What did you expect, (in life, getting married or whatever?)?

grahamg

grahamg

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As you can see I've remembered the provocative title and idea for a new thread, asking whoever it might be what they expected from their marrige, (a familiar theme of course), or life in general?

So far as what people might expect going into as marriage I'm going to challenge those of you who choose to put forward the view "Everyone goes into a marriage expecting it to last for ever"!

I dont think that's true necessarily, certainly not in every case, (I think I've got satisfactory evidence to back up my opinion, though I wont bore you with it), and with the prevalence of divorce I'm not even sure, were I to marry (/marry again), whether I'd expect it to last for the rest of our lives.

However, to give a broader appeal I'm really asking forum members just to express what they thought they were getting into in general when marrying, what were their expectations of themselves, (to be a "good provider", "good mother/father" and so on)?
 

I was young and stupid and thought life would be better if I had children and shared raising them with another person my age. The first year felt like 75 years. Oh well, too late now.
 
I never expected to be married & have kids. Even when I was real little, whenever I would play "House" I was bored stiff after five minutes.
 
I expected when I got married the first time for it to be a long marriage as my parents, my aunts and uncles and my new in-laws' marriages were. Needless to say, since I did it two more times I discovered that was not necessarily going to happen for me.
 
An anecdote to fit into a thread concerning infidelity in marriages is this,.........

I was once part of a small group of singles in the south of England that had been recently set up, (a mate of mine who was always on the money when it came to spotting what was going on introduced me to it).

There were three ladies at the group meeting in this bar/pub and all came from a relatively small area, and all three of their husbands had had an affair with the same woman oddly enough, and this had lead to the breakup of their marriages.

Another odd thing making the story worth re-telling perhaps, is this woman, (or Mata Hari) just happened to be the organist at their local church! :oops::confused:;):rolleyes::whistle:
 
I have always felt that there was a 'road' already laid out for me to walk. I could not see it but by moving forward in life I knew I would find it and walk it. Now, looking back of the 60+ years I feel I found the road and it led me to many challenges, ups and downs and ultimate happiness. Going forward now with no regrets is fun...
 

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