Who cherishes the men in this world in the age of equality, (married folks excepted)?

Possibly controversial stuff here:
https://www.readinggroupguides.com/reviews/loving-men-more-needing-men-less/about

Quote:
"Enough about men! It's about women!
The days of negotiating, translating, and mediating are over. After more than a decade of fixating on "needs" and arbitrating the terms of their "love" relationships, women are embarking on a new era. Dr. J S***s asserts that, "women are finally powerful enough to love without losing themselves in the process," and as a result, they are reclaiming emotional strength, and working towards more gratifying relationships.

Making Changes

In Loving Men More, Needing Men Less, Dr. S**s charts the course of the emotional passage that's underway. She states that love, the ever elusive "chip of enlightenment," is finally within reach. Women—married or single, searching for love or yearning to rediscover it—are beginning to reach a point of balance between loving and needing men. This subtle yet pervasive shift is a transformation in spirit, and by employing the tools of refocusing, reframing, and responding, women will begin to bring themselves closer to love. Loving him more and needing him less is an easy concept to misunderstand since "love" and "need" are buzzwords from the last thirty years of struggle. However, Dr. S***s explains:

  • Needing a man less does not mean having fewer needs. It means looking beyond men to satisfy those needs.
  • Loving a man more means sympathizing with what he wants or needs but not that you always have to give it to him.
  • Opening up to love a man more is not meant as a gift to him but as a reward for yourself.
Resolution

Dr. S***s outlines the path that will take women to a higher ground. She asserts, "Needing less and loving more is the newly balanced emotional center towards which women are heading."

Has Dr. S***s really launched a new women's movement towards achieving fulfilling love? Is change on the horizon? Loving Men More, Needing Men Less is sure to spark debate among women."
 

Last edited:
grahamg said:
It occurs to me that a great many men in this world probably aren't being cherished by anyone in the world today, with divorce rates so high, and unlikely to fall far when countries like the UK have recently slackened divorce laws even further.

You could argue the same applies to women, yet some wise and knowledgeable women have told me that women in general tend to cope much better following relationship breakdown, (they're better able to network or pour out their feelings I'm told).

Just for my critics I'll throw in how many men get excluded from their children's lives, so little opportunity for your finer qualities to get recognised and appreciated there!

I don't think I'm pretending "men are the victims" (or at least not unfairly), and yes it is very true many men probably are treated just as they deserve by their former partners, maybe even their kids, (though its a moot point for me!), and "the system" has to some extent, be designed to cope with errant dads who'll try to make a mockery if everything, or haven't truly grown up perhaps(?)!

Still my view though that breaking down barriers and old taboos, (like making divorce, and unfaithfulness so acceptable nowadays), that men probably aren't being cherished as much as in former times, when roles were more clearly defined etc. :(
Click to expand...
Your experience is not necessarily universal. Men and women alike are subject to being overlooked and taken for granted. As a mailman observing other males, men are pricks, most are self-absorbed, ego driven, entitled, undeserving pricks. Of course there are exceptions but all in all females are stronger than males, more tolerant, openminded, nurturing, and in some ways smarter than men.
You know, males and females owe their existence to each other?
 
Dr. J S***s
Dr. S**s
Dr. S***s
Dr. S***s
Dr. Sills

Huh? Why were you hiding the name? I thought it was something vulgar like Dr. Sh!ts or something. Then you give her name, Dr. Sills. Strange.
 

grahamg said:
Not about ANYTHING, (if you don't mind my correcting you), and who is arguing my ex wife wasn't the best, or most competent parent, to use one example of something not fitting your narrative here, (not me ever, I remember I told her this was the case and she was the best parent to have custody of our child on the telephone a few months after our split up).
Click to expand...
Perhaps if you came right out about the topic of your post rather than hiding it behind the mask of

Who cherishes the men in this world in the age of equality, (married folks excepted)?​

In the beginning, if you had given a heads up the topic was about your ex and what kind wife/mother she was it would be easier to follow.
 
Relationships take 2 or more, single relationships tend to be one-sided. In the beginning of any relationship partners are drawn in or rejected by a potential partner. Sometimes people become involved with one another for the wrong reasons.
You can learn a lot about a person by observation, but if you are smitten by love, you may see them through rose-colored glasses.

The word submission seems slave-like and degrading but it also means moving over and letting someone else take charge. As a couple, my wife and I work together, so when she asks me to do something at home I oblige. She does so much more than I that what she asks of me is menial compared to all she does. Besides this is our home and family, ours meaning we are equally responsible.

Fortunately, I've never been in a toxic relationship outside of my childhood but I have witnessed peoples behavior and I gotta say not everyone has the capacity to mutually share the responsibilities of a long-term relationship.
 
Mr. Ed said:
Perhaps if you came right out about the topic of your post rather than hiding it behind the mask of

Who cherishes the men in this world in the age of equality, (married folks excepted)?​

In the beginning, if you had given a heads up the topic was about your ex and what kind wife/mother she was it would be easier to follow.
Click to expand...
Not so old chap, (dont be taken in by propaganda promulgated by those who seem to think they know what everyone else is or should be thinking!).
 
Forerunner said:
My doctor...my pharmacist!
Click to expand...
The succinctness of your post has had me scratching my head for a day or two, but I'll assume you mean your doctor and pharmacist have cherished you(?).

On the thread folks who dislike the topic, dislike me, dislike my attitude, or whatever it might be, and think there are hurdles to overcome before any man might be cherished, all of these things, and worse, shows there's a limited amount of cherishing being shown on the forum sometimes, but it is are as nothing in terms of effect, compared to procedures you may encounter following divorce.

I mentioned on another thread about our/my words being twisted, as happened to me on one of the first forums I ever used, (twenty years ago maybe). As said all of this is as nothing compared to the perniciousness of government appointed officials assuming the right to question our children as to whether or not they love a non resident parent in a high conflict divorce case in my view!

I've read all about those thinking or saying, "its all about you", as we all have now, but whether folks like it or not, there are reasons why men choose to become fathers, (where it is a conscious decision, following a marriage to someone professing love for you, and planning a child with you), and some of those reasons can yes be described as "selfish"! Wanting a family/children you can be as close to as maybe you only can be to your own flesh and blood, may rile folks wishing to condemn any hint of selfishness when it comes to non resident parents and their kids, but we've a right to be human, with frailties like being selfish on occasion, and were we not we may never have wanted to father a child with anyone in the first place!
 
grahamg said:
No truth in it then?
Click to expand...
I did not take exception to Lavinia's statement about gay men contracting diseases. I took exception to her comment "Isn't your partner a man? 'Nuff said", as if I would be susceptible to some type of disease. That is beyond insensitive and paints the entire gay community with a broad brush, and it assumes that I am going to contract some type of disease because I am gay. After 30 years together, neither my partner nor myself has contracted any type of disease, other than Covid. Nothing further to say re: this matter. Back to regularly scheduled programming, so no need to reply. ;)
 
dseag2 said:
I did not take exception to Lavinia's statement about gay men contracting diseases. I took exception to her comment "Isn't your partner a man? 'Nuff said", as if I would be susceptible to some type of disease. That is beyond insensitive and paints the entire gay community with a broad brush, and it assumes that I am going to contract some type of disease because I am gay. After 30 years together, neither my partner nor myself has contracted any type of disease, other than Covid. Nothing further to say re: this matter. Back to regularly scheduled programming, so no need to reply. ;)
Click to expand...
Back to incessantly posting about "fathers/parents rights" you're saying, "right you are, will do"!,(thanks for explanation btw). :)
 
More research on cherishing, this time for anyone married, (- rather long it must be said):
http://www.giseleharrison.com/blog/10-ways-to-cherish-your-spouse

Quote:
"Cherishing what we have is one of five winning strategies described by **** in his book "The New Rules of Marriage". The dictionary defines cherish as "protect and care for (someone) lovingly", "hold (something) dear", "keep a hope or ambition in someone's mind".

In other words cherishing our partner and what we have is an active endeavor. One that we need to prioritize in order to have a conscious relationship based on full-respect living. It means having a marriage ceremony every day that we are in relationship.

Of course my way of being cherished is not necessarily my partner's way of being cherished. Which means we need to be identify by asking and observing our partner how they wish to be cherished. Similarly we need to communicate what makes us feel cherished.

I googled the top ten ways to cherish your partner and this is what I found:

1.Be sensitive to his/her needs. Know what they are and if you're not completely sure ask what they are and never ever think we've finished learning about our partner. Their needs may change from day to day.

2. Let our actions as well as our words show her/him that they are loved, respected and cared for. Saying I love you isn't enough - find out how he/she likes love to be expressed and do whatever you to express love to him/her each day.

3. Pay attention when the other is talking. No distractions. Eye contact is affirming and shows loving respect and consideration. Let's have technology free time every day in order to make real time for real connection.

4. Be careful and considerate in our language. Learn to give and receive feedback in a way that empowers your partner and your relationship. Use ****'s feedback wheel and/or ********'s "non-violent communication"

5. Acknowledge each other's feelings and the "stories" we tell ourselves without having to defend. Be there, listen and only provide advice if asked.

6. Accept your partner's limitations without comparing them to others and making them feel ashamed for where they may fall short. You might need to do a "relationship reckoning" which means: do the things my spouse provide me outweigh the things they don't? If the answer is no - then you might need to walk away. If the answer is yes - then you will likely need to grieve what you are missing and do so in a way that does not involve shaming our partner.

7. Be faithful and loyal. Decide that you won't violate your partners trust in any way even if tempted. If you fall out of love and wish to be in another relationship - avoid hurting the other by ending your relationship before embarking on another one. Unless of course you and your partner have agreed otherwise to have an open or polyamourous relationship.

8. Spend quality time together talking, laughing, playing and having fun. Make pleasure and connection and playfulness a daily commitment. Remember wherever your time and attention is - that is also where your heart is. If you say you love your partner and that he/she is the most important person in your life after yourself then prove it. Actions speak louder than words. Stop working until you drop, or prioritizing time with others at the expense of quality time with your spouse.

9. Become good lovers for one another. Learn what the other wants, needs, enjoys. Bring playfulness into your sex life. Sex becomes boring when it is goal oriented (ie intercourse followed by organism followed by sleep). Remember that porn is fiction, and if you want to view porn that may be less fiction - think of attending the feminist porn awards hosted by **** *** *** in Toronto.

10. Be your partner's biggest fan. Support him/her in their work and in their relationship with others. Be with them in public.

11. Sorry I couldn't stop at 10. BE A PARTNER. Pretend you own a business together and consult with each other about decisions, plans, finances, social outings, vacations. Do not commit you or your partner to something without discussing it with them. Your priority is your partner and empowering your relationship.

12. One more I promise. Don't let anyone or anything come between you."
Here are some more suggestions: https://www.ministrymagazine.org/archive/1989/08/twelve-ways-to-cherish-your-wife
 
grahamg said:
More research on cherishing, this time for anyone married, (- rather long it must be said):
http://www.giseleharrison.com/blog/10-ways-to-cherish-your-spouse

Quote:
"Cherishing what we have is one of five winning strategies described by **** in his book "The New Rules of Marriage". The dictionary defines cherish as "protect and care for (someone) lovingly", "hold (something) dear", "keep a hope or ambition in someone's mind".

In other words cherishing our partner and what we have is an active endeavor. One that we need to prioritize in order to have a conscious relationship based on full-respect living. It means having a marriage ceremony every day that we are in relationship.

Of course my way of being cherished is not necessarily my partner's way of being cherished. Which means we need to be identify by asking and observing our partner how they wish to be cherished. Similarly we need to communicate what makes us feel cherished.

I googled the top ten ways to cherish your partner and this is what I found:

1.Be sensitive to his/her needs. Know what they are and if you're not completely sure ask what they are and never ever think we've finished learning about our partner. Their needs may change from day to day.

2. Let our actions as well as our words show her/him that they are loved, respected and cared for. Saying I love you isn't enough - find out how he/she likes love to be expressed and do whatever you to express love to him/her each day.

3. Pay attention when the other is talking. No distractions. Eye contact is affirming and shows loving respect and consideration. Let's have technology free time every day in order to make real time for real connection.

4. Be careful and considerate in our language. Learn to give and receive feedback in a way that empowers your partner and your relationship. Use ****'s feedback wheel and/or ********'s "non-violent communication"

5. Acknowledge each other's feelings and the "stories" we tell ourselves without having to defend. Be there, listen and only provide advice if asked.

6. Accept your partner's limitations without comparing them to others and making them feel ashamed for where they may fall short. You might need to do a "relationship reckoning" which means: do the things my spouse provide me outweigh the things they don't? If the answer is no - then you might need to walk away. If the answer is yes - then you will likely need to grieve what you are missing and do so in a way that does not involve shaming our partner.

7. Be faithful and loyal. Decide that you won't violate your partners trust in any way even if tempted. If you fall out of love and wish to be in another relationship - avoid hurting the other by ending your relationship before embarking on another one. Unless of course you and your partner have agreed otherwise to have an open or polyamourous relationship.

8. Spend quality time together talking, laughing, playing and having fun. Make pleasure and connection and playfulness a daily commitment. Remember wherever your time and attention is - that is also where your heart is. If you say you love your partner and that he/she is the most important person in your life after yourself then prove it. Actions speak louder than words. Stop working until you drop, or prioritizing time with others at the expense of quality time with your spouse.

9. Become good lovers for one another. Learn what the other wants, needs, enjoys. Bring playfulness into your sex life. Sex becomes boring when it is goal oriented (ie intercourse followed by organism followed by sleep). Remember that porn is fiction, and if you want to view porn that may be less fiction - think of attending the feminist porn awards hosted by **** *** *** in Toronto.

10. Be your partner's biggest fan. Support him/her in their work and in their relationship with others. Be with them in public.

11. Sorry I couldn't stop at 10. BE A PARTNER. Pretend you own a business together and consult with each other about decisions, plans, finances, social outings, vacations. Do not commit you or your partner to something without discussing it with them. Your priority is your partner and empowering your relationship.

12. One more I promise. Don't let anyone or anything come between you."
Here are some more suggestions: https://www.ministrymagazine.org/archive/1989/08/twelve-ways-to-cherish-your-wife
Click to expand...
I wonder how long you and your wife knew each other before you married? It can come as a shock when you start actually living with someone and discover that he/she is not quite the person you thought they were.
(Sorry, everyone, this thread has been hijacked already by irrelevant ranting. I shouldn't really encourage more!)
 
Lavinia said:
I wonder how long you and your wife knew each other before you married? It can come as a shock when you start actually living with someone and discover that he/she is not quite the person you thought they were.
(Sorry, everyone, this thread has been hijacked already by irrelevant ranting. I shouldn't really encourage more!)
Click to expand...
As you've asked, (and for no other reason), I will give you some details about my future, then seven years married wife, now former wife obviously.

We courted for about four and a half years. Did we know one another? I thought so, but could not have known how things would turn out, as probably most folks divorcing would be likely to say, (though others saw serious warning signs of trouble ahead, especially my father who on my wedding day came into my bedroom on the farm, and came out with a very cryptic message, of "Dont let me down son", whilst all night he'd been telling my mother how unsure he was that our marriage would be happy or last).

When my wife was about to break up the marriage she had the man she was about to move in with, (she moved in one day after his second wife moved out), visit our marital home whilst I was away in Southampton. When I returned home there was a "funny smell" in our lounge, and I mentioned this to my wife to be told I was talking nonsense, (he was a smoker, so although he didn't smoke when he visited, smoke from his clothes would have been likely to get onto our soft furnishings).

My wife started a process of telling me "the marriage wasn't working", and kept this up for quite a few weeks, especially on a Friday evening, (when she'd have met her new man in secret at lunchtime, they shared an office, but hadn't old work colleagues what was going on until much later).

Eventually I was worn down completely and started telling people like my brother in law, my wife's brother who I'm still good friends with, that I could no longer seem to see eye to eye with his sister. When I told my mother in law the marrige was breaking up "but there was no one else involved", she told me I was being ridiculous, and of course there will be someone else involved. She then said, "Let her go, you and I will bring the two year old daughter/granddaughter", (who she already cared for in the day whilst her daughter was at work).

That isn't quite the thing you ever expect to hear in your life is it?

Have I told you enough for now, (this is just a conversation between you and I isn't it?)?

Back to discussing all the cherishing of men and how this might one day be a more prevalent aspect of society, (should this be possible?), for the rest of you! :)
 
Blessed said:
I met my husband when I was 15, during a neighborhood snowball fight, I still do not know how he got there as he lived 10 miles away. I can only guess he was brought by an older sibling or friend and dropped off. I tracked him down later at school, mind you there were like 500 in our class. The next time I saw him was going for a ride in a friends pick up and I wound up in his lap on New Years Eve, It wound up with a kiss and a request for my phone number. Mind you, neither of us could drive yet or even had a car. We worked out way thru that problem at school. Things just went from there. We married at 20. He was only 51 when he died after a 5 year cancer battle. There was never any question in my mind. No one can live up to that kind of memory, I cannot build that level of respect and trust with anyone. He knows this, I told him I would come to him after death.
Click to expand...

I am so very very sorry for your loss. My wife's mother met her husband when she was 15 also. They shared a wonderful life together until he passed.

Again, so very very sorry.
 
grahamg said:
The succinctness of your post has had me scratching my head for a day or two, but I'll assume you mean your doctor and pharmacist have cherished you(?).

On the thread folks who dislike the topic, dislike me, dislike my attitude, or whatever it might be, and think there are hurdles to overcome before any man might be cherished, all of these things, and worse, shows there's a limited amount of cherishing being shown on the forum sometimes, but it is are as nothing in terms of effect, compared to procedures you may encounter following divorce.

I mentioned on another thread about our/my words being twisted, as happened to me on one of the first forums I ever used, (twenty years ago maybe). As said all of this is as nothing compared to the perniciousness of government appointed officials assuming the right to question our children as to whether or not they love a non resident parent in a high conflict divorce case in my view!

I've read all about those thinking or saying, "its all about you", as we all have now, but whether folks like it or not, there are reasons why men choose to become fathers, (where it is a conscious decision, following a marriage to someone professing love for you, and planning a child with you), and some of those reasons can yes be described as "selfish"! Wanting a family/children you can be as close to as maybe you only can be to your own flesh and blood, may rile folks wishing to condemn any hint of selfishness when it comes to non resident parents and their kids, but we've a right to be human, with frailties like being selfish on occasion, and were we not we may never have wanted to father a child with anyone in the first place!
Click to expand...
My medicine men adore me as I'm sure they live a more comfortable life as a result of knowing me! Lol
As I'm sure that you are well aware of, no matter what you say, or what position you take, someone is going to take exception to it.
I try to live by, "You may disagree with me, but I'll defend your right to disagree with me." This is how I want to be treated by others. This doesn't necessarily mean that I agree with someone, but we all have our right to exist on this planet.
I hold free will to be sacred.
 
Lavinia said:
I wonder how long you and your wife knew each other before you married? It can come as a shock when you start actually living with someone and discover that he/she is not quite the person you thought they were.
(Sorry, everyone, this thread has been hijacked already by irrelevant ranting. I shouldn't really encourage more!)
Click to expand...
I've thought of something else to "put in the mix",......., my guess is, regardless of age, and the fact I should know better, I suspect I'd be drawn again to the sort of person my ex was/is, and ignore those women who would maybe not have treated their partners/husbands as she chose to do!

It must say something about just how stupid I think men can be, (or this man anyway), but maybe there's a slight hint there might be other reasons why this could be the likely outcome, (like trying to find a partner to make up for perceived weaknesses in yourself perhaps?)! :)
 
grahamg said:
More research on cherishing, this time for anyone married, (- rather long it must be said):
http://www.giseleharrison.com/blog/10-ways-to-cherish-your-spouse
Quote:
"Cherishing what we have is one of five winning strategies described by **** in his book "The New Rules of Marriage". The dictionary defines cherish as "protect and care for (someone) lovingly", "hold (something) dear", "keep a hope or ambition in someone's mind".
In other words cherishing our partner and what we have is an active endeavor. One that we need to prioritize in order to have a conscious relationship based on full-respect living. It means having a marriage ceremony every day that we are in relationship.

Of course my way of being cherished is not necessarily my partner's way of being cherished. Which means we need to be identify by asking and observing our partner how they wish to be cherished. Similarly we need to communicate what makes us feel cherished.

I googled the top ten ways to cherish your partner and this is what I found:

1.Be sensitive to his/her needs. Know what they are and if you're not completely sure ask what they are and never ever think we've finished learning about our partner. Their needs may change from day to day.

2. Let our actions as well as our words show her/him that they are loved, respected and cared for. Saying I love you isn't enough - find out how he/she likes love to be expressed and do whatever you to express love to him/her each day.

3. Pay attention when the other is talking. No distractions. Eye contact is affirming and shows loving respect and consideration. Let's have technology free time every day in order to make real time for real connection.

4. Be careful and considerate in our language. Learn to give and receive feedback in a way that empowers your partner and your relationship. Use ****'s feedback wheel and/or ********'s "non-violent communication"

5. Acknowledge each other's feelings and the "stories" we tell ourselves without having to defend. Be there, listen and only provide advice if asked.

6. Accept your partner's limitations without comparing them to others and making them feel ashamed for where they may fall short. You might need to do a "relationship reckoning" which means: do the things my spouse provide me outweigh the things they don't? If the answer is no - then you might need to walk away. If the answer is yes - then you will likely need to grieve what you are missing and do so in a way that does not involve shaming our partner.

7. Be faithful and loyal. Decide that you won't violate your partners trust in any way even if tempted. If you fall out of love and wish to be in another relationship - avoid hurting the other by ending your relationship before embarking on another one. Unless of course you and your partner have agreed otherwise to have an open or polyamourous relationship.

8. Spend quality time together talking, laughing, playing and having fun. Make pleasure and connection and playfulness a daily commitment. Remember wherever your time and attention is - that is also where your heart is. If you say you love your partner and that he/she is the most important person in your life after yourself then prove it. Actions speak louder than words. Stop working until you drop, or prioritizing time with others at the expense of quality time with your spouse.

9. Become good lovers for one another. Learn what the other wants, needs, enjoys. Bring playfulness into your sex life. Sex becomes boring when it is goal oriented (ie intercourse followed by organism followed by sleep). Remember that porn is fiction, and if you want to view porn that may be less fiction - think of attending the feminist porn awards hosted by **** *** *** in Toronto.

10. Be your partner's biggest fan. Support him/her in their work and in their relationship with others. Be with them in public.

11. Sorry I couldn't stop at 10. BE A PARTNER. Pretend you own a business together and consult with each other about decisions, plans, finances, social outings, vacations. Do not commit you or your partner to something without discussing it with them. Your priority is your partner and empowering your relationship.

12. One more I promise. Don't let anyone or anything come between you."
Here are some more suggestions: https://www.ministrymagazine.org/archive/1989/08/twelve-ways-to-cherish-your-wife
Click to expand...

Someone here who I believe got it right in terms of keeping romance alive in their marriage, and no doubt cherishing one another a great deal, (as commented upon by the great man/actor when interviewed later in his life as to how he'd managed to keep a successful marriage going in such a long career in showbusiness).

Sir John Mills CBE was an English actor who appeared in more than 120 films in a career spanning seven decades. He excelled on camera as an appealing British everyman who often portrayed guileless, wounded war heroes.

John Mills (born 22 February 1908) married his Wife Mary Hayley Bell, in 1941, and both husband and wife died in 2005.

The secret of their marriage, one of the entertainment industry's most enduring, was, said Sir John, never being apart. Mary would always accompany her husband when he was on location and on a recent trip to Spain, Sir John observed with a jolt that it was the first time he and Mary had been apart in 55 years.

https://www.theguardian.com/uk/2001...cret of their marriage,been apart in 55 years.

One of the famous scenes from his acting career:

 
Forerunner said:
My medicine men adore me as I'm sure they live a more comfortable life as a result of knowing me! Lol
As I'm sure that you are well aware of, no matter what you say, or what position you take, someone is going to take exception to it.
I try to live by, "You may disagree with me, but I'll defend your right to disagree with me." This is how I want to be treated by others. This doesn't necessarily mean that I agree with someone, but we all have our right to exist on this planet.
I hold free will to be sacred.
Click to expand...
I've heard the saying about "defending the right to speak as you wish" etc., too, but you'd have to probably say that "right" means something very different nowadays to when we were starting out in life, i think most would agree, (whether they think this.a good thing or not in all cases?).

Moving on to the business of what someone has to do in order to get another to "choose" to cherish them etc., although its a very different situation obviously, it crosses my mind whether those choosing to live by such "rules", have similar rules in their minds when it comes to their children, or any stepchildren they might have(?).

What do they have to do in order to be cherished I wonder, (if anything?)?
 
This newspaper article I spotted this morning is worth its own thread, but I'll pop it in here for now:
https://news.sky.com/story/marriage-rates-for-opposite-sex-couples-drop-to-lowest-on-record-12616647

The following information is taken from an article written about fifteen years ago, (showing the trend has continued to decline). It was being commented upon back then and (as we now know), it has continued downwards since then, but the shocking thing in my view, is so few people will be alarmed by this fact):

Marriage rates in the UK​

There was a time when 50 out of every 1,000 women in the UK got married each year. Now, according to the Office for National Statistics, marriages are at the lowest rate ever.

Break

The marriage rate is calculated by the number of marriages per head of unmarried (single, divorced or widowed) population. In 2009 there were 21.3 men marrying per 1,000 unmarried adult men and 19.9 women marrying per 1,000 unmarried women over 16. Since 1981 the number of marriages conducted every year has fallen by a third.
 

You must log in or register to reply here.

Back
Top