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cdestroyer

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This is not a medical check, this is a check on how I feel about the postings herein. I find I can no longer remain on this forum. Without demeaning those here I simply do not have to come here! FAREWELL!
 

Sorry to hear it. I have found, especially lately, that the forums can be less than kind or friendly. Actually, "forums" is not exactly it — it's caused by particular posters (and I do make use of the Ignore button). Have wondered whether I should stay here.

At any rate, cdestroyer, fare thee well.
 
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cdestroyer said:
This is not a medical check, this is a check on how I feel about the postings herein. I find I can no longer remain on this forum. Without demeaning those here I simply do not have to come here! FAREWELL!
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When someone really wants to leave a forum, all they have to do is stop participating.
When someone makes a big announcement that they're leaving, they usually want people to beg them to stay so they feel wanted, needed or missed.
It's a cry for attention - much like a 5 year old saying "I'm running away & I'm never coming back."
 
Jules said:
I’m sorry to read this cdestroyer. Personally, I appreciate when someone says goodbye. When someone suddenly disappears, there’s a lingering feeling that they might have died. This is a group of elderly folks.
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Nothing wrong with someone simply saying something like "Folks, I'm doing fine; I'm taking a break from the forum" or something like that.
It's different when someone complains about being driven away by other "mean" people who may not agree with everything he says: "This is a check on how I feel about the postings herein. I find I can no longer remain on this forum. Without demeaning those here I simply do not have to come here! FAREWELL!
That's an attention - seeking crybaby's way.
 
win231 said:
Nothing wrong with someone simply saying something like "Folks, I'm doing fine; I'm taking a break from the forum" or something like that.
It's different when someone complains about being driven away by other "mean" people who may not agree with everything he says: "This is a check on how I feel about the postings herein. I find I can no longer remain on this forum. Without demeaning those here I simply do not have to come here! FAREWELL!
That's an attention - seeking crybaby's way.
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lol - somehow I knew we could all count on you to prove the OP's point. Nasty name calling at its lowest. (y)
 
When you come right down to what this "forum" is, it's just symbols on a screen. You have to wonder why that can cause such great frustration, and distress. Yeah, there have been some people, who have gotten under my skin, and really deeply I might add. And I've managed to irritate a bunch, too. When you're sitting at home, all comfy and warm, why do we get all flustered and angry? It's not like anything we type in this forum is going to change the world. The President isn't going to break into the 8 o'clock time slot saying "funnykitty657" just figured out world peace. Why do we take this so damn seriously?
 
cdestroyer said:
This is not a medical check, this is a check on how I feel about the postings herein. I find I can no longer remain on this forum. Without demeaning those here I simply do not have to come here! FAREWELL!
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It's not necessary to announce that you're leaving. Awhile back, I was annoyed about something or other to the point of wishing to leave the forum altogether but couldn't figure out a way to delete my account. When I asked a mod how to do it, there was no reply and I couldn't even find a way to do it with help from our friend, Mr. Google. So I just didn't post or even lurk any longer.

Lucky for me...because whatever it was that annoyed me must have been very minor and has been long forgotten. Now I'm glad that I couldn't figure a way to delete it because then I'd have to go to the trouble of re-upping.

What I'm saying is that there's no need to get yourself into an eight-cylinder Snit over a nameless, faceless Invisapeep's real or perceived personal insult. There's always the "ignore" feature.

BTW, I have a book called "I'm Dead. Now what?" where I've left instructions about who and how to notify forum and other internet friends that I'm dead just in case I'm too dead to notify them myself 😊
 
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Whenever I see a thread like this I look around to see what the final straw was because I'm hoping it wasn't something I said. I know I can be argumentative, but I try never to be mean.

The problem is that what I might consider ordinary arguing (or as I like to think of it, explaining why I'm right;) ) might sound a lot harsher to others than I ever meant it to be.

So someone please tell me If I'm being offensive and I'll try to tone it down, or at least let the other person have the last word.

Unless it's Win. :) I just can't stop when it's Win.
 
What i struggle with is that most forums, for that matter, most all of social media makes it pretty easy to ignore those you don't care to interact with for whatever reason. Some people shy away from 'Pollyannas' that are unrelentingly cheerful except when another shares actual bad news about disease or death among their loved ones.

Have to say Win231 and GeorgiaXplant do make good points--there is a difference between saying "I'm taking a break" and making an announcement. When someone does it this way they might as well tell us they give more weight to things said by those they feel are unpleasant than all the other neutral, interesting, pleasant and sometimes fun things people say.

GeorgiaXplant's suggestion about leaving someone instructions about who, where and how to inform one's social media contacts should you become gravely ill or die is something that i've done too. My daughter knows where to find my passwords and who i want informed.
 
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Aneeda72 said:
I actually have questioned myself over staying as well. I decided to stay as there are some people here I really care for, but the forum has taken a nasty turn in many cases.
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As i said in reply #20 is how i feel. Just as in life some people you want to minimize contact with, others you don't want to give up. Maybe i'm just weird, but i most of the time i can put the 'nasty' folks on 'mental ignore'. i stop reading OP's by them and rarely respond directly to them on the posts of others. i spend more time responding to the people who can be reasonable even when we disagree on some things.
 
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