Vent ahead. It's birthday time again.

Georgiagranny

Georgiagranny

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I steamed about it last year and am steaming about it again this year. I am the only person in this family whose birthday is "celebrated" when it's convenient for everybody else. Dammit! My birthday is my birthday. If we can celebrate everybody else's birthday on the day of, why not mine?

What makes it even more annoying is that this year is a milestone birthday.

Besides that, DGD isn't speaking to DGS's girlfriend because she "insulted" her online, and DGS refuses to get involved in their spat so DGD isn't speaking to him, either.

DD just asked where I want to go to dinner on Sunday if she can get everybody together that day. I. Don't. Want. To. Go. To. Dinner. On. Sunday. Heck, I don't even want to go to dinner on my actual birthday. Eating out isn't my favorite thing to do, but when I do want to eat out, it's breakfast. Yup. Breakfast but nobody else wants to get up and go to breakfast on any day.

Oh...and what kind of cake do I want? I don't want any kind of cake.

What I want to do is fuggedabouddit.

Let's throw Thanksgiving into the mix. DGD not speaking to her brother or his girlfriend. DGD has already announced that she won't participate in Thanksgiving dinner. Oh, goody. She won't participate in Thanksgiving dinner? Then she sure as heck won't participate in a dinner for my birthday, either. Even if she condescended to be there, wouldn't it be a fun event with six people at the table and three of them not speaking? DGD has already said that she'll spend Thanksgiving in her room. I guess that means she'll spend my birthday in her room, too, if DGS and his girlfriend would be here.

Not to be maudlin, but geez! I'm old. I could fall over in a heap and wake up dead before another birthday (or another Thanksgiving). So let's just make Gramma's birthday and holidays fun. Right?

Like I said, fuggedabouddit.

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Tbh I would be upset too. Maybe inform them that you want a surprise birthday party with a surprise birthday cake and surprise presents and, surprise! surprise! you want it on your actual birthday!

You might also want to mention that you will be reviewing your Will in the New Year; anyone who doesn't want to be disinherited better be there on your birthday and better make Thanksgiving fun ... or else!

Anyway, one bit of good news to cheer you up - no one ever wakes up dead :)
 
CaliS said:
Gosh, I'm so sorry! I understand wanting your birthday to be special. It's the only day that's ALL about YOU!

I hope the family get's their act together, for your sake!!!
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Nah. Anything that would happen now would be an afterthought and not really sincere and heartfelt...just a sop to "make Gramma happy."

I just want them to be considerate enough to not mention birthday or Thanksgiving again.
 
Georgiagranny said:
Nah. Anything that would happen now would be an afterthought and not really sincere and heartfelt...just a sop to "make Gramma happy."

I just want them to be considerate enough to not mention birthday or Thanksgiving again.
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Why not organise your own birthday and don't invite them, seeing as they are all too busy. Have a big birthday cake delivered, play loud music and invite some lively old folks round to celebrate with you. The next morning you can wander around in your dressing gown, holding your head and complaining about a hangover. ;)

Anyway, are your family planning to treat you to dinner on the Sunday and buy you the birthday cake of your choice? If they are, why not accept? That way you will have two birthday parties ;)🥳
 
@Trish We all live under the same roof. I have my own (tiny) place separated by a door to their back hall.

Old folks? LOL All my friends are either dead or live 1500 miles away.

They want to go out to dinner because they enjoy eating out. I don't unless it's breakfast. In any case, I don't want to go to breakfast if they'd even agree to that because it doesn't sound enjoyable to sit at a table of six people, three of whom aren't speaking. Oh...DGS and his girlfriend would speak to DGD. She's the one not speaking to them because...it's all about her no matter what day it is. Oy.:rolleyes:

DS just called asking me to come over on the day after Thanksgiving (day after because he knows I'm sentenced to being here on Thanksgiving day). Their normal "weekend" happens to be Thursdays and Fridays.

There are times when I positively loathe my effing life. When I win the lottery, I'm gonna buy a car🚙 and just go drive somewhere whenever I want to.
 
As my daddy used to say, I'm "hatching a plot." I'm thinking seriously, very seriously, about going to DS's for Thanksgiving if DGS is still doing her teeny-bopper thing about spending the day in her room because she won't talk to DGS and his girlfriend.

Have I mentioned that the reason DS and his husband don't spend that day here is because DD doesn't speak to him? He's a recovering addict (he's been clean for almost 10 years, but she's a world-champion grudge carrier and refuses to forgive all his "slights" over his active years).

I haven't spent Thanksgiving (or my birthday or Christmas or Mother's Day) with him since I moved back here in 2009 because it would start WWIII.

I'd spend my birthday this year with him and his husband except that it's on a Wednesday, and their days off are Thursday and Friday.

Yanno what? I'm tired. Tired of doing what suits DD and her crew. Tired of DGD and her silly antics. Tired of not doing what I want to do. Just plain tired of being squeezed by a family that isn't a family.
 
Well...since I "cancelled" my birthday, it was fine.

Now it's Thanksgiving, and DGD? She left last night to spend the night with her BF. AFAIK, she's planning on spending the day with him (and probably his family), too. Fine. I'd rather she be gone altogether than here sitting in her room pouting while DGS and his GF are here.

She can be a little minx, like middle school minx. She's...wait for it...25 years old!
 

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