What was your social status in high school?

Mr. Ed

Be what you is not what you what you ain’t
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Central NY
I lived in a small Georgia town 4th grade to 8th grade. Then I moved to a much larger town or city starting 9th grade freshman year. The high school was a huge nightmare of an ordeal where not knowing the right group of people automatically made you an undesirable or in my case invisible.

Naturally having no ties with the cool kids, I opted to join an elite scholarly group of students who were often found lounging on the side cement steps smoking something or another. I don't think I was wannabe but someday I would be a cool kid.

I moved again before my Junior year. I had to get special permission to attend the high school where most of the kids my age attended the church where my dad took over pastoring. The new high school was much smaller and comfortable than my previous high school. On my first day the school newspaper was raising money by hosting The Ugliest Man on Campus beauty Padgett where contestants begged, borrowed or pay a penny a vote, contestants turning in the most money got the most votes.

The victory was bitter sweet, the final day of the count I put in $20 because I wanted to be popular and of course won the contest. I didn't need to put money in to win the contest because I worked hard asking students and everybody to give money toward the cause. But I ruined it for myself by behaving unethically.

My Junior and Senior years were good. It was a small country high school where all the students knew each other. I was in a work release program called DECA while working part time at a grocery chain, and later went to work loading UPS trailers. I had a car when I worked at UPS and because I drove, I met a coworker who introduced me to Atlanta night life, bars and concerts.

High school, go figure?

Through DECA I flew out to Los Angeles for national convention. Traveled and visited various businesses throughout Georgia. Got kicked out of DECA for partying. Used to have wild parties when parents were away. Great neighbors! never called the police. Never arrested, thankfully. Law abiding citizen today. Too old for shenanigans.
 

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After graduating from 8th grade I attended a much larger high school. At first we stuck with the kids we knew from grammar school but as time went on we all branched out a bit.
My group of friends were far from being considered cool. We went mostly unnoticed, did our time, just waiting for graduation but had fun after school and on weekends.
We went our separate ways but kept a few close friends. A few have passed on, others I lost track of .
One friend that I did meet in high school is now in a nursing home but we still keep in touch.
 
I played sports, and I was pretty good at it, so had a lot of friends in that group. I also took a couple art classes, and was good at it, so had a lot of friends in that group. They were definitely not the same friends but I enjoyed a couple of long-lasting friendships from each group. I was popular but not super popular, mainly because my family didn't have a lot of money. Still, I had a good time. But when I was given the opportunity to graduate early, I took it.
 
I was a B to C list type.

Probably more toward the low end of the B list or maybe a high (and I often was) C.

I surfed so I associated and even hung out a little bit with other surfers many of whom were A and high B list types, but I was never part of the really popular crowd. OTOH, I didn't try either as I didn't particularly like those popular kids and had enough pride and self respect that I didn't need to grovel.

I had two or three close friends all the way through school and I was happy with it that way.
 
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I was popular mostly for my sense of humor. The girls liked me . . . :cool:
I didn't play sports although the varsity football coach asked me play because I could run like the wind . . . especially if there were some goons chasing me. The guys I surfed with were on the swim team and played water polo. But my parents refused to let me play.
I was elected Student Body President in my senior year and got yelled at by the dean of students because I didn't do anything.
 
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In high school I went back & forth between being an undesirable and invisible. Attending a high school where almost all the kids were wealthy but I wasn't didn't help either. I used to look back on it wishing I had tried being friends with the group of gals who were I guess you could call "respected nerds." They were bookish, weren't at all interested in the popular guys (or gals either) or going to the Prom; these gals were straight A students and had their eyes on college & careers. But! They weren't picked on by the popular kids because being wealthy, they always wore the "right" clothes and got cars no older than 2 yrs for their Sweet 16" birthdays.

I *used* to wish I had tried being friends with them back in the day and wished I could find a group of gals like that now. But a few years back, I found out it's just as well I never tried back in high school because I accidentally stumbled onto a group of gals like that at a place where I volunteered and found out they didn't want to be friends with me either. So live and learn.
 
I prefer to focus on the positive... so we will skip over Freshman and Sophomore year to my junior year when I moved from LA to Saratoga Springs NY. I fit in much better on the East Coast (think red head/fair skin--no tanning-- in S. California in the early 70's... not a happy combo). Loved New England, was in the school play, went to the prom, was in the honor society and involved with the Foreign Exchange Club. Went to Montreal with a class trip, learned how to ice skate (not well) and thoroughly *loved* the country as compared to big city life! Not one of the popular kids but not a total loser either.
 
I played sports, and I was pretty good at it, so had a lot of friends in that group. I also took a couple art classes, and was good at it, so had a lot of friends in that group. They were definitely not the same friends but I enjoyed a couple of long-lasting friendships from each group. I was popular but not super popular, mainly because my family didn't have a lot of money. Still, I had a good time. But when I was given the opportunity to graduate early, I took it.
Interesting. High schools in my area ran on a credit system similar to college. As a result, I never had to go through the 12th grade because I was finished by the end of the 11th grade so I graduated early and was in the Army when my classmates were going into the 12th grade. When I got back from Vietnam, I just couldn't connect with them because it all seemed so childish to me by then.

Tony
 

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