What's your bad habit/s ?

Bad habits? None anymore, TBH. Stopped smoking at 30, barely drink, don't take drugs, am no longer so slamma-jammed for time that I'm late for appointments, and have never been a compulsive shopper, over eater, collector, etc.

Personality flaws? That's a different thing and I've got plenty of those:

I'm often impatient when people drone on and on with nonsense like what they dreamed the night before. (A 30 second snippet is fine, but beyond that, who really cares?) See... there's my impatience.

I can be pedantic about spelling, grammar, false internet stories, unchecked "facts," and sources that either aren't cited or are aren't credible.

Over the top patriotism for any country, especially when it includes or implies "my country is better than yours," makes me crazy.

I have little tolerance for people who repeatedly whine about the same problems and do nothing to solve them, despite the loads of good advice they've solicited and received. There's a difference between being a victim and a volunteer.
 
bobcat said:
I tend to be a rescuer. I see people with problems, and I feel compelled to help them. It may seem good on the surface, but it can be a wrong choice.
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I can relate, I’ve been there many times. Noteing that it can become the wrong choice at times, in the slow realisation that either they can’t be helped, or don’t want to be helped. Just stringing you along for reasons that they might not be able to control.

It can be extremely character building though for the “rescuer”. Even very enlightening; the “rescuer” then developing a better understanding of the world, and a better understanding of most of the people in it. Don’t you think?

We still feel compelled to be the rescuer though, regardless of our experiences with the other person/persons from the past. It seems like something inbuilt in the rescuer. Not always being sure where it comes from.
 

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Pappy said:
I’ve always been a gaseous person, both over the table and under the table. Burps and farts are a tune one hears quite a bit in my home, but I promise I won’t fart while I’m on Senior forum this morning.
( I lied)…:sneaky::sneaky:
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You leave me with the sense that you can sound quite skilfully symphonic.

Have you been known to sneeze and or cough at the same time. Do you get an extreme feeling of rapture during these episodes you describe of yourself.

Have you thought of making money from it. Maybe in a well ventilated auditorium?
 
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hollydolly said:
What habits do you have that you perhaps wish you didn't have ?
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I'm OCD

Been that way since before it had a name (didn't know)
I've shed most the traits
No longer count steps (like from the car to the porch)
No longer need things in pairs, or sets of five
No longer need the volume dial on an even number

But some traits remain

The good part is keeping things fastidiously organized

The last remaining weird one (that I'm aware of) is picking at my scabs
I do a lot of manual labor
Things happen
I heal quickly
Thus a healing cover (scab)

Can't seem to leave 'em alone
Pick at the edges.....until they bleed
Drives my woman nuts

I've got a fresh one
Stabbed my hand with the bit of a driver
Right in the crotch of my thumb and forefinger

The nail of my forefinger is itching to get at it
Oughta be fun
 
Try covering the scab with a bandaid, Gary. Then you can pick at the edge of that like I do.
horseless carriage said:
My bad habit is putting off important tasks until the last minute and then rushing to complete them. Who else did their school homework the following morning before leaving for school?
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I didn't do the homework at all and just figured the lecture from the teacher would be over with faster than the studying.
Apathy being one of my bad habits.
 
hollydolly said:
I have been racking my 2 brain cells to think if I have a bad habit, and I don't think I do.... :D
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...actually maybe my bad habit is being unable to count... I do have 4 brain cells not 2... :sneaky:

However, in reality I don't have any obvious bad habits..like @StarSong said.. I don't smoke, I don't drink alcohol.. I don't take drugs.. I don't bite my nails.. ..unlike someone else, I don't dunk biscuits in tea... or like @Gary O' ..pick at scabs..:ROFLMAO:

...but like Star... if we want to call it a Habit, and I personally don't...it's my lack of patience.. that's always been an issue...gets me in some situations sometimes because I don't look before I leap..altho' as I age I'm getting a little better at that.....again more a personality issue than a habit is my over generosity with my time for lame ducks

BTW @Gary O' ..I still count... even count while I'm filling the kettle.. .but I don't think it's a bad habit..:D
 
Magna-Carta said:
You leave me with the sense that you can sound quite skilfully symphonic.

Have you been known to sneeze and or cough at the same time. Do you get an extreme feeling of rapture during these episodes you describe of yourself.

Have you thought of making money from it. Maybe in a well ventilated auditorium?
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I have been working on trying all three at once. I imagine it would have a peasant tone to it…
 
Pappy said:
I have been working on trying all three at once. I imagine it would have a peasant tone to it…
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Yes, I would imagine so. And no doubt quite satisfying in some ways. I would imagine it provides you with an enormous sense of wellbeing; a sense of achievement! And who doesn’t want that in life, regardless of age.

Don’t want to be too enthusiastic with it though. After all, some might find it troubling. But we all need to live a little, Pappy. In which ever way we find enjoyment in. Some might even find it enlightening. Just don’t stand next to a naked flame when doing it. And be carful what you eat.

Wise words for us all, I think?
 
feywon said:
That's one of my big ones, tho i have managed to become more selective. Some people don't want rescuing (they actually somewhat enjoy having 'problems' they blame not moving toward their stated goals on; or they get a hidden 'payoff'--like spouse of an alcoholic who leaves when the partner gets sober--because they were comfortable with dynamics of relationship and the sympathy of outsiders).

i still and probably always will do small things helpful for others that are in the moment situational, one and done. Another elder woman locked herself out of car at Post Office? Drive her home for spare key where she makes her hubby drive her back. Someone having difficulty finding a solution to a practical problem? Direct them to sources that can help if i can't.

In my youth i was often the person others called to help a third party in emotional distress. Or called me directly when they themselves were in distress. But after having 3 deeply emotionally wounded husbands i swore off long-term projects. We can't fix anything for anyone (including ourselves) unless the problem is addressed, acknowledged and the individual is ready to make a change.
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You got that right. I have tried to help 2 alcoholics, and you just wind up being the enabler. It wasn't until I read that you need to just leave them alone, because alcoholism is a progressive disease, and it isn't until they reach a crisis that they will decide for themselves it has to change or they die. Either they will get a DUI, or find themselves passed out on the lawn half dressed, or ruin their health, or something else.

To try and help prevents them from getting to that crisis point.
If they need a ride to a rehab center, then that's different.
 
Magna-Carta said:
I can relate, I’ve been there many times. Noteing that it can become the wrong choice at times, in the slow realisation that either they can’t be helped, or don’t want to be helped. Just stringing you along for reasons that they might not be able to control.

It can be extremely character building though for the “rescuer”. Even very enlightening; the “rescuer” then developing a better understanding of the world, and a better understanding of most of the people in it. Don’t you think?

We still feel compelled to be the rescuer though, regardless of our experiences with the other person/persons from the past. It seems like something inbuilt in the rescuer. Not always being sure where it comes from.
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You are so right. It is an educational path. After a while, I began to ask myself "Am I doing this to make them feel better, or am I doing it for the thank you's that make me feel better". I really have to think about it. I have now adopted the attitude that so many others before me have: "If I haven't help someone to help themselves, then I haven't helped them".

Those who are dependent on others to rescue them, never develop the life skills to help themselves. It can be hard to ignore those in need, but if they won't try to help themselves, they won't grow. Having said that, if it's something they just can't do, then that's a bit different, and I understand. Carrying heavy moving boxes downstairs isn't something everyone should try. They genuinely need help.
 
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