What's my wife's name?

[hollydolly]

My grandfather used to refer to my grandmother as "my woman", or "the woman". She always called him, "Joe".

In Scotland when I was growing up... women always referred to their husband as ''Ma man''... so a conversation would rarely ever mention the husbands' name... ''ma man.. did this or that''...

 

[hearlady]

Better than "My old lady (or man)".

 

[Pepper]

What's her middle name Frank?

 

[Murrmurr]

Easy solution next time ... just ask Michelle what is the proper way she would like to be to introduced ... problem solved.


To any guys out there who introduce their wife as "the Mrs" .... no, no, no!! - that is so dorky ! .. and so unprofessional, especially to business associates you care to impress.

I remember the days when she was "my old lady."

And it's not that I ever forget my wife's name, it was the "We're married" part that was odd (and totally unnecessary). It's like I was so intensely focused on avoiding the word Wife, my brain told my mouth to blurt out a substitute.

 

[Murrmurr]

What's her middle name Frank?

Louise. And she hates it.

And again, it's not that I ever forget her name, it was the involuntary "We're married" that made everyone look at me like "Okaaay."

I always call her Meesh. She usually calls me Funk. When Paxton visits, it's Funkle.

 

[Jules]

Okay, I got it. So, when I recently introduced her to someone neither of us had ever met, I introduced myself and then said, "...and this is Michelle," and a second later added, "We're married."

Do you think you were feeling a little self conscious about the age difference.

 

[Pepper]

Meesh ell
Frank's belle

 

[Pepper]

Do you think you were feeling a little self conscious about the age difference.

Good question

 

[Murrmurr]

My wife was previously married to another man, and took his last name and used it for many years in her business career. When she and he divorced, she reverted to using her maiden family name. When we got married, she continued to be known by her original birth name, both first and last names. When I introduce her it is " This is my Wife Brenda ( insert her family name here ". Our mail box has our 2 complete names on it, as do all of our legal documents. JimB.

My son and his wife did an interesting thing; he took her surname hyphenated with his, and she legally changed her middle name to his surname. So he's Grant Lannister-Murr and she's Cersei Murr Lannister. (not exactly their real names)

 

[Murrmurr]

Do you think you were feeling a little self conscious about the age difference.

Good question

Huh. Maybe so. It would be an unconscious self-consciousness, but that does seem logical.

 

[Pepper]

Yeah, maybe you made sure everyone knew Meesh your wife, not daughter!

 

[hollydolly]

Do you think you were feeling a little self conscious about the age difference.

Never thought of that...

 

[Murrmurr]

Never thought of that...

Me neither, but it makes sense.

 

[Pepper]

Frank is a cradle robber, Frank is a cradle robber

 

[Murrmurr]

Frank is a cradle robber, Frank is a cradle robber

I know you are, but what am I?

 

[Pepper]

I also know the song
Baby baby stick her head in gravy
Wash it off with bubblegum
Sell it to the navy

 

[Murrmurr]

I also know the song
Baby baby stick her head in gravy
Wash it off with bubblegum
Sell it to the navy

Never heard that one before. But my dad told me how bad navy food got toward the end of WWll...he would have eaten that.

 

[Murrmurr]

I can't think why I personally would want to introduce someone as, "my wife", and only that. In my mind, it seems a bit possessive, and disrespectful. I don't feel that I own anyone.

As it happens, I'm not married, but I wouldn't introduce someone as just, "This is my partner" either. Regardless of the relationship label, wife, partner, or friend, I'd always prioritise mentioning their name first. I've always held the belief that names exist for a reason; they carry significance beyond just a title.

Michelle has no problem with "This is my wife, Michelle" or whatever, as long as her name is in there somewhere.