When did you move out of your parents house?

Keesha

Keesha

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And why?
What was your first place like?
Did you enjoy your personal freedom?
Did you miss your parents?
 

My mother died when I was 18... I couldn't wait to get away from my abusive father.


I worked and lived in a hotel on a Holiday Island, then met my then husband who was in the Royal Navy


My first , second , third, fourth and fifth houses were in Naval Married quarters bout 200 miles from home ...I liked the life, finally settled in our own home in Civvie street just before my daughter was due to start school, to prevent her becoming a forces brat!!!!
 
I’m sorry you lost your mom so young. Would it be too inquisitive to ask how she died?
Did you keep in contact with your father or choose a ‘no contact’ relationship?
Did you finish all your education before you left home or did you continue your education after you left?
What was your biggest surprise about being on your own?
 

My mother took her own life unintentional overdose they called it, but it was her 3rd time trying over the years from when I was a toddler .. age 39 she finally managed to escape my abusive father..

No contact with father..

I was removed from school at 15 to work and give all my wages to the spawn of the devil who called himself my parent so my education was limited.. no further formal education after that except within my workplace

I have never been surprised about anything when I found myself on my own, since a very small child, I've been expected to look after myself...
 
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When did you move out of your parents house?

Early teens the first time
Gone most the summer
Hardly anyone knew I left
Worked for me
Left a couple times after that
But kept my stuff there
‘cept that last time
…when I came back, my stuff was gone
No point in bein’ there after that


And why?

Folks were divorcing
Seemed to take forever
Got tired of hearing them at night
I needed sleep

What was your first place like?

A shed near my work
It was affordable
It had a water hose
and a floor
I bathed at work
Filled up on baloney sandwiches and chips

Did you enjoy your personal freedom?

always

Did you miss your parents?

can't say as I did
 
I was last child to move out of my parent's house when I was 25.I wanted to live on my own with some independence. My siblings already lived out of state
I had a job so I could afford my small 1 bedrm apt,which ironically was located around the corner from my childhood home
It was harder for my parents since they were used to seeing me all the time.I would call and ask for their advice,but I liked living on my own
In '86, my parents bought a co-opt apt,2 yrs later I moved into same building.We had a rule,we didn't see each other until Sun when we had dinner together.It worked well,but I could always tell they had been in my apt,would find things in my frig LOL!
In '92,when they moved to a retirement community in Hanover,NH,that's when I really missed them.I had no family living here anymore.I'd see them couple times over the yrs until they died Sue
 
hollydolly said:
My mother took her own life unintentional overdose they called it, but it was her 3rd time trying over the years from when I was a toddler .. age 39 she finally managed to escape my abusive father..

No contact with father..

I was removed from school at 15 to work and give all my wages to the span of the devil who called himself my parent so my education was limited.. no further formal education after that except within my workplace

I have never been surprised about anything when I found myself on my own, since a very small child, I've been expected to look after myself...
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Well, sure sounds like you have done just fine for yourself. Sorry you had to go through what you did.....but take pride in how you guided yourself to today.
 
When, 18

And why?

Somewhat demanding mother.

What was your first place like?

Simple apartment, but I liked it.

Did you enjoy your personal freedom?

Yes indeed

Did you miss your parents?

Not really, Never really understood them........Long story........I'll spare ya....:)

 
hollydolly said:
My mother took her own life unintentional overdose they called it, but it was her 3rd time trying over the years from when I was a toddler .. age 39 she finally managed to escape my abusive father..

No contact with father..

I was removed from school at 15 to work and give all my wages to the span of the devil who called himself my parent so my education was limited.. no further formal education after that except within my workplace

I have never been surprised about anything when I found myself on my own, since a very small child, I've been expected to look after myself...
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And, it looks like you've done an excellent job of that. Really.
 
I was approx. 27 when I left home, my parents always said I could stay as long as I wanted but once I was gone I was gone for good.

I stayed at home so long because my fulltime and part-time job combined did not pay enough for me to live on my own.

My first place was a tiny little two bedroom cottage that I bought with my savings and a small mortgage. I used to lay awake nights wondering how I was going to swing the mortgage payment of $225.00 including escrow and a car payment of $90.00/month.

I enjoyed my freedom and I really didn't mind being alone or miss my parents.

I think that it was worse for my parents when they finally realized that they were going to be alone together 24/7 without a buffer between them.
 
Keesha said:
And why?
What was your first place like?
Did you enjoy your personal freedom?
Did you miss your parents?
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I moved out when I was 23, because mom threw me out, after she found out that I was taking birth control.
My first place, really wasn't mine, since I was invited to live with my then boyfriend (we eventually married) and his mother until I could fine a place of my own.
At the time, I was devastated that my own mother would just throw me out for trying to be a responsible adult - I did not immediately enjoy my personal freedom
I missed my step-dad, but I can't say I missed mom.
 
First time at 17 to go to college.
Back home for a year to work days and go to school at night.
Off to college again.

My first home was an apartment in a small Turkish town. On and off again electricity, water that had to be treated before drinking, wood-burning water heater. There WAS a real toilet instead of a squatty-potty but it had to be flushed with a bucket of water drawn from the bathtub faucet.

I wasn't as grown-up as I thought I was.....

I miss my dad terribly. My mother is still alive and kicking at 93. She plans to see 105. She'll probably outlive me.
 
I was 19 when I packed up my old 1956 Chevy Bel Air and left. Two days after my high school graduation, at the end of May in 1968. My step-parents, who had never had kids before me, were pretty strict with me and I'd had enough. Had a full-time job working at a truck stop and was waiting for the U.S. Navy to call me up to go to Basic Training.
The Draft Board was close by and I got my Notice when I was at Navy Basic Training. If the Navy would have cut me loose, the Army would have got me. Thank God that didn't happen.​
Got a room at the YMCA Hotel in downtown Ft. Wayne. The week after my 20 birthday, the Navy called me and off I went.

One thing I found out very quickly, the Navy was much more stricter than my step-parents ever were.
 
hollydolly said:
My mother took her own life unintentional overdose they called it, but it was her 3rd time trying over the years from when I was a toddler .. age 39 she finally managed to escape my abusive father..

No contact with father..

I was removed from school at 15 to work and give all my wages to the span of the devil who called himself my parent so my education was limited.. no further formal education after that except within my workplace

I have never been surprised about anything when I found myself on my own, since a very small child, I've been expected to look after myself...
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200w.webp
 
I left home at age 18. I was going to go to college, but I had nothing that would qualify as a "draft deferment", and with that Vietnam War mess starting up, I could feel the draft board breathing down my neck. So, I joined the USAF, got an excellent training in electronics which prepared me for a good career, and got to travel all over Europe....enjoyed it so much that I re-upped for a 2nd tour, and finished that last tour with a year in Thailand in 1967, left the military, and used that great training in civilian life.
 
Apart from living away when at Uni, I left permanently at 22 when I got married. We had saved for the deposit on a small new-build semi. I lived in a sort of 'truce' with my parents and it was great to be away. I can't say that I missed them. Even when they died, I couldn't feel emotional about it. I sometimes regret not having had a better relationship with my parents, but family life was all about them.

My in-laws, that's a different matter. I loved them and missed them terribly when they passed away.
 
Falcon said:
During WWII I joined the USAF as a bomber pilot.
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Incredible!!..and so many thanks for your service without which many of us may not be here today telling our stories.

So few people left to tell that story now.. was the regimented way of living etc , a shock to the system after leaving home.. ?
 
Moved away for college, then US Navy service, then back to college. First place? ... hmmmm. A succession of dorm rooms, student apartments, BGB (big gray boat), student married housing (grad school), a couple of rentals. The next always better than the last.

I never suffered from "homesickness", if that's what you're asking Keesha, but I've always loved and respected my parents. Still do, even though they're both gone now. Since high school, I've lived between 200 and 3000 miles away from my parents but I always kept in touch and tried to get back to see them at least a couple times a year.
 
hollydolly said:
My mother took her own life unintentional overdose they called it, but it was her 3rd time trying over the years from when I was a toddler .. age 39 she finally managed to escape my abusive father..

No contact with father..

I was removed from school at 15 to work and give all my wages to the spawn of the devil who called himself my parent so my education was limited.. no further formal education after that except within my workplace

I have never been surprised about anything when I found myself on my own, since a very small child, I've been expected to look after myself...
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I’m so sorry Holly. I do remember you mentioning some of this before.
Its great that your life turned out so well now.
 
I left home as soon as I was legally able to do so and that was at age 16 and moved into my own apartment. The independence and freedom was wonderful.
I left to get away from my abusive parents.
Yes I did at times miss my parents
What surprised me the most was how gullible I was socially
 
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