Upcoming Family reunion thots

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Cctrayders2

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New husband’s family has reunion planned in 2 weeks. Most of them, that I know of, don’t really follow many of the safety protocols. We are in the high risk group and I’ve been trying to be very careful. Hubby has followed fairly well, but is getting restless to see family more and wants to be less careful letting them pop over. (I at least ask them to stay by door, across room, masks, and I sanitize area, handles, air etc when they leave!)
This upcoming reunion (many other seniors too)....hubby expects me to go too, but I’m not really ready for the expected level of exposure! I went last year—one big bldg/room at a nice park/camp, shared big kitchen, tables, cots around the wall perimeter where everyone sleeps two feet apart. Visiting, dominoes, karaoke, etc.
I trust God to take care of me too, but I don’t want to play on the freeway. That’s not meant to be a flippant comparison. After months of being careful, I’m not comfortable going back to normal for the 3 days. Suggestions to cope or not go? How’d you handle it?
 

Personally I wouldn’t go, having been so careful all this time why do something you’re not happy about, not comfortable with and will not enjoy ?

God hasn’t taken care of the thousands of other people affected by Coronavirus
 
I wouldn't go, but am curious about this. Whereabouts do you live? Are large gatherings still prohibited in your area? How many people are going to be at this reunion, and where is it going to be held? Someone's house, a park, a venue?
 
If I wasn't comfortable with the thought of going, I wouldn't go because you're not going to enjoy it.
 
Absolutely not. You should do what you feel comfortable with.

I am (normally) a bridge player, and I really miss the game. I haven't played in about 3 months. Yesterday, a neighbor asked if I'd be interested in getting back to playing. I told her I just didn't feel ready yet. Same feeling you have: after living like a hermit all this time, why risk losing my health, and maybe my life?
 
Hope things work out so that you can follow your conscience & judgement, and none of “Them” get mad. Just a reminder of that old saying, “when you marry a person, you marry their whole family. “
 
I wouldn't be comfortable going, at this time, either, so I wouldn't.

And I would personally, also need to think about how to handle my feelings and thoughts about my husband perhaps increasing his risk and his exposure, for effecting his own health and for his possibly becoming a carrier bringing it home to me, as well.

I definitely don't want to add any more stress or alarm for you or for anyone else reading this, by saying that,
but I am expressing that I for myself, would have these related issues to think about, in addition, to my own choice to not go, myself as an individual.
Take care, and welcome to the Forum.
 
I just got back from being with family in PA. My father passed away in May and I went for the funeral and to help my sisters clear out his apartment (we had 30 days) We were only allowed 10 people at the cemetery and were told that if we met ANYWHERE with more than 10 people, the police would chase us away. We kept it small, stayed at least 6' apart and all had masks on as much as we could stand them. We used wipes to clean as we went and tried to be considerate. The Rest Areas on the highways were open - rest rooms & gas pumps working and some food. Low traffic - which was great!

All that said - if I didn't HAVE to go - I would not have. Tell your relatives that you will have to skip it this year and stay safe!!
 
I wouldn't go.

If you and the family are tech-savvy try to arrange a brief zoom visit with the family to let them know that you are with them in spirit.

Good luck with your decision.
 
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@Myquest55
My condolences on the loss of your father.
I can see how you needed to go, in this situation, where your sisters needed your help in cleaning out his apartment within the 30 days. thank you for sharing.
I hope that you and they will be well.

Very sorry for your loss, and the added stress, from it having come during this additionally difficult time.
 

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