What would you do if friend crapped out at last minute

debodun

debodun

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Say a friend had promised weeks in advance to provide transportation for you for a medical procedure that you would not be allowed to drive afterwards. Then the the night before, when it is too late to make alternative arrangements, called you and said they can't do it?
 

Very inconsiderate giving that late notice, guess better than no notice at all. If it were me, I'd at least call a couple of days ahead of time if possible so you can make other plans. Looks like you'll have to use public transportation or get another friend or neighbor to do you the favor.
 

Call a cab or use public transit. Rethink your relationship with that person unless they had a very good reason for backing out at the last minute.
 
That's true RadishRose, if something really came up suddenly and they had good intentions before that, it's very forgivable and understandable.
 
Sometimes a person may not be able to afford a cab. If I did that out here it would probably cost me $150, one way. The person may have had a legitimate reason, but I would be hesitant to trust them again.
 
Some procedures I have had done, I was not permitted to call a cab. They required someone to be there, come back and get me when they were ready to release me. I always hate asking people, it makes me feel so needy. I don't totally understand the reasoning but it may be because after anesthesia, they want to be certain you arrive home safely with someone taking that responsibility. Sorry that happened to you Debodun, hope you didn't have to cancel. Had to be disappointing for sure.
 
As Carla just stated, depending on the procedure, can't call a cab, they won't drive you. Liabilities. In fact, we asked the patient prior to the procedure who their driver was and if there was no one, procedure got cancelled until a driver could be arranged.
 
Debodun, That happened to me once. I was fortunate to get a hold of someone to pick me up after the procedure and drive me home. I drove to the hospital and left my car there and had to impose on others to retrieve my car and bring it to my home afterwards. I never asked that person to do me a favor again. No excuse was given. And I never offered any of my services to them either. To me, that was a 'low blow'. They are no longer part of my life. I hope you were able to make other arrangements and not have to reschedule as medical procedures are definitely stressful.
 
Someone did this very thing to me, no explanation, just a message on the phone telling me that she had to work the next day. Imagine her surprise when I walked by and saw her in her kitchen window as she was not at work. We have not spoken since as she was to embarrassed to even pick up the phone when I called.
 
Many years ago I had to bail on someone at the last minute because I was suddenly stricken with the flu and was, among other things, VERY, very dizzy. There was no way it would have been safe for me to drive -- I could barely get to the bathroom. That flu flattened me for 10 days.

I figured, and still do, that it was kinder to leave him in the lurch than try to drive and get us both killed. He understood, of course, and actually helped me out while I was so sick.

Some things just can't be helped. BUT, having said that, if I had committed to drive the person, I would NEVER bail out just because I had decided I didn't want to do it or just because I was feeling a little icky.
 
Redd said:
Someone did this very thing to me, no explanation, just a message on the phone telling me that she had to work the next day. Imagine her surprise when I walked by and saw her in her kitchen window as she was not at work. We have not spoken since as she was to embarrassed to even pick up the phone when I called.
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The real issue is that she lied to you, is it not?
 
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