What would you do if someone wanted their inheritance prematurely?

What woudl you do if someone wanted their inheritence now?

  • comply

    Votes: 1 7.7%

  • ignore them and make no changes to your will

    Votes: 5 38.5%

  • ignore them and write them out of your will

    Votes: 7 53.8%
  • Total voters
    13
  • Poll closed .
debodun

debodun

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Say one day someone that you had named as a beneficiary in your will called you and asked if they could get their inheritance right away, what would you do?
 

I would decline, write them out of the will and then hope that they didn't put a contract out on me. :)
 

I could never write my family out of my will.
They know my financial situation and I promised never
to leave them any debts. I could and would give them
a loan if possible.
 
Initially, I would be pissed, but if they had a good, no, very good reason, then maybe I would consider. Otherwise, they would have to wait in line like everyone else is doing.
 
Some people do pass on some inheritance money while they are still alive if they feel their children need it, for whatever reasons. It seems rather miserly to me to make them wait until your dead before you part with a penny, hanging onto it until the bitter end, especially if you have plenty. I don't see the harm in giving money early and enjoying seeing the kids benefiting while you are still alive.
 
I'm trying to balance that out. On the one hand, I'd love to pass out money freely to enjoy seeing them get use out of it and other the other hand, I am trying to help them by not needing help FROM them in my old age. That might be the best present I can give them. I don't want to be in my mother's position, needing financial help whenever something big comes up (needing new refrigerator, roof repairs, car repairs, etc.) Luckily, there are four of us contributing to her upkeep. I only have one child and I have no illusions about the kind of help I can expect.....
 
Inheritance? If the creditors and attorneys don't take all, they can divide what's left with their siblings and step-siblings.
 
I would likely ignore them and make no changes to the will itself. But if they were in a desperate situation I would try to help them get through it with maybe a temporary loan and advice on how to avoid that situation in the future. So that was my vote. But....if they were really cocky about it, didn't really need the money just wanted it for petty or greedy purposes, and were snarky about me making them wait for me to drop dead first, I would definitely write someone like that out of my will. Although I doubt a person like that would have been in my will to begin with.
 
Butterfly said:
Love it! Even in my screwed up family, I can't imagine anyone being crude and insensitive enough to even ask such a question.
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1 ditto.gif..Our children understand that everything we have goes first to the remaining spouse..Hopefully we have raised them to realize that the remaining spouse will need all that we have..
 
When our family member passed away, the attorney helping to settle the estate called to inform me, adult step-grandchildren, who had no contact with our uncle for over forty years, received notices from one of those heir locating companies, containing contact information for our attorney, who they called demanding to know how much money they were entitled to & how soon they could expect to receive those checks. And once that money had been received & spent, those vultures had the nerve to call our attorney again to ask if there was more money they were entitled to.
 
SeaBreeze said:
I would likely ignore them and make no changes to the will itself. But if they were in a desperate situation I would try to help them get through it with maybe a temporary loan and advice on how to avoid that situation in the future. So that was my vote. But....if they were really cocky about it, didn't really need the money just wanted it for petty or greedy purposes, and were snarky about me making them wait for me to drop dead first, I would definitely write someone like that out of my will. Although I doubt a person like that would have been in my will to begin with.
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That's about how I feel. Too many look money as a tool or cup of sugar. Actually like a pen, how many times have you loaned out a pen and in front of your face it does not get returned.

My take is that inheritance is a bonus, not an entitlement. And it's called inheritance for a reason because it's usually given out when someone dies, at the END of their lives.

If one needs or wants money that much they should ask for loan, unfortunately many have learned through experience loans frequently are never paid back and become a defacto gift for which many actually count on.

I would write that person out and have a substantial sum donated to ASPCA so that person can see "their" money went to the dogs.
 
Throughout the years I have helped my kids when they need it and as someone has already mentioned, they don't ask if it is not needed and they know it is part of their inheritance.
 

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