Why do seniors, really late in life, get married?

[Widow of Vietnam Vet]

My husband has been dead for almost 30 years, and although a few men were interested in me, I had no intention of getting married again.

There were 3 women in my Bone Builder club in their mid seventies who were all newly weds.(married less than one year.)One of them said to me that her husband recently said they were happier before they got married, and she said that was true, because the adult kids on both sides were very upset.
She sold her house to live with him and that caused problems, which would have been the same if he had sold his house and moved in with her. I think adult children feel threatened when a new marriage takes place, but maybe that is the time to change Wills, and make sure they are fair to all of the adult children, and to let them know what the wills state.

Also maybe a time to change any burial wishes, and DNRs etc etc.

I still miss my husband but I am very happy being alone. It is just a matter of getting used to it.

Many years ago I bought land across the road from my house-someone asked me why I bought it- I said if I every re -marry, the new hubby will have to build on it, to have a place to live, because they ain't living with me.

But the truth is I didn't want to be able to see a house across from me---I like the isolation of this farm community.

 

[officerripley]

When my elderly dad decided to cohabitate with the gal that later became his fourth wife (and my 3rd stepmother), she sold her mobile home and moved into his. I remember at the time I was so worried about it and asked him if she had somewhere she could move to if it didn't work out. (I actually knew that she didn't but I guess I was trying to get him to consider it better.) He said, "Oh, that doesn't matter! It's going to work out!" I said, "But what if it doesn't?" "Oh, dont you worry; it will!"

Well, you guessed it: even though they did later get married, it was a very unhappy relationship; every time I went over there, my stepmother would be in tears because of the way he treated her and her little dog. (She got yelled at; the dog got kicked.)

So stuff like that may be why some adult kids get upset; as in my case, they know what's likely to happen. (I still feel guilty and always will about not warning her away from him but then my dad would've gone berserk at me so I guess I chickened out and chose him over her. Thanks, dad, for putting me in that position.)

 

[fancicoffee13]

My husband has been dead for almost 30 years, and although a few men were interested in me, I had no intention of getting married again.

There were 3 women in my Bone Builder club in their mid seventies who were all newly weds.(married less than one year.)One of them said to me that her husband recently said they were happier before they got married, and she said that was true, because the adult kids on both sides were very upset.
She sold her house to live with him and that caused problems, which would have been the same if he had sold his house and moved in with her. I think adult children feel threatened when a new marriage takes place, but maybe that is the time to change Wills, and make sure they are fair to all of the adult children, and to let them know what the wills state.

Also maybe a time to change any burial wishes, and DNRs etc etc.

I still miss my husband but I am very happy being alone. It is just a matter of getting used to it.

Many years ago I bought land across the road from my house-someone asked me why I bought it- I said if I every re -marry, the new hubby will have to build on it, to have a place to live, because they ain't living with me.

But the truth is I didn't want to be able to see a house across from me---I like the isolation of this farm community.

I thought I never wanted to marry again, but I have met a man my age and we get along so well that it is a maybe. A very likely maybe!

 

[Teacher Terry]

I thought I never wanted to marry again, but I have met a man my age and we get along so well that it is a maybe. A very likely maybe!

You really don’t know someone until you’ve been together for at least two years preferably living together. People can put on a good front for a while. You need to see them sick and under stress.

 

[fancicoffee13]

You really don’t know someone until you’ve been together for at least two years preferably living together. People can put on a good front for a while. You need to see them sick and under stress.

I hear you. Thank you.

 

[Mr. Ed]

Why do seniors, really late in life, get married?​

No time like the present.

 

[fancicoffee13]

Why do seniors, really late in life, get married?​

No time like the present.

Yes.

 

[davey]

old habits die hard?

 

[fancicoffee13]

When I am a younger senior, I am foreign to the idea of getting married late in life. I just thought that it was not to be anymore. But, after much research, apparently seniors do marry later in life. Even when the kids greatly object. However, there are circumstances where the family is happy for their union.

 

[Pepper]

You've been there, done that.

 

[dilettante]

You need to see them sick and under stress.

Who knew so many of us were such good candidates for observation.

 

[CallMeKate]

You've been there, done that.

My hands are sooo stinkin' sore from sitting on them.

 

[fancicoffee13]

You've been there, done that.

Yes, indeed I have. All of the family welcomed me as though they knew me all along. But one son. But, all turned out good in the end, we were married 11 years.