What strategies do you employ to decrease or control your anxieties

Fyrefox said:
Growing up with a narcissistic, emotionally abusive mother, I am no stranger to anxiety. My sister gravitated towards depression. The chickens of my childhood came home to roost when I acquired a supervisor at work who was much like my mother. Medication allowed me to survive that job while I embraced cognitive behavioral therapy techniques. The realization in mid-life that I was not responsible for how other people thought and felt was profoundly liberating for me. I use reframing a lot in my daily life, no longer allowing myself to see inconveniences as problems, and I monitor my “self-talk“ to root out erroneous and self-defeating beliefs…
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sorry for your experiences, mine are similar. same thing...narcissistic, emotionally abusive mother. In my case, my mother had a reasonably high IQ and extremely advanced creative skills. That made her manipulative ability just through the roof. Only a handful of people ever pierced the veil and realized who she really was.

I personally don't think of it as evil. I think of it as mental illness.
 

When I have so many things to to that I start to get overwhelmed, I make a paper and pencil list, and fix one thing at a time. Even before I'm half way through, I can see it's not as bad as I thought it was, and I feel calmed. When I finish the list, it is very satisfying too.
 
What strategies do you employ to decrease or control your anxieties
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That is the Million Dollar Question, all kinds of approaches available. Without using prescription / non-prescription / street drugs, it takes some effort. With practice, the "horror show" of carrying regrets from the past and apprehension of the future can be lessened. When I walk the dogs I focus my attention on the sunshine, the breeze, the sounds of the dogs walking and breathing. When I'm thinking about what I "should" be doing, I try to instead appreciate the stillness in the room, or of my body. Almost euphoric, but takes a mental 'bookmark' and practice.
 

JustDave said:
When I have so many things to to that I start to get overwhelmed, I make a paper and pencil list, and fix one thing at a time. Even before I'm half way through, I can see it's not as bad as I thought it was, and I feel calmed. When I finish the list, it is very satisfying too.
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I understand this completely, in theory. In practice though it doesn't work out quite the same for me. Though I am very must a list person, and I have many lists for many different things, and manage them all well, still I seem to be incapable of making a personal to-do list short enough to ever finish. My personal to do list is always being added to, changed, tweaked, re-ordered etc, so it isn't ever complete.

I do feel a deep sense of satisfaction in being able to cross of items, it's just never finished! 🤦‍♀️
 

What strategies do you employ to decrease or control your anxieties​


Don't know
never been

I've worked hard all my life
Maybe that's something

I've got this trigger temper to deal with
That's enough
 
Ronni said:
I have plenty more examples but you get the idea. So what about you? What do you do? Any tips and tricks to share?
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Without realizing that it would help, and taking them for preventative reason daily ,
I took B-vitamins for a few months
and my co-workers asked why I was so happy.... I just figured it was my faith in Jesus, although that was all along for years before also...
then a few months later at a layman's meeting for nutrition, I brought this up and wondered if they had any ideas ... they asked what supplements I was taking:
one - apple cider vinegar, acv, raw unfiltered unpasteurized sometimes, regular heinz other times,
and they said that would help many things, but unrelated to happiness other than being healthier overall....
two - B-vitamins - AH HA , so to speak ... "DO YOU KNOW" what the B-vitamins are called they asked ? I shrugged, not knowing.
"The happy pills" because of the results/ effect sufficient b vitamins daily has on people.
 
Bellbird said:
That sounds so much like me.
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I've forced myself to stop asking Alexa for my 3-4 morning news reports. It's hard for me, but I found the repetitive horror stories had built up my anxiety levels way too high. It's been a week without news. I can't say avoidance is working, so far.
 


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