What were your aspirations growing up? Were your aspirations satisfactorily full-filled

Mr. Ed

Mr. Ed

Be what you is not what you what you ain’t
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Before the ninth grade everything to do with church was my life. Family moved to a larger town with greater diversity than former small town limitations. I took Art first year of high school and met some interesting people with a broader sense of reality.

I was turned on to the music of the times and set out to be enlightened. We moved again outside of Atlanta Ga. during a time of psychedelic experimentation to ultimately losing my mind. After that I just listened to music. Aspirations stopped.

34 years passed, spiritual awareness satisfied my desire for enlightenment. I found what I was searching for, I shouldn't complain but all of those lonely years of isolation could have been avoided if knew what I know now. Do we have the right to complain about the life we have when life is not to blame?
 

I'm very happy with the life I've had and feel very fortunate to have experienced so many of the things I have. However the life I lived had very little to do with my aspirations growing up. Some things that I thought I wanted as part of my life lost their appeal over time. Other things I hadn't even considered or known about became much more important to me over time. I don't think I would have ever imagined the life I've had when I was younger.

With each relationship I had I learned from my partner as she introduced me to new things or shared different perspectives. The cooperation of partnership in each relationship changed the way I dealt with other people and helped me bring my desires into the relationship.

Interestingly enough it wasn't until my late 20's or early 30's that I really learned that the course of my life was through my choices. As elementary as the concept seems it didn't really stick with me until then. Up until that point I was working to put get what I wanted about the life I thought I was supposed to have.

Given the chance, would I change anything about my life, definitely. However I wouldn't want to alter it enough to have changed where I am today.
 
I wanted to be a nun when very young then a rock singer as a teenager. I did sing in a rock band until my very early twenties when my dear friend and leader of the band committed suicide. :( So I decided to go to college. I wanted to do something that would benefit others while pleasing and supporting myself and I did do all that until a year ago. Now I just irritate everyone. :cry:

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I'm not having either the retirement or old age I was hoping for; but since I learned about nuclear war when I was about 10 yrs old, I figured that's how I was gonna die, so I guess I sorta came out ahead.
 
As a young boy I wanted to follow in my father's footsteps and be a hero aviator but my eyesight ended that. Then, I wanted to be a veterinarian but seeing my pets so afraid of the vet I didn't like that idea. Then, in high school really planned on becoming a marine biologist studying sharks. Well, the war got in the way of that and by the time I came home I was just lost . . .
 
I married young and quickly became a young father. Next thing I knew I had 3 kids and a very troubled wife. Looking back, she and I really didn't take the time to connect, we just did our jobs; I worked, she did the best she could at being a mom. And then she left us. I had plans and dreams up to that point but put them and her behind me immediately, and for the next 20-some years the only thing I focused on was not messing up my kids. I probably focused on that way too much. I totally stopped thinking about my future and only thought about theirs, mainly what kind of people they could be. I don't think that was necessary. There was probably a middle-ground.
 
Interesting to read a couple of the above posts. I was raised in a very "churchy" family. Uncle was a pastor and I was supposed to become one. Graduated high school and off to seminary. Two years later, I was having difficulty digesting some of the teachings and dropped out. Really disappointed parents and grandparents. Married a beautiful blonde at age 20. Going on 55 years later, she is still putting up with me. Never would have dreamed I'd spend 40 years in engineering and construction, but that career provided a good living for my family. Far different from pounding on a pulpit!! :>)
 
Murrmurr said:
I married young and quickly became a young father. Next thing I knew I had 3 kids and a very troubled wife. Looking back, she and I really didn't take the time to connect, we just did our jobs; I worked, she did the best she could at being a mom. And then she left us. I had plans and dreams up to that point but put them and her behind me immediately, and for the next 20-some years the only thing I focused on was not messing up my kids. I probably focused on that way too much. I totally stopped thinking about my future and only thought about theirs, mainly what kind of people they could be. I don't think that was necessary. There was probably a middle-ground.
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I personally am more impressed by someone who thinks they should have focused on their own future rather than their kids futures as opposed to the other way around. I hope that you can look at your kids now and appreciate your efforts to help them get where they are.

BTW, I consider myself to be in the less impressive category, but I'm at peace with the past.
 
I never thought I'd make it to the age of 30, so I had no asperations growing up. It wasn't until I passed that age when I thought, hey, I might be around for a while, so maybe I'd better get off my ass and do something! So I went to university. My family was calling me a self-made man, since my parents were working class. Not that there's anything wrong with working class, but they never encouraged me to do anything.
 
When I was young I was interested in flying and submarines. My father wanted to be an engineer, but with a family he did not finish college. I graduated from the same college he went to, and then left NY for the West Coast. I had to get out on my own.
I became a Field engineer and rode in a couple of nuclear submarines. I got my pilots license in 1972, and am still flying.
I wanted to travel and "see the world", and have been to all 7 continents and all 24 time zones. The best part of my traveling is with @Kayelle, to see things through her eyes.
 
Since I really didn't have any aspirations while growing up, I figure it all turned out just fine. I don't think about what I would have done differently because I have no idea what any changes might have done to the present. Since the present turned out OK, I wouldn't want to mess with that.

Of course, there is always a song in these things...


Tony
 
I had wanted to take a chemistry course in high school, but not a good idea with essential tremoring hands--I might blow up the lab. :) So decided on flight attendant thinking my shaking hands would not be a problem. Had to give up that dream. Got a job as a keypuncher at Oscar Meyer, married a guy who thought he was God's gift to all women. Had 2 children. Divorced him. Essential tremors spread from head to toe & I could not get hired for any job. Embarrassingly, had to apply for welfare. So much for career dreams. When I watch people who do this and that with steady hands I'm amazed--and a bit envious. Once when I watched my daughter typing just as easily and accurately as you please, I could have sworn she was faking hitting all the correct keys. lol
 
Now that I am grown, (up?) I have aspirations to achieve open water scuba certification in 2 ½ months. For health and longevity I take Human Growth Hormones, testosterone building supplement, swim occasionally, Protein shakes, protein oatmeal, healthy diet, exercise, yoga stretches. Mineral supplements,
I can tell a difference health wise from since I started in January, my downfall is impatience.
 

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