What Do You Bring to the Party?

[VaughanJB]

Okay, so there is another thread asking what we want from a partner. However, I think the more important question is, what do you bring to the party?

This simple question is really difficult for me. I mean, you all know my situation, and every day brings more damage. Regardless of the ultimate outcome, I'm going to suffer some damage that'll take time to get over. And when I think of it, what do I really bring to the table? Reasonably intelligent. Sometimes funny. Other times quirky. I try not to be judgemental. I try to think of others first.

But I have an adverse reaction to TV and modern culture. Having abandoned it years ago, I can't indulge in conversation about it - I've no idea what's been happening. I like movies, but I only like movies I like. Which is a stubbornness that isn't too appealing. I can be sociable, but I much prefer the whole "couple" thing. I just want to love, and be loved. Fashion, and such, I'm a follower, not a leader.

I know I have many more demands of a partner than I do efforts to qualify myself. Such a weird realization. I don't want to own anyone. I want someone to want. You know?

Educate me - what do you bring to the party, be it as a single person, or as a partner.

 

[jujube]

Well, back when I got married in 1969 at 21, I brought very little to the table. No money, no experience in living with someone, no skills in the kitchen, unrealistic expectations of marriage. Somehow, it managed to work.

Then, when I started dating again at the age of 60, I guess I still had some unrealistic expectations. Those expectations got knocked down quickly. To the relationships, I brought experience, frugality, emotional and financial stability. Frankly, I was a bit of a prize, in my opinion. I had to kiss a bunch of frogs but I finally met a prince.

 

[Quackers]

Apologies, Vaughan, I can't really get the handle on what you are asking as I don't know your situation or the damage that you refer too. (I'm fairly new and an irregular poster).

Do you mean what one can bring into a relationship re their life skills?

PS, I think 'end of the day brain fog' is perhaps getting in the way of my lack of understanding