When you were a child did your parents yell at you for not closing the door when it was cold outside?

No, It was the refrigerator door! We had 30 seconds to scan everything! The electricity cost too much!

It is I , not you, on the wrong world! I feel this more each day!
 

Like many others, I also got the “Were you born in a barn?” stinger for not closing the door fast enough in cold weather. A variant was the “Are you trying to heat the whole neighborhood?” query. These were rhetorical questions, of course, and answering them would have only brought me more trouble. Then if I walked in front of the TV set or heaven forbid stood there momentarily, I was told I “made a better door than a window.” Doors were a big thing apparently with my mother…
 
I use to hear something like we are not heating the outdoors and if you keep leaving that door open you will be out there chopping up another cord of wood.
 
hollydolly said:
yep...we also got 'were you born in a barn'' when it came to the doors.. but that was because there was heating in only the livingroom and nowhere else, so it was expected to keep the doors closed ... @JaniceM , you were lucky to be out of the room when the Tv was turned off.. if we were watching something on Tv and my father entered and he didn't want to watch it,he would just turn it off.. he wasn't going to pay for something for others to enjoy.
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I only got the barn quote. Our family was pretty cool about things except when I started using the popular word "Bitchin'". They thought it was the worse thing to come out of my mouth. It was, I didn't learn the "F" word until about 10+ years later! 🤣
 
My first decade of life was on WeSt Coast of Florida just south of Tampa. We didnt live in house with running water and electricity until i was about 4 1/2. Closing the door was more about keeping flies and mosquitoes out. And my Dad installed a thing on the door frame screen doors that would grasp it and hold it closed till someone pushed from inside or pulled the handle.

The thing was.shaped like a C laying parallel to the floor with a little roller on end that stuck out and hen door swung toward frame it hit the roller it the thing would close holding the door shut. I can't recall the name of it but remember the device vividly because when i was around 2 i changed mind about going out and reached for door just as it reached the clasp and the door clamped shut. Only my left pinky finger got pinched but it but something awful.

Our depression era legacy command was 'Clean your plate' as in in eat all you were served.
 
As for values i raised 2 Gen X guys and a millennial female. They all showed respect for others especially elders. I taught basic manners by displaying them, including to my children.But i also taught them they could speak up if anyone violated their personal boundaries.

I know i wasn't the only one. We just notice and hear more about those who don't care bout anyone else. The ills of today's world have multiple causes but even if it was all on the latest generation to reach adulthood, i would have to ask: Who raised the young ones being complained about? The previous generation!
 
All of the above, growing up in the US Northeast. I forgot about Not Letting the Cake Fall until Jujube brought it up, but I wasn’t allowed to jump up and down then either.
And not leaving the water running while brushing my teeth etc. That one is still valid today.
 
Not the door. It was always "Why are the lights on?"
And, sometimes I was one step ahead of my parents before they asked another question & I'd say: "Yes, if my friends jumped off a building, I would jump off, too." 😂
 
feywon said:
As for values i raised 2 Gen X guys and a millennial female. They all showed respect for others especially elders. I taught basic manners by displaying them, including to my children.But i also taught them they could speak up if anyone violated their personal boundaries.

I know i wasn't the only one. We just notice and hear more about those who don't care bout anyone else. The ills of today's world have multiple causes but even if it was all on the latest generation to reach adulthood, i would have to ask: Who raised the young ones being complained about? The previous generation!
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I usually think 'child psychology' is nonsense, but this fellow was right about a lot of things:
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Got told that many times. Then they made me shovel coal into the furnace, also shake the grate take out clinkers & ashes. Then I "learned" to shut the door.
 
All of the mentioned..
It almost "sounds" like we all had the same parents!🤣😂

We lived in a two story house..and if we were going upstairs..
My Mom would always say.."Don't go up empty-handed"..with things she'r left on the steps to go up...to make her job easier.

My! What we remember from our youth!🤗
 
Jace said:
All of the mentioned..
It almost "sounds" like we all had the same parents!🤣😂

We lived in a two story house..and if we were going upstairs..
My Mom would always say.."Don't go up empty-handed"..with things she'r left on the steps to go up...to make her job easier.

My! What we remember from our youth!🤗
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Does seem so, doesn't it? :ROFLMAO:

and I got the "don't go empty-handed," too!!
 
JaniceM said:
I usually think 'child psychology' is nonsense, but this fellow was right about a lot of things:
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Dr. Ginott was a pioneer in the field. When in High School the family of a friend knew him, can't recall if treated any of them. But the Mom was a social worker and actually worked for the adoption agency involved in the "Three Identical Strangers" experiment. (Several sets of twins were also adopted by very different families and monitored over the years in an attempt to gain nature vs nurture data.)
 
feywon said:
Dr. Ginott was a pioneer in the field. When in High School the family of a friend knew him, can't recall if treated any of them. But the Mom was a social worker and actually worked for the adoption agency involved in the "Three Identical Strangers" experiment. (Several sets of twins were also adopted by very different families and monitored over the years in an attempt to gain nature vs nurture data.)
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I happened to find an old copy of one of his books when I was in high school, was impressed by his approach that children are actually people and should be treated as such. :)
 
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