What is with rude people?

UpstateGal said:
That approach may work in the UK but here in the US, it could get you shot, even in a hospital. :confused:
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You may be right. There are unstable people everywhere. This is where your instincts and smarts come into play. You have to know when you can make your point understood or not. I think everyone has heard "shut up" at one time or another. When I was on duty, more than I cared to.

Some people just don't respect anyone mainly because they want to stay in control and when we tell that person to shut up, they take it to the next step because we are challenging their authority and may lose control. There is a right way and wrong way to handle situations. This is why when a situation arises that we want to act upon, we take the time to think it through before acting. This is all taught at the State Police Academy. We always have to be aware of our surroundings.

BTW, we had a shooting at one of our 2 hospitals on 2/22/25. A man took everyone on the ICU floor hostage and took one nurse to be used as his shield. He shot and killed one police officer and injured 3 other officers and 2 additional people aiding. The shooter was also shot and killed by a trained marksman from the SWAT team.

Since that time, the hospital has added extra security with additional cameras, metal detectors, detection wands at all entrances. Anyone caught with weapons trying to enter will be asked to leave or be arrested. The other hospital has been secured. for several years The people in my community never thought something like this would ever happen here. So, like I said, it makes no difference where you live, there are unstable people everywhere and we all have to be diligent with checking our surroundings.
 

MaddHollander said:
My son recently went to the hospital emergency room in the middle of the night with abdominal pain that turned out to be a burst appendix.

When I arrived he was asleep. My daughter in law was snoozing in a chair. I went to the canteen to get a coffee. The cashier saw my visitor pass, said she hoped everything would be OK and wouldn’t let me pay.

At that hour the canteen was nearly empty, just a handful of hospital employees on break and a couple of visitors scattered around the tables. I took a seat at an empty table near the giant wall television. The old ‘Andy Griffith Show’ from the ‘60s was quietly on the tv, low volume.

I was unexpectedly soon joined by another visitor at the table, an old timer with a large iced coffee who immediately and VERY LOUDLY said, “If a show like this was made today it would have to have minorities, you know, Orientals, Spanish and African Americans.” But he used the N word.

Everyone in the canteen heard his comment and turned to look. Not wanting anyone to think I was with this ignorant nitwit I quickly got up and left.
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You did the correct thing but as you also know sometimes people just say stupid things .

I recall you were in a union ?

So as you know no one group has a patent on racism .

I'm in Miami and it was an eye opener .
 
Automatically Hate someone not black using the N word. I wouldn't "correct" those types though. Disgusting, yes @rgp, I'm judging them.
 

Some people have been so outspoken for so long that they don’t realize that the majority of people would find their comments and behavior unacceptable.

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We had our share of those people in my family.

They were, for the most part, good people that meant no harm or ill will to anyone.

Being offended is a choice.
 
Aunt Bea said:
Some people have been so outspoken for so long that they don’t realize that the majority of people would find their comments and behavior unacceptable.

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We had our share of those people in my family.

They were, for the most part, good people that meant no harm or ill will to anyone.

Being offended is a choice.
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The character Archie was afraid of the changes yet he stood up for the Jeffersons his new neighbors when it came down to it .
 
My father used the "N" word, but I don't think he really had any idea how offensive it is. Attempts to explain that just led to him getting belligerant. And the funny thing is I don't really think the man was racist. In one on one conversations with black people, usually one of his nurses, he would call them "hon" and "sugar", etc. (Which, by the way I would find offensive if someone did it to me in my work environment.)

Yep, Archie and Edith were pretty much my mom and dad.
 
While watching a T V program where a black man was being a real jerk, I imagined the man to be white and yup, it was easy, for race/color sure doesn't make a difference in how one chooses to behave. No race is superior to another, nor basically different.
 
GP44 said:
I went to see my G.P. to try to get something to help relieve the effects of whatever I caught that is going around.
I checked in and sat down and in less than five minutes a young man checks in and sits across from me.
He started talking like I was a long lost friend and with my weak hearing and the waiting room tv very loud it was very difficult to converse besides the fact that I had been in agony for four days.
Finally another young man walks in and sits down and the next thing you know they high five and are having a rip roaring time.
I kid you not another young guy comes along sits down and it sounds like a bachelor party or something.
I was never so happy as when I was directed to spend the next 45 minutes in the solitude of the little private exam room.
Dr. said I had strep again and prescribed the amox/clave horse pills.
I dread ever going to that office again not that I have been overjoyed at the idea of seeing a doctor in the first place.
I hope you don’t take me for a snob but the loud tv was bad enough without the party atmosphere when I wasn’t feeling very well as it was.
What can a person do?
I hope this doesn’t become a trend.
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I have no problem whatsoever in reacting to those situations with an icy response and a condescending look.
 
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GP44 said:
In this case I had wished that they were that type. I suppose they were talking loud to be heard above the tv but like I said a minute after the second one arrived they were laughing and even high fived each other so that kind of shows the attitude these other “patients” had.
By the way loud guy number one said his middle toe was swollen and had turned blue. Not gout but something about an ingrown toenail.
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what attitude does it show?

They were too loud and sometimes people dont realise how loud they are getting - which is why I suggest asking them or receptionist to ask them to turn their volume down (and maybe receptionist t o turn TV volume down)
But I m not sure how laughing and high fiving each other is a problem - other than the noise level - or why you have put patients in inverted commas :unsure:
 
MaddHollander said:
My son recently went to the hospital emergency room in the middle of the night with abdominal pain that turned out to be a burst appendix.

When I arrived he was asleep. My daughter in law was snoozing in a chair. I went to the canteen to get a coffee. The cashier saw my visitor pass, said she hoped everything would be OK and wouldn’t let me pay.

At that hour the canteen was nearly empty, just a handful of hospital employees on break and a couple of visitors scattered around the tables. I took a seat at an empty table near the giant wall television. The old ‘Andy Griffith Show’ from the ‘60s was quietly on the tv, low volume.

I was unexpectedly soon joined by another visitor at the table, an old timer with a large iced coffee who immediately and VERY LOUDLY said, “If a show like this was made today it would have to have minorities, you know, Orientals, Spanish and African Americans.” But he used the N word.

Everyone in the canteen heard his comment and turned to look. Not wanting anyone to think I was with this ignorant nitwit I quickly got up and left.
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You should have said, yea, and you could be the town racist.
 
GP44 said:
In this case I had wished that they were that type. I suppose they were talking loud to be heard above the tv but like I said a minute after the second one arrived they were laughing and even high fived each other so that kind of shows the attitude these other “patients” had.
By the way loud guy number one said his middle toe was swollen and had turned blue. Not gout but something about an ingrown toenail.
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UpstateGal said:
That approach may work in the UK but here in the US, it could get you shot, even in a hospital. :confused:
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I have never experienced lackluster behaviour of patients, visitors or staff in a US hospital. Well, maybe the Indian Dot dietician who tried to tell me how to cook. She did her best:)
 
MaddHollander said:
My son recently went to the hospital emergency room in the middle of the night with abdominal pain that turned out to be a burst appendix.

When I arrived he was asleep. My daughter in law was snoozing in a chair. I went to the canteen to get a coffee. The cashier saw my visitor pass, said she hoped everything would be OK and wouldn’t let me pay.

At that hour the canteen was nearly empty, just a handful of hospital employees on break and a couple of visitors scattered around the tables. I took a seat at an empty table near the giant wall television. The old ‘Andy Griffith Show’ from the ‘60s was quietly on the tv, low volume.

I was unexpectedly soon joined by another visitor at the table, an old timer with a large iced coffee who immediately and VERY LOUDLY said, “If a show like this was made today it would have to have minorities, you know, Orientals, Spanish and African Americans.” But he used the N word.

Everyone in the canteen heard his comment and turned to look. Not wanting anyone to think I was with this ignorant nitwit I quickly got up and left.
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How is your son? What happened to him?
Did he have his appendix removed?
 
GP44 said:
I went to see my G.P. to try to get something to help relieve the effects of whatever I caught that is going around.
I checked in and sat down and in less than five minutes a young man checks in and sits across from me.
He started talking like I was a long lost friend and with my weak hearing and the waiting room tv very loud it was very difficult to converse besides the fact that I had been in agony for four days.
Finally another young man walks in and sits down and the next thing you know they high five and are having a rip roaring time.
I kid you not another young guy comes along sits down and it sounds like a bachelor party or something.
I was never so happy as when I was directed to spend the next 45 minutes in the solitude of the little private exam room.
Dr. said I had strep again and prescribed the amox/clave horse pills.
I dread ever going to that office again not that I have been overjoyed at the idea of seeing a doctor in the first place.
I hope you don’t take me for a snob but the loud tv was bad enough without the party atmosphere when I wasn’t feeling very well as it was.
What can a person do?
I hope this doesn’t become a trend.
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@GP44 unfortunately, for too many decades, too many people in the US have justified/ rationalized the bad, rude, inconsiderate and selfish behavior of the general public. I believe there are statistics about how rude Americans have become.

The best way to get any satisfaction from this situation is to find a new GP if you can. Also, if possible try to make the first appointment of the day.

Hope the meds are helping you feel better.
 
I think the young man was just being friendly. Perhaps he was nervous about seeing the doctor and talking helped to calm him.
I know it's difficult to be responsive when you're feeling ill. When I broke my arm and was waiting in pain at the hospital, a man asked me why I was looking so miserable!
 
I thought that this person’s actions were rude: My local bagel shop has a free ‘Take a Book - Leave a Book’ bin for customers. There’s usually a dozen or so in the bin, ever changing and definitely popular. I think it’s a good idea and I will sometimes leave a book, most recently “Shutter Island.” This morning a woman purchased a coffee and left with 4 books! IMO taking 4 books is rude.
 
Twostep said:
Why would someone be nervous when going to the doctor?
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People are nervous about discussing personal issues, about the results of their tests, about being physically examined, about procedures which could cause pain etc etc

Yo u have heard of white coat syndrome? - where people's blood pressure is higher in the doctors than in real life because of nervousness.

One doctor I used to work with said in his head he deducts 10 from whatever blood pressure the patient got in the surgery - allowing for a small degree of white coat syndrome in every patient.
 
January said:
People are nervous about discussing personal issues, about the results of their tests, about being physically examined, about procedures which could cause pain etc etc

Yo u have heard of white coat syndrome? - where people's blood pressure is higher in the doctors than in real life because of nervousness.

One doctor I used to work with said in his head he deducts 10 from whatever blood pressure the patient got in the surgery - allowing for a small degree of white coat syndrome in every patient.
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Maybe I am not normal?
 
Maybe you are not nervous when going t o see a doctor , that isnt abnormal, nobody said this applies all the time to everyone- but many people are, for the sorts of reasons I listed.

Even if you are not, it surely isnt hard to understand why others could be.
 

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