Weird visit this afternoon

What I can't figure out is why Ms. 72 would go to so much trouble to find the information about @dusty . It takes a lot of time, a lot of ingenuity, and is just so difficult to do. Especially if you begin by knowing very little.

I spent years looking for information about a childhood friend who had died and about my paternal grandfather who was also dead. What led me to the information I sought was that someone on findagrave.com had taken photos of their graves and posted them there. I have tons of living relatives on my father's side, but the older ones (aunts, uncles) didn't know anything. It was like my grandfather was a secret that my grandmother never spoke about.

I kinda hope this isn't a looking for lost blood relative situation because Ms. 72's method of going about that is eerie. It shows she lacks honesty and good judgment. I know if a very casual acquaintance showed up at my door and knew a lot about me, I would be very suspicious. It would be impossible for anyone to find out a lot of the kinds of information Ms. 72 told @dusty . I would be greatly alarmed. OTOH, I have nothing a scammer would want.

Now for a handy tip about obituaries. Once upon a time, the most sweet and lively young pit bull female chanced upon my yard. We lived out in the country and people lived far apart. The dog was a keeper so I knew she belonged to someone. I thought about who would know this info and it was someone whose mother had died a few years earlier. So I went to the mother's obituary, got her daughter's name, called the daughter. She knew who owned the dog and called him and he came over and retrieved his dog.

After that, we saw the dog several times. Sometimes my son would pull up in the driveway at night and stop the car when he saw her waiting. Son would open the door, the dog would get in, and he'd give her a ride home. It was funny how that dog knew where to get a taxi. Her owner was a super nice guy who happened to own an escape artist.

Gosh, I'm really getting good at sticking a dog story into every thread I post on. Yay, I'm a genius!
 
I'm in a bit of a rush this week, so I hope I'm not repeating anything, but I do want to emphasize, as some others have said, to keep careful track of your information online, @dusty. (And that does indeed sound like a creepy visit from your neighbor.)

I've requested that sites like Instant Checkmate, FastPeopleSearch, etc., remove all of my information. All you have to do is ask.

I ran a background check on my son's girlfriend (I know, I know) and was shocked at the amount of information it yielded: all of her email and social media sites, the make and model of her car, and even her VIN (Vehicle Identification Number), her home street address with photos of the rooms, and so on and so forth. This girl is supposed to be media savvy, but if she doesn't take better control over online access to her information she's going to have her identity stolen or worse.

Anyway—you can ask to have your data removed from those types of sites.
 

WheatenLover said:
What I can't figure out is why Ms. 72 would go to so much trouble to find the information about @dusty . It takes a lot of time, a lot of ingenuity, and is just so difficult to do. Especially if you begin by knowing very little.
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It's actually pretty easy depending on the extent to which one controls what is available out there. (See the post I just made.) And of course, there's no such thing as total control. But a person can limit it.
 
The officer just left. Took a report, wrote it all down and I am happy. He was very professional and yet friendly. I am glad that is finished and there is a numbered written report at the station. While he was here there was a knock at the door and it was Ms 72---Brenda, the gal who started all this. He answered and she went away.

I am glad for the great advice I got from all of you..thanks, but I have a feeling this is not over yet.
 
dusty said:
The officer just left. Took a report, wrote it all down and I am happy. He was very professional and yet friendly. I am glad that is finished and there is a numbered written report at the station. While he was here there was a knock at the door and it was Ms 72---Brenda, the gal who started all this. He answered and she went away.

I am glad for the great advice I got from all of you..thanks, but I have a feeling this is not over yet.
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Wow, very, very strange! Glad she saw the police there.
 
dusty said:
While he was here there was a knock at the door and it was Ms 72---Brenda, the gal who started all this. He answered and she went away.
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Couldn't have written that any better for a script! But really, since the officer witnessed it and she showed up again, didn't he mention doing anything in addition to writing a report? What did he say to her? If she seriously just walked away without saying anything, he was surely suspicious, right? What did he advise you to do after he saw what happened?
 
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When se knocked , he opened the door and told her everthing was ok and then he shut the door. I told him that it was her I was talking about. He gave me advice about strangers and all of that kind of talk...told me to keep my door locked. Just the usual police stuff. Good to have it all documented.
 
This Brenda was probably coming back again to be your new ‘best friend’. Glad the police were there.

I’d be really worried about her trying to find info re your son. Maybe she blames him for something and wants to track him down.

Do you live on the same floor as Brenda?
 
Well, at 3:20 there came knock at the door the same knock as yesterday. I did as the police said and stayed quiet and did not answer. This continued for 15 minutes, first soft and then louder. I called the manager here and he went to her place to talk to her but when he called me back he said she didn't answer her door. What the H is her game? I am going to call the officer and ask him to respond now.
 
dusty said:
Yes, she lives around the corner and down a hall so the manager told me.
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Maybe you should think of getting something like a ring bell? They are activated by motion so, even if she doesn't knock, if she is outside your door, the camera will record her presence.

I think her visit was to 'befriend' you but, also to try and confirm what details she knew. One or two details could be a coincidence but, to know a lot of details, especially about your father being at Pearl Harbour, is too much knowledge.

Has she lived near you for a long time? If so, then I would wonder what has sparked this seemingly sudden interest.

You did the right thing to report your concerns to the police and also, that the building manager is now aware of the situation. I hope she keeps her distance from now on as, whatever her motive, it is worrying.

If you are concerned about identify theft, you could sign up with one of the credit check agencies like Experian who will send you free reports which will show if anyone has used or tried to use your identify to obtain credit. As you have a police officer who is helping, you could maybe ask him to recommend a free, reputable credit check agency and maybe also ask about a ring bell or something similar.
 
The manager has the info. So do the police. Just a few minutes ago I went to the kitchen and there were the knocks again. I just kept on with what I was doing and they stopped. It ought to be an interesting weekend. If this keeps up through the weekend on Monday I will seek a restraining order.
 
Have you found out her last name yet. The manger should be willing to provide that considering he knows the police are involved. Or maybe the police will give it to you.
 
That most certainly sounds like a weird encounter , wondering who may have given her info about YOU

@dusty

Sorta reading between the lines..what she said to you , was she TRYING to say …maybe you are related …via Your father ….her father on the boat ~ as well as your father …was she indicating that they were the same man …just maybe ?? ..Very odd she knows so much about you and your son …I’d be watching my back very closely ….
 

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