Why do more women dance than men?

bobcat

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Whenever I go dancing, there are far more women out on the floor than men, and I've never understood the reason. There are hips gyrating .... bodies close and often touching .... bodies physically talking to each other .... with music in the background. It seems to me that it's an awful lot like another activity that men enjoy rather immensely, so why are they not gettin' busy on the dance floor?
 

Whenever I go dancing, there are far more women out on the floor than men, and I've never understood the reason. There are hips gyrating .... bodies close and often touching .... bodies physically talking to each other .... with music in the background. It seems to me that it's an awful lot like another activity that men enjoy rather immensely, so why are they not gettin' busy on the dance floor?
why don't you tell us..you're a man !
 
why don't you tell us..you're a man !
Lol. I dance whenever I get the chance. If I knew the answer to the question, I wouldn't be asking it. Men don't automatically know what other men think or the reasons why. I've never had a man tell me why they don't dance that I can recall. If I were to guess, perhaps it's because men like doing things they're good at, and maybe they just don't feel good at it. I don't know.
 
I suppose women are driven by emotion more than men are. Music stirs emotion and as a consequence the women are already moving inside before they even hit the dance floor.

If the dancing looks like a sex act, that's not dancing, it's practicing for later.

Men would dance more if the music stirred them emotionally. But songs like Won't Get Fooled Again, by the Who, aren't really dance songs.
 
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I suppose women are driven by emotion more than men are. Music stirs emotion and as a consequence the women are already moving inside before they even hit the dance floor.

If the dancing looks like a sex act, that's not dancing, it's practicing for later.

Men would dance more if the music stirred them emotionally. But songs like Won't Get Fooled Again, by the Who, aren't really dance songs.
I guess I'm different. Music does stir me.
 
Whenever I go dancing, there are far more women out on the floor than men, and I've never understood the reason. There are hips gyrating .... bodies close and often touching .... bodies physically talking to each other .... with music in the background. It seems to me that it's an awful lot like another activity that men enjoy rather immensely, so why are they not gettin' busy on the dance floor?
I think young girls start dancing early, just around the house, even to TV commercial jingles. I used to and still do. I have also danced with girlfriends when we went out together, better than dancing with a strange man who may be just looking to grope a female.

My husband does not like to dance, never did. He forced himself when we first got together because I wanted to dance so badly, but although he did okay and looked fine, he was not comfortable and it wasn't natural for him. I quickly stopped asking him to do it.

I imagine it's the same for men, if they liked dancing as kids, they probably loved it as adults. But it has to be in you, and come naturally, IMO.
 
I think young girls start dancing early, just around the house, even to TV commercial jingles. I used to and still do. I have also danced with girlfriends when we went out together, better than dancing with a strange man who may be just looking to grope a female.

My husband does not like to dance, never did. He forced himself when we first got together because I wanted to dance so badly, but although he did okay and looked fine, he was not comfortable and it wasn't natural for him. I quickly stopped asking him to do it.

I imagine it's the same for men, if they liked dancing as kids, they probably loved it as adults. But it has to be in you, and come naturally, IMO.
I think that's what happened with me. My parents owned a drive-in that was right across from the high school, and during lunch and after school, the teen-agers would all come over, and the jukebox was never silent, and they were always dancing. I used to watch them when I was about 10 or 12, and that's how I learned. So maybe it's just something you get comfortable with over the years.
 
I suppose women are driven by emotion more than men are. Music stirs emotion and as a consequence the women are already moving inside before they even hit the dance floor.

If the dancing looks like a sex act, that's not dancing, it's practicing for later.

Men would dance more if the music stirred them emotionally. But songs like Won't Get Fooled Again, by the Who, aren't really dance songs.
Laughed at that last line.

You got that right. More a caution than inspiration to kick up your heels.
 
I think young girls start dancing early, just around the house, even to TV commercial jingles. I used to and still do. I have also danced with girlfriends when we went out together, better than dancing with a strange man who may be just looking to grope a female.

My husband does not like to dance, never did. He forced himself when we first got together because I wanted to dance so badly, but although he did okay and looked fine, he was not comfortable and it wasn't natural for him. I quickly stopped asking him to do it.

I imagine it's the same for men, if they liked dancing as kids, they probably loved it as adults. But it has to be in you, and come naturally, IMO.
You couldn't have stated it better, in my case. I NEVER enjoyed dancing as a kid or an adult. Met my wife when I was 19 and like most girls of 17, she enjoyed dancing and was a good dancer.
I tried my best to please her and she complimented me on my dancing but I think she was just being kind. We've danced at weddings and a few (as few as possible in my case) other occasions but we have both compromised over the years and at 90 and 87, struggle out onto the floor when it is unavoidable.

You can see by my post that we never went dancing as a pastime, only when it was required as at weddings, etc., and I'd encourage her to dance with other more skilled gentleman when asked.
 
Women think they look graceful and pretty when they dance, men think they look silly.
I think that's true.

My mom took me and my 2 brothers (before there were more of us) to dance lessons when we were all around the age of 5. We thought it was so stupid....at first.

But it wasn't ballet or tap, or anything classical, unless you call country dance classical. We lived on a farm, in a large farming community, and there were several local dances each year. She wanted us to be able to participate with confidence/not stand around and look lost and useless.

I will say, I think @OldFeller got it right, too. Basically, men dance to the beat of the drummer and women dance to the lyrics of the song.
 
Are you considered a good dancer?
I am told that by others, but that's not the reason I dance. I do it because it's fun, and it's terrific exercise. In fact, studies have shown that of all the exercises one can do, dancing imparts more benefits than any other, and by a significant amount.

It strengthens bones, joints, muscles, improves balance, and memory, and coordination, improves blood flow to the brain *and other areas*, reduces stress and anxiety, improves sleep, improves respiratory system, and immune system, improves range of motion, improves social skills, better agility, improves self-expression, improves mind-body connection, reduces risk of heart disease, imparts a feeling of youth, improves self-esteem and confidence, decreases risk of dementia, improves neural functions, lessens arthritis, increases stamina, reduces blood pressure, inspires romance, and it's fun. Name any other activity that comes anywhere close to accomplishing all that. It's a clear winner in my book.
 

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