What's my wife's name?

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Murrmurr

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So, for a long time, whenever I've referred to my wife, or I've introduced her to someone, I've said "My wife."

"This is my wife." "Ask my wife." "Do you know where my wife is?"

So, Michelle, my wife, said to me one day, "You know I didn't change my first name, right? I mean, it's still Michelle. 'My Wife' is not my name."

Okay, I got it. So, when I recently introduced her to someone neither of us had ever met, I introduced myself and then said, "...and this is Michelle," and a second later added, "We're married." 😵‍💫

So awkward.

Michelle looked at me like, "WTF?" 😂 ...and so did the person.
 

When my late husband and I had been married two days and had just arrived in Alaska, a friend of his came by.
Jack, (my husband) said, "This is my wife, uh, . . . uh," (couldn't remember my name!)
So I went up to his friend and shook his hand. "Hi, Glad to meet you my name is Cheryl."

I laughed it off because he didn't call me Cheryl. He was used to calling me "Little Darlin!"
and,
We were pretty new together.
I thought it was funny!
 

Happened to me with my daughter
Only worse

She was up from Calif
Dropped by my office
Gave her a tour

Extreme brain fade

Intro'd her as 'my daughter'
(Could NOT recall her name for the life of me!)

'Hey, Kari, this is...... my daughter......'
'Does she have a name?'
'Sure does.....tell her'

AWKWARD.jpg

Wasn't old age memory loss
I was young
 
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Jules said:
This is my wife, Michelle. It’s easy and you’ll learn to say it.
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Perfect! Thanks, Jules, you beat me to it. 😉

I have been there, but not with my husband. My husband always introduced me thus: "I'd like you to meet my wife, Bella." Easy, simple, and to the point. No muss, no fuss.

A number of years ago, we had our kitchen renovated. It was a family-owned business run by a father and son. Throughout the entire procedure, neither of them called me by name. I was home when they were working, and when one of them had a question and was looking for me, he'd call out, "Hello" or "Excuse me." When they were talking to my husband and me about something, I was referred to as "Your wife."

It was beyond annoying. One morning, I answered the door with a post-it note stuck to my chest. In bold letters, it said, "My NAME IS Bella." The old man, who was a wise ass the whole time, said, "Is that so you don't forget who you are?"

I said, "No, that's so you don't forget who I am. My name is not Hello, Excuse Me, or Your Wife. My name is Bella. Please call me Bella. If you have a problem remembering it, just look at the signature on the checks you've been cashing." 🤨
 
Murrmurr said:
So, for a long time, whenever I've referred to my wife, or I've introduced her to someone, I've said "My wife."

"This is my wife." "Ask my wife." "Do you know where my wife is?"

So, Michelle, my wife, said to me one day, "You know I didn't change my first name, right? I mean, it's still Michelle. 'My Wife' is not my name."

Okay, I got it. So, when I recently introduced her to someone neither of us had ever met, I introduced myself and then said, "...and this is Michelle," and a second later added, "We're married." 😵‍💫

So awkward.

Michelle looked at me like, "WTF?" 😂 ...and so did the person.
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And, then, did she add.... "To each other."
😄😁☺️
 
Bella said:
Perfect! Thanks, Jules, you beat me to it. 😉

I have been there, but not with my husband. My husband always introduced me thus: "I'd like you to meet my wife, Bella." Easy, simple, and to the point. No muss, no fuss.

A number of years ago, we had our kitchen renovated. It was a family-owned business run by a father and son. Throughout the entire procedure, neither of them called me by name. I was home when they were working, and when one of them had a question and was looking for me, he'd call out, "Hello" or "Excuse me." When they were talking to my husband and me about something, I was referred to as "Your wife."

It was beyond annoying. One morning, I answered the door with a post-it note stuck to my chest. In bold letters, it said, "My NAME IS Bella." The old man, who was a wise ass the whole time, said, "Is that so you don't forget who you are?"

I said, "No, that's so you don't forget who I am. My name is not Hello, Excuse Me, or Your Wife. My name is Bella. Please call me Bella. If you have a problem remembering it, just look at the signature on the checks you've been cashing." 🤨
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I never have trouble remembering my wife's name, it's just...I don't know why I felt compelled to add "We're married." It felt especially awkward bc we didn't know these people, but also, who even cares if we're married, you know?

I thought it was funny. Weird, but funny.
 
Gaer said:
When my late husband and I had been married two days and had just arrived in Alaska, a friend of his came by.
Jack, (my husband) said, "This is my wife, uh, . . . uh," (couldn't remember my name!)
So I went up to his friend and shook his hand. "Hi, Glad to meet you my name is Cheryl."

I laughed it off because he didn't call me Cheryl. He was used to calling me "Little Darlin!"
and,
We were pretty new together.
I thought it was funny!
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My first husband called me his little darling too! I was a bit unruly at that time and wondered how could he call me that ?
 
You could always introduce a wife as “my better half,” which is complimentary. Not recommended is introducing them as “the old ball and chain,” although for some that might be an accurate description … 😸

One could always take a tip from Stephen King, who refers to his dog as, “the thing of evil…”. 😈
 
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My wife was previously married to another man, and took his last name and used it for many years in her business career. When she and he divorced, she reverted to using her maiden family name. When we got married, she continued to be known by her original birth name, both first and last names. When I introduce her it is " This is my Wife Brenda ( insert her family name here ". Our mail box has our 2 complete names on it, as do all of our legal documents. JimB.
 
I can't think why I personally would want to introduce someone as, "my wife", and only that. In my mind, it seems a bit possessive, and disrespectful. I don't feel that I own anyone.

As it happens, I'm not married, but I wouldn't introduce someone as just, "This is my partner" either. Regardless of the relationship label, wife, partner, or friend, I'd always prioritise mentioning their name first. I've always held the belief that names exist for a reason; they carry significance beyond just a title.
 
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Magna-Carta said:
I can't think why I personally would want to introduce someone as, "my wife", and only that. In my mind, it seems a bit possessive, and disrespectful. I don't feel that I own anyone.

As it happens, I'm not married, but I wouldn't introduce someone as, "This is my partner" either. Regardless of the relationship label, wife, partner, or friend, I'd always prioritise mentioning their name first. I've always held the belief that names exist for a reason; they carry significance beyond just a title."
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I notice that in the UK the term "partner " has various meanings, from common law marriage, to just shacked up, to legal marriage status. Here in Canada, the term "partner " is much less commonly used. JimB.
 
Murrmurr said:
So, for a long time, whenever I've referred to my wife, or I've introduced her to someone, I've said "My wife."

"This is my wife." "Ask my wife." "Do you know where my wife is?"

So, Michelle, my wife, said to me one day, "You know I didn't change my first name, right? I mean, it's still Michelle. 'My Wife' is not my name."

Okay, I got it. So, when I recently introduced her to someone neither of us had ever met, I introduced myself and then said, "...and this is Michelle," and a second later added, "We're married." 😵‍💫

So awkward.

Michelle looked at me like, "WTF?" 😂 ...and so did the person.
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If she really wanted to get you she would have said "no we're not".
 
jimintoronto said:
I notice that in the UK the term "partner " has various meanings, from common law marriage, to just shacked up, to legal marriage status. Here in Canada, the term "partner " is much less commonly used. JimB.
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Yes, I find here it can mean different things to different people, but mainly, I think, give s sense of commitment to each other. And an announcement to others 'outside' that they are committed. Even some married people here have said, 'This is my partner.' Even when married, Favoring that over saying, wife or husband. "Partner", in my mind, seems to be referring to 'equals'.
 
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Murrmurr said:
So, for a long time, whenever I've referred to my wife, or I've introduced her to someone, I've said "My wife."
So awkward.

Michelle looked at me like, "WTF?" 😂 ...and so did the person.
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Easy solution next time ... just ask Michelle what is the proper way she would like to be to introduced ... problem solved.


To any guys out there who introduce their wife as "the Mrs" .... no, no, no!! - that is so dorky ! .. and so unprofessional, especially to business associates you care to impress.
 

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