Ronni
Well-known Member
- Location
- Nashville TN
I have a client who is also a dear friend. She's a senior, and is very concerned about her husband (2nd marriage for both) because he never wants to do anything, and doesn't. He's a bit overweight, and some arthritis, but nothing so extreme as to affect his ability to get around, even though he's slow. She herself is very active, and encourages him to get out and about more, to come to lunch with her, go for a walk, go out with his friends, take up a hobby, go golfing, anything that will get him moving and get him out of the house.
He is wealthy, lives in a large home, has a staff to clean it, and can afford to create any lifestyle he wants.
Instead he sits at home. He reads some, is barely computer literate, takes several naps a day. The busiest thing he does routinely is bringing the garbage cans to the street or taking them back in, or going to the grocery store.
The above is just one of so many examples of people I know or have known who can do so much more but choose not to, and whose loved ones are upset, frustrated, annoyed etc., about that fact. It is bewildering to me, but at the same time I've come to realize that these people are living the life they want to live, even though to ME it would be excruciatingly boring and unfulfilling. They have the wherewithal to create any lifestyle they want to create, so you'd think they'd be doing so much more, but they don't.
I still find this kind of thing perplexing, because there is SO MUCH *I* would be doing if I had the funds to support those things. I don't, but that hasn't stopped me from continuing to find and enjoy things I CAN do, and continue to create the kind of lifestyle that is within my means that keeps me active and involved with my loved ones, friends, and life around me.
It's different if you're infirm and just simply can't get around. Even then, though you may be prohibited from doing active, physical things, there's still so much to engage one in life and more sedentary activities and keep things interesting and fun and not boring!
He is wealthy, lives in a large home, has a staff to clean it, and can afford to create any lifestyle he wants.
Instead he sits at home. He reads some, is barely computer literate, takes several naps a day. The busiest thing he does routinely is bringing the garbage cans to the street or taking them back in, or going to the grocery store.
The above is just one of so many examples of people I know or have known who can do so much more but choose not to, and whose loved ones are upset, frustrated, annoyed etc., about that fact. It is bewildering to me, but at the same time I've come to realize that these people are living the life they want to live, even though to ME it would be excruciatingly boring and unfulfilling. They have the wherewithal to create any lifestyle they want to create, so you'd think they'd be doing so much more, but they don't.
I still find this kind of thing perplexing, because there is SO MUCH *I* would be doing if I had the funds to support those things. I don't, but that hasn't stopped me from continuing to find and enjoy things I CAN do, and continue to create the kind of lifestyle that is within my means that keeps me active and involved with my loved ones, friends, and life around me.
It's different if you're infirm and just simply can't get around. Even then, though you may be prohibited from doing active, physical things, there's still so much to engage one in life and more sedentary activities and keep things interesting and fun and not boring!
