I've already been going to the hardware store for years now, also the auto shops and have never felt uncomfortable in asking necessary questions or explaining what I need to get done. My comment was meant to say that I love my husband, he has been my best friend for almost fifty years, and being without him would leave a big void and hurt my soul. Wearing the pants is not an issue, I probably worded it wrong.it is not bad. it is strange having to become knowledgeable about things your mate always took care of. i no longer feel uncomfortable going to a hardware store or automotive shop and explaining what i need or asking questions.