What do you think are your positive and negative attributes?

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I'll go first. I think one of my positive traits is that I am analytical, so I look at both sides of an argument before making a decision. I am open to different cultures and ways of thinking. I have the ability to relate to and understand what makes people tick.

One of my negative traits is impatience. This is sometimes in direct conflict with my understanding of other people, because sometimes I can't relate to what makes people do stupid things. My father used to say "there is no limit to human stupidity", and one of my former bosses said "I don't suffer fools lightly", but I am trying very hard to put myself in these other folks' shoes and understand why they act the way they act.

I am also sometimes judgmental of other people. These are all negative attributes that I am continually working to improve.

Anyone else?
 

Are you by any chance a Scorpio? We are very loyal, but when we get crossed we are completely done with someone who crosses us.

On another note, are you near Mount Airy where Andy Griffith was filmed? My parents were from Marion and Rutherfordton and they always loved the Andy Griffith Show. I watched it as well.
 

Are you by any chance a Scorpio? We are very loyal, but when we get crossed we are completely done with someone who crosses us.

On another note, are you near Mount Airy where Andy Griffith was filmed? My parents were from Marion and Rutherfordton and they always loved the Andy Griffith Show. I watched it as well.
I’m a Pisces.

No, The area around the fictional town of Mount Pilot is my home when I’m on the internet.
 
This is not as easy a question to answer meaningfully as an ordinary person might first think. A psychologist would have far more to say because they have studied all the subtleties of personality and character most would view shallowly. The below psychology site link contains this list of traits that are links to whole pages discussing each one at length. After reading such, one will not be able to answer the OP's question because one will understand they are not qualified to do so beyond a few terse inputs. Also one will view consideration of each trait differently depending on circumstances that can vary considerably, so there are multiple dimensions to many traits. Having viewed the link a bit, have decided to spend some time reading through those pages because understanding these kinds of human behaviors is key to understanding others as well as oneself and my psyche education is rusty.

https://psychology.fandom.com/wiki/List_of_personality_traits


Adaptability
Adroitness
Aggressiveness
Agreeableness
Altruism
Androgyny
Assertiveness
Authoritarianism
Compliance
Conformity (personality)
Conscientiousness
Conservatism
Courage
Creativity
Cruelty
Curiosity
Cynicism
Defensiveness
Dependency (personality)
Dishonesty
Dogmatism
Egalitarianism
Egotism
Emotional immaturity
Emotional inferiority
Emotional instability
Emotional maturity
Emotional stability
Emotional superiority
Emotionality (personality)
Empathy
Extraversion
Femininity
Greed avoidance
Gregariousness
Hardiness
Honesty
Humility
Hypnotic susceptibility
Impulsivity
Independence (personality)
Initiative
Integrity
Introversion
Irritability
Liberalism
Likability
Loyalty
Machiavelianism
Masculinity
Misanthropy
Modesty
Moodiness
Narcissism
Need for approval
Need for cognition
Negativism
Nervousness (Anxiousness)
Neuroticism
Nonconformity (personality)
Nurturance
Obedience
Objectivity
Omnipotence
Openmindedness
Openess to experience
Optimism
Paranoia
Passiveness
Perseptiveness (personality)
Perfectionism
Persistance
Pessimism
Positivism
Psychoticism
Rebelliousness
Resilience (psychological)
Rigidity (personality)
Risk taking
Self control
Selfishness
Sensation seeking
Sensitivity (personality)
Seriousness
Sincerity
Sociability
Subjectivity
Suggestibility
Tender-mindedness
Timidity
Tolerance
Vengefulness
 
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This is not as easy a question to answer meaningfully as an ordinary person might first think. A psychologist would have far more to say because they have studied all the subtleties of personality and character most would view shallowly. The below psychology site link contains this list of traits that are links to whole pages discussing each one at length. After reading such, one will not be able to answer the OP's question because one will understand they are not qualified to do so beyond a few terse inputs. Also one will view consideration of each trait differently depending on circumstances that can vary considerably, so there are multiple dimensions to many traits. Having viewed the link a bit, have decided to spend some time reading through those pages because understanding these kinds of human behaviors is key to understanding others as well as oneself and my psyche education is rusty.

https://psychology.fandom.com/wiki/List_of_personality_traits


Adaptability
Adroitness
Aggressiveness
Agreeableness
Altruism
Androgyny
Assertiveness
Authoritarianism
Compliance
Conformity (personality)
Conscientiousness
Conservatism
Courage
Creativity
Cruelty
Curiosity
Cynicism
Defensiveness
Dependency (personality)
Dishonesty
Dogmatism
Egalitarianism
Egotism
Emotional immaturity
Emotional inferiority
Emotional instability
Emotional maturity
Emotional stability
Emotional superiority
Emotionality (personality)
Empathy
Extraversion
Femininity
Greed avoidance
Gregariousness
Hardiness
Honesty
Humility
Hypnotic susceptibility
Impulsivity
Independence (personality)
Initiative
Integrity
Introversion
Irritability
Liberalism
Likability
Loyalty
Machiavelianism
Masculinity
Misanthropy
Modesty
Moodiness
Narcissism
Need for approval
Need for cognition
Negativism
Nervousness (Anxiousness)
Neuroticism
Nonconformity (personality)
Nurturance
Obedience
Objectivity
Omnipotence
Openmindedness
Openess to experience
Optimism
Paranoia
Passiveness
Perseptiveness (personality)
Perfectionism
Persistance
Pessimism
Positivism
Psychoticism
Rebelliousness
Resilience (psychological)
Rigidity (personality)
Risk taking
Self control
Selfishness
Sensation seeking
Sensitivity (personality)
Seriousness
Sincerity
Sociability
Subjectivity
Suggestibility
Tender-mindedness
Timidity
Tolerance
Vengefulness
That's a good list, except for the fact that some of the attributes are spelled wrong, but that's the fault of the psychologist who put that list together — not you.

There could be a separate thread on SF for each attribute. Each one requires a bit of introspection and reflection.
 
Negative:
I'm indecisive. Making decisions is hard for me. I like to look to a man to make decisions. This is not good.
When something happens, even right in front of me, I don't rush in. I stand for a moment to access the situation.
I have compassion but not enough for those always feeling sorry for themselves and wanting pity.
Lotsa other stuff.
 
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I procrastinate. Of course this is about things I don't want to do. I think self-discipline is a weak trait in these instances. So is laziness.

Often I am too loyal. I will do something that hurts my situation, just because it benefits the person/people I am loyal to. I try not to do that any more. This is because I realized that the reason I am in whatever situation is because those people have not been loyal to me.

On the positive side, I'm 100% great at keeping confidences. For an unknown reason, I forget them until something brings them to the forefront of my mind. I was surprised by how many people assume that I share their secrets with my husband. I don't, but this belief has sometimes led to people revealing their secrets to him based on that unfounded assumption. Now I make a point of telling people that I don't tell their secrets to my husband.
 
I procrastinate. Of course this is about things I don't want to do. I think self-discipline is a weak trait in these instances. So is laziness.

Often I am too loyal. I will do something that hurts my situation, just because it benefits the person/people I am loyal to. I try not to do that any more. This is because I realized that the reason I am in whatever situation is because those people have not been loyal to me.
This is precisely what happens in my life.. too loyal to a fault to people that often are back-stabbers.. and don't deserve my loyalty

It's a very hard habit to get out of tho'
 
Positive-. I am a good person. I give to others and to animals a lot. I once gave a man with terminal cancer my stereo and tv to help him in his last days. I didn't exactly know it was his last days but about a month or two later I heard he passed.

I have let a homeless man sleep on my couch. I have tried to help the homeless and others worse off than I.

I have many times taken friends out for a meal. Lonely people who needed someone.

I listen to others problems who need help.

I continue to learn all the time.

Negative:. I don't like to consider it negative because I've learned to cope with it-depresson and PTSD. I do what I need to in order to be ok.

I think too much at times.

I'm nowhere near perfect and will never be so I just do the best I can with what I've got.
 
If you want to know more about your character strengths, there is a website from the University of Pennsylvania that you can access and you go into the questionnaire section and take a test to determine what your strengths are. I think it's called the VIA Survey of Character Strengths. It's free, you just have to register. https://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu

My six traits were persistence, love of learning, leadership, kindness, forgiveness, and gratitude

Below, I also copied more information about the 24 character strengths noted by Dr. Seligman - from the following website: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-are-character-strengths-4843090


The 24 character strengths that Dr. Seligman identified are divided into six classes of virtues. These six virtues include wisdom, courage, humanity, justice, temperance, and transcendence. Here is a closer look at the six virtues and the character strengths that are classified under each.


Wisdom​

Those who score high in the area of wisdom tend to have cognitive strengths that lead them to not only acquire knowledge but to use it in creative and useful ways. Here is an overview of the core character strengths that fall under wisdom.


  • Creativity: Thinking of new ways to do things
  • Curiosity: Taking an interest in a wide variety of topics
  • Open-Mindedness: Examining things from all sides; thinking things through
  • Love of Learning: Mastering new topics, skills, and bodies of research
  • Perspective: Being able to provide wise counsel to others; looking at the world in a way that makes sense

Courage​

People who score high in courage have emotional strengths that allow them to accomplish goals despite any opposition they face—whether internal or external. Here is a closer look at the core character strengths that are classified under courage.


  • Honesty: Speaking the truth; being authentic and genuine
  • Bravery: Embracing challenges, difficulties, or pain; not shrinking from threat
  • Persistence: Finishing things once they are started
  • Zest: Approaching all things in life with energy and excitement

Humanity​

Those who score high in humanity have a range of interpersonal strengths that involve caring for and befriending others. Here's an overview of the core character strengths that are classified under humanity.


  • Kindness: Doing favors and good deeds
  • Love: Valuing close relations with others
  • Social Intelligence: Being aware of other people's motives and feelings

Justice​

People who have a number of character strengths under justice tend to possess civic strengths that underscore the importance of a healthy community. Here is a closer look at the core character strengths that fall under justice.


  • Fairness: Treating all people the same
  • Leadership: Organizing group activities and making sure they happen
  • Teamwork: Working well with others as a group or a team

Temperance​

Those who score have a number of character strengths that fall under temperance tend to have strengths that protect against the excesses in life. Here's an overview of the core character strengths that fall under temperance.


  • Forgiveness: Forgiving others who have wronged them
  • Modesty: Letting one's successes and accomplishments stand on their own
  • Prudence: Avoiding doing things they might regret; making good choices
  • Self-Regulation: Being disciplined; controlling one's appetites and emotions

Transcendence​

People who have a number of character strengths that fall under transcendence tend to forge connections with God, the universe, or religions that provide meaning, purpose, and understanding. Here's a closer look at the core character strengths that fall under transcendence.


  • Appreciation of Beauty: Noticing and appreciating beauty and excellence in everything
  • Gratitude: Being thankful for the good things; taking time to express thanks
  • Hope: Expecting the best; working to make it happen; believing good things are possible
  • Humor: Making other people smile or laugh; enjoying jokes
  • Religiousness: Having a solid belief about a higher purpose and meaning of life


How Character Strengths Are Used​

One of the main reasons for assessing character strengths is to use that information to understand, identify, and build on a person's strengths.

Knowing a person's character strengths provides a lens through which psychologists, educators, and even parents can see not only what makes a person unique, but also understand how to help that person build on those strengths to improve situations or outcomes.
For example, one widely researched strategy involves encouraging people to use their signature strengths in a new way each week. In fact, one study found that having adults do this every day led to increases in happiness and decreases in depression for six months.


This study then became the basis for several more studies that utilized the same methods for older adults, employees, and people with traumatic brain injuries. Another approach involves focusing on a person's lowest-rated strengths in an attempt to enhance those areas of their lives.


Research also has demonstrated the living through a traumatic event can impact character strengths. In the six months following the 9/11 attacks, the character strengths of religiousness, hope, and love were elevated among U.S. respondents but not among European respondents.
 
I can relate. I'm definitely not a morning person. Afternoons aren't good for me, either. Late in the evening is my good time, especially after I've had a few drinks. :ROFLMAO:
Well I don't drink alcohol.. but I've always been a night owl. Altho' I never missed work, getting up at 5am most of my working life was always hell for the first 2 hours .I just can't speak in the mornings
 
I think I am good at caring for people in general. One thing I hate about myself is I don't like to entertain though. I get upset when I have to give a holiday dinner and have never gotten over it. My mother was a wonderful cook and hostess. I just dont like that part of me. Now, I'm hoping to go to kids homes now on holidays. I am 78 years old. Does my age excuse me? I worry too much about details.
 

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