What Is The Real Reason Some Yearn For The Good old Days?

[oldman]

I have read several sad stories throughout this thread. I appreciate those of you that have shared your stories, but at the same time, I am also glad that I don’t have any sad stories to share. It must have been terrible for you to have to endure the emotional and physical pain.

Now, I will always wonder if any of the many kids that I hung around with while growing up had also suffered any abuse. As a kid, I never paid attention to anything like that. I wasn’t even aware of any of my friend’s parents being drinkers, let alone an abuser. If there were, they did a great job of hiding it.

 

[Pepper]

I never knew of this stuff until I was in college. Then I met kids my age whose parents were alcoholic and/or were cruel to them in some way. I guess I was blissfully sheltered.

 

[Phoenix]

I love the good old days when I was a child with the holidays and they were very very nice because we had a big family and celebrated everything all the time.

But times change and we have to roll with the times I guess and we can never go back to the times of old
except in our memories and in our memories they live there forever.

So we make new memories and hopefully they will be memorable too.

With my mom, her memories of some of the good things in her past did not live forever. She would look at a picture of when she and her brother went to Hawaii, something Dad was never willing to do because he feared flying. So after he died, her brother Leo went with her. As she looked up at the picture, she said, "I know we went. There's the picture, but I don't remember any of it." It was sad. As we age, due to illness and medication, we often lose some of ourselves and the memories go away.