What is the best response to this?

Update: I saw him yesterday. He was working on the same shift I was working although in a different department. He approached me at breaktime in the lunchroom. This was the flow of conversation;

JG: Hey, you grow lovelier each time I see you.
Me: Thank you. How are you?
JG: I'm doing well.
Me: How did you know I like ABBA? Most people in our generation love their music. You know I really like you as a person. Your LinkedIn profile is a true reflection of your character. I want us to be friends, the kind of friendship where we can lean on each other in good and bad times. Friendship is all I can offer you.
JG: I totally understand. I just want you to know I have never met a woman that possess all the characteristics I've been looking for which I thought was impossible to find in one person. You brought so much joy to my life. Yes, I'll treasure the friendship and will keep on texting and writing you letters.
Me: Sure, meantime I have to go back to demo...

I'm glad there was no tension in the conversation. Thanks to all of you for listening and your valuable tips.
 

Lots of good suggestions here. I would just tell him I value our friendship and don't want anything to ruin it, but it is just that, a friendship and can never be any more. I'd tell him that I want to be honest with him as a friend would. If he can't respect that and understand that you're not interested in a relationship, then I wouldn't worry too much about his feelings anymore. You have to think about yourself too, look at the changes you're going through over this.....best to nip it in the bud so you can breathe again. Good luck!
 

hellomimi said:
Update: I saw him yesterday. He was working on the same shift I was working although in a different department. He approached me at breaktime in the lunchroom. This was the flow of conversation;

JG: Hey, you grow lovelier each time I see you.
Me: Thank you. How are you?
JG: I'm doing well.
Me: How did you know I like ABBA? Most people in our generation love their music. You know I really like you as a person. Your LinkedIn profile is a true reflection of your character. I want us to be friends, the kind of friendship where we can lean on each other in good and bad times. Friendship is all I can offer you.
JG: I totally understand. I just want you to know I have never met a woman that possess all the characteristics I've been looking for which I thought was impossible to find in one person. You brought so much joy to my life. Yes, I'll treasure the friendship and will keep on texting and writing you letters.
Me: Sure, meantime I have to go back to demo...

I'm glad there was no tension in the conversation. Thanks to all of you for listening and your valuable tips.
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Sorry, I didn't read this before I just posted. I still think he's hooked on you and may not 'totally' understand, time will tell.
 
hellomimi said:
I cannot control his feelings nor his actions, so I feel liberated now to be my authentic self without having to tiptoe around him after our talk.

You're right, only time will tell.
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You seem to have it all together, smart lady and I'm glad you feel good about the way it was handled. đź‘Ť
 

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