning-warning type of things without ever checking to see if it really happened, a few that do the "immediately pass this on to 10 of your friends......someone didn't and a nuclear bomb dropped on their house the next day" (I don't need this, I really don't need this) and a couple who perpetually "vaguebook" (a post consisting of nothing but something like "oh, well, maybe tomorrow will be better" or "sometimes it just doesn't seem worth it" or "well, I won't do THAT again..." or "I'm just soooo disappointed", which is essentially begging everyone to immediately drop what they are doing and start posting "OH, NO, WHAT IS WRONG????" and beg for an explanation. I know the difference between someone who's depressed and the constant attention-seeker.
 
For crying out loud... who's offended? I'm not... I just posted about how I use FB... If others choose not to ..... I don't care... to each his/her own.
 
I'm not offended by people who choose not to use it. I do get annoyed with people who bash it without ever having used it. My sister is one of those. All she hears is the negative stuff from people with idiotic friends so she decides it's all like that.

One of my brothers won't use it either. On a trip to Michigan for xmas one year we had just returned from living in Uganda in Oct, went to Australia in Nov, home of course, then the US. When my brother said those who use FB need to get a life, I quickly shut him up by telling him I'm been on 4 continents in the last 3 months. I guess you can have a life and be on FB. :playful:

Then there are the ones that say if they want to talk to someone they just pick up the phone. Or email. Uh huh. Fine. You do that. I have to make an extra effort to email this sister and brother to share photos etc and to keep in touch.
 
I've been on FB for a number of years and enjoy it, most of the time. I've never unfriended anyone one that I can recall. There are a few that I could unfriend, but probably won't. The ones that send pictures of piles of money and tell me that to pass it on, I will receive a big payoff...yeah...sure.

It is a good way to keep in touch with my distant family and friends. I never friend anyone I don't know.
 
Pappy said:
I've been on FB for a number of years and enjoy it, most of the time. I've never unfriended anyone one that I can recall. There are a few that I could unfriend, but probably won't. The ones that send pictures of piles of money and tell me that to pass it on, I will receive a big payoff...yeah...sure.

It is a good way to keep in touch with my distant family and friends. I never friend anyone I don't know.
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I simply scroll past those kinds of posts, and I've also learned to check the facts before sharing certain political/health/social types of posts. I don't friend anyone I don't know or haven't known online for at least several years (expats/boomers/photographers). It is the ideal way for me to keep in touch with many.
 
jujube, I don't think anyone gets a notification when you unfriend them. When my former co-worker unfriended me, I checked my friend list (I don't have that many) when I noticed no posts from her and she was gone. I didn't do it so she must have.
 
I heard something on a talk show earlier this week about a company that – for a fee (didn’t catch the amount) – will call your bf/gf/friend and terminate the relationship. Kind of a paid “unfriending”. If the person doesn’t answer they leave a voice mail. Actually it works better via voice mail.

“Hello, I’m calling on behalf of ______, I’m sorry to inform you that s/he feels the relationship is no longer working for him/her and that you both need to move on. _______ wishes you nothing but good things” etc. etc.

:rolleyes: :lofl:
 
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