What are your thoughts on Spousal Age Difference?

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Lon

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How many years between you and your spouse? Does 10 years make difference? 5 years? How about the wife being older? When does that age difference effect the marriage?
 

Well, my husband and I are just a couple years apart in age. BUT, both of my older brothers married women 10 plus years younger. Both are second marriages and they were both very successful. My middle brother, Jim was married to his younger wife for over 30 years when he passed away a couple months back. He left a great daughter and son in law. Interesting thing, I a much younger, my brothers are 10 and 15 years older. But their wives are both younger than me (just by 3-4 years, byt younger nonetheless. I think it is often more the norm for men to be older, but I think older women can do well too
 
My second husband was 27 years older than me. I had never thought about him passing away and me being alone at a younger age but it happened. However, I'm glad to have met and been with him even though it wasn't a real long time.
 

It depends on the couple. My first husband was ten years older, the second five years older. But having a brother with a ten year age difference I enjoy older cultural references. I think it's kind of pathetically creepy when someone in their later years shacks up with somebody younger than their kids. Then again weirder things happen;)
 
I read somewhere that the perfect formula for age differential in marriage is for the bride to be half the groom's age plus seven years.

I'm not sure how that works after a certain age. I'm not really looking for a 124-year-old man, even if he IS my ideal mate. Now, if he was rich and had no heirs.....maybe, just maybe....
 
My husband is two years older than me. I don't think age matters too much Lon, or if the wife is the older one in the marriage. Age is really just a number, if the love is real then the relationship should thrive.
 
I think a few years either way is my preference, I like having similar cultural references, but I wouldn't say no to a cute healthy fun-loving sugar daddy.
 
My wife is the same age as I am from August to November each year. In November, my number jumps one ahead of her. As each year goes by, she gets older. Can't understand why I need to put up with that. Would prefer, trading her in on a newer model. Will ask her permission. Doubt it will be granted. The younger ones would probably be all wrapped up in their digital devices and not pay attention to me anyway. Shucks! Well, the first 50 years was awesome with this wife. If the next 50 are as good..............

All three of our kids married spouses within a year of their age. Those marriages have worked well. My wife's brother married a lady 5 years old than he is. They've been married just over 40 years.

Interests change so rapidly today with technology developments, global issues, changes in music, etc. I can't see how folks more than a couple years apart can hold conversations which are of interest to both. I vote to marry someone at or near your own age.
 
My first wife of 32 years and I were the same age when she died in1989. My second wife of 23 years was exactly 10 years younger than me when we amicably divorced in 2014.
 
I don't think age matters unless there is a really huge age difference. My uncle waited until he was 37 to marry a 20yearr old, she knew he would probably predecease her, and she thought she would be fine since a lot of times his work took him away for a month or so at a time. She wasn't fine when he died because she knew he wasn't coming home at all. My husband and I are very close in age and I think it was just fine, we always were best friends as well. I suspect when one of us goes the other will follow fairly soon.
 
If there is a big age difference, both need to be realistic. Like if the woman is a lot younger-does she want children? If there is a generational difference--do you have enough things in common?

Two things unrelated to age but could be, are money management and personality. If one or the other has completely different priorities on how to spend money, that needs to be considered. If one's a homebody and the other wants to go out a lot, there could be problems.

I still believe that age difference doesn't mean it can't work, it can and often does. Much depends upon the couple.
 
The hubby is seven years older then I am. It doesn't seem to matter much. We still are interested in the same things and we are falling apart at about the same rate. My knees are bad. His hips bother him. Sometimes we run out of electrical outlets for our heating pads. The only thing I notice is a little less patience in certain situations but nothing major.
 
My hubby has mellowed so much. If we could both be healthy we'd understand each other completely at this point. I think the older you get the less age matters. If the unthinkable happened I could love someone in their 60's or 70's easy.
 
I am looking for a nurse with a purse. Age doesn't matter...
 

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