Uninvited for Thanksgiving
- Thread starter debodun
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bowmore
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Irwin, I am sorry for your situation. I was caregiver to my wife for 12 years. You need respite.
terry123
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- Houston, Tx.
So she will have a caregiver daily with her. Those are pretty costly. My friend was in assisted living but did not need that kind of daily care. My friend was able to do daily care for herself but the facility provided laundry, weekly cleaning and meals in the dining room. I would go and eat lunch with her. Daily caregiving was not included in the monthly cost.
Remy
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- California, USA
@Irwin Care giving is very, very hard and it takes it's health toll, both physically and mentally, on the one giving the care. And it sounds like you have been doing it all 24/7. This is probably the best solution. Even with Covid, you should be able to visit often. And then you can enjoy your time together without the burden of everything on you.
Remy
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Deb, it doesn't sound like you with uninvited, your aunt just can't have the gathering anymore or at least at this time. If you want to be with other's, I hope you have an alternate.
Ruth n Jersey
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We have been going to my daughters for the last few years but I mentioned in August that I would like to have it this year.
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday and I plan early and freeze many items way before hand.
Then the fall down the stairs ended all that.
Even if it is better a week before the holiday I will feel stressed trying to get everything done. So I canceled. Everyone understood but I was really looking forward to it this year,
I also told my daughter we would be staying home. She is 5 hours away and sometimes my legs hurt being in the car that long. I didn't want to take the chance,
Hopefully we will see them at Christmas at their house and maybe I'll do New Years,
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday and I plan early and freeze many items way before hand.
Then the fall down the stairs ended all that.
Even if it is better a week before the holiday I will feel stressed trying to get everything done. So I canceled. Everyone understood but I was really looking forward to it this year,
I also told my daughter we would be staying home. She is 5 hours away and sometimes my legs hurt being in the car that long. I didn't want to take the chance,
Hopefully we will see them at Christmas at their house and maybe I'll do New Years,
HEB (grocery store in Texas) will have a HUGE Thanksgiving Dinner for the needy people. They hold these events in many parts of Texas. H-E-B Grocery Company, LP is an American privately held supermarket chain based in San Antonio, Texas, with more than 340 stores throughout the U.S. state of Texas.
feywon
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Holidays 'feel different' because of complex psycho-social programing during our early years. Christmas and Easter have layers associated with religious traditions even tho for many they more 'secular' holidays.(Judging by some of my Jewish friends over the years the same is true of their holidays that started as religious traditions.I have much to be thankful for and would rather spend a quiet day at home than be the odd duck at someone else’s family gathering
The thing that I’ve never been able to understand is why holidays have a different feel to them than other days of the year.
Thanksgiving crosses religious lines somewhat, and its beginngs are another American history rewrite, but the putting the focus on what we are grateful for is one that can be helpful and even healing for some.
debodun
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No. They've even suspended the after-service fellowship luncheon.
debodun
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- way upstate in New York, USA
As to those who asked if my mom wrote down her recipe for cornbread stuffing - not that I've discovered.
GeorgiaXplant
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- Georgia
@debodun This is a kind of off-the-wall suggestion, but if you'll be moved in before Thanksgiving, could you invite your family to your new house for Thanksgiving dinner?
For one thing, it would provide impetus for you to get things put away. For another, they could all see your splendid new home.
Hey...only consider it if your new home has a dishwasher
For one thing, it would provide impetus for you to get things put away. For another, they could all see your splendid new home.
Hey...only consider it if your new home has a dishwasher
They are the times, when our "heart-strings" can be the most sensitive.....they can be either pulled on, or neglected.
feywon
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- Rural North Central NM
For many years it's just been my daughter and i for holidays except for a few times son Owen and his family visited or son Seth did, and once or twice i got to have them ALL together for one. But we still do holiday dinners--just a little scaled down. Thanksgiving we roast a turkey breast not whole turkey and i make a small batch of the fruit salad that was always popular with my kids.
How did you meet?
katlupe
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- Norwich, NY
We first met when we were in kindergarten. My family moved to FL in 1962 and lost track of everyone in my class. Though, I didn't really remember him just his name. Then all these years later, he sent me a friend request on fakebook and I accepted it. I didn't have any interaction with him except for birthdays and the group for our hometown. Then I was going through a really bad time, very depressed and felt hopeless. He started messaging me and now here we are.
hollydolly
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- London England
wow!! what were the chances ?
You must tell me how you got them to agree to have the Holiday dinner with you. Seriously I'd love to know.
Thanks in advance.
feywon
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- Rural North Central NM
If my sons lived closer it would probably happen more often but one is in Hawaii (his main base for 16 of his 20 yrs of service was Pearl Harbor) and the other in Mesa, AZ about an 8 hour drive from us. Not difficult when it's just the 4 of us, (daughter lives with me, shares all expenses) extended family in other states. Their only remaining maternal Aunty and her first husband could sometimes be problematic at holiday meals when they were younger. But now the biggest we get is me, my 3 kids and before their divorce, Owen's wife and my grandson, Liam.
Being a day away allows Owen & Liam usually come for a week in late June each year sometimes being here for both his birthday (6/27, he's the older twin by less than 5 minutes) and 4th of July. Liam, now 13, likes having the 4th here because our small town's fireworks are quite visible from our house on the outskirts. So we can view them from here.