Violence Against Women in the United States and World: Statistics

mlh said:
I was verbally and emotionally abused growing up. I will not stand for it. A person has to be stronger than their abuser in order to get past the emotional beating they are taking. Many need to use their voices and take a stand that it will not be tolerated. That is part of the problem. Men know we are afraid and they take advantage of that. They count on us submitting. That is where the issue lies. As women we need to take a stand and have the courage to tell them no more.
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I'm glad you were able to move beyond the verbal and emotional abuse you received as a child, but some people are not able to do that without outside help. Also many of these women live within a family or a community where such behavior is considered normal and they are unaware that the way they are being treated is something that is incorrect or can be changed.

I think the women who are unable to move out of such situations are missing some tools, knowledge or assistance that you had which enabled you to escape the abuse. I only wish that more women were able to access or discover what you had in order to help them move to better lives.
 
asp3 said:
I'm glad you were able to move beyond the verbal and emotional abuse you received as a child, but some people are not able to do that without outside help. Also many of these women live within a family or a community where such behavior is considered normal and they are unaware that the way they are being treated is something that is incorrect or can be changed.

I think the women who are unable to move out of such situations are missing some tools, knowledge or assistance that you had which enabled you to escape the abuse. I only wish that more women were able to access or discover what you had in order to help them move to better lives.
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Inner strength. We all have access to it. Some must not know how to utilize it. If people continue to let others mistreat them, they are basically giving them permission to continue the behavior. Giving them permission to hurt them. I do not believe anyone should be allowed to mistreat others on purpose. There is no excuse for it.
 

mlh said:
Inner strength. We all have access to it. Some must not know how to utilize it. If people continue to let others mistreat them, they are basically giving them permission to continue the behavior. Giving them permission to hurt them. I do not believe anyone should be allowed to mistreat others on purpose. There is no excuse for it.
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True it's about inner strength, but so many have been beaten down so long, they give up. They don't even know they have inner strenghth and are too worn out to try. I don't like the idea that says that we give others permission to hurt us. I never gave anyone permission. Never. I eventually crawled away from the verbal abuse, but that doesn't mean I had given them permission to hurt me before. For me in my first marriage I was afraid of eternal damnation if I left my husband. Religion took away my choice. I dumped the religion, even though I was frightened to do so. There are many variables. One sized does not fit all.
 
Phoenix said:
True it's about inner strength, but so many have been beaten down so long, they give up. They don't even know they have inner strenghth and are too worn out to try. I don't like the idea that says that we give others permission to hurt us. I never gave anyone permission. Never. I eventually crawled away from the verbal abuse, but that doesn't mean I had given them permission to hurt me before. For me in my first marriage I was afraid of eternal damnation if I left my husband. Religion took away my choice. I dumped the religion, even though I was frightened to do so. There are many variables. One sized does not fit all.
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The day you walked away is the day you stopped allowing it to happen.
 
mlh said:
Inner strength. We all have access to it. Some must not know how to utilize it. If people continue to let others mistreat them, they are basically giving them permission to continue the behavior. Giving them permission to hurt them. I do not believe anyone should be allowed to mistreat others on purpose. There is no excuse for it.
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I'm glad inner strength worked for you. Not all people have it and some that do don't realize they have it. So one must first know one has inner strength and then one must know how to use it before it can help.

I also don't agree that people who are not doing anything are giving their abusers permission to hurt them. First of all some of them are unable to leave due to the amount of control the abuser has over their life. In other cases they remain to stay to prevent the abuse of others who they know would be hurt if they left. In other cases they do not have the means or resources to get away safely and are working towards achieving those things or arranging those things in order to get away.

Even if they do escape the abuser initially there are many times their abuser pursues them and kills or injures them.

I agree with your two closing sentences though.
 
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