Why Men Need Female Guidance

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MsFox

Independent Thinker
Ladies, tell us your story about why men in your life need your guidance. Here is my favorite with my former neighbor.

I see my neighbor, age 82, on his roof, washing it off and then sweeping it clean with a large push broom. We both live by ourselves and are independent. We watch out for each other as others in the neighborhood are couples and still working.

I go over and ask if he needs any help. I am going to a meeting, but will postpone it if he wants me to stick around. I check the ladder and it is secure. Ask if he has his cell phone. Yes! Ask if he has drinking water. Yes! Ask how long he will be up there. He answers an hour if I will go and quit nagging him. I comment he should be more careful getting so close to the edge. He responds with my neighborly concern is turning into spousal style nagging, so please go and enjoy my day so he can enjoy the quiet of the neighborhood and the beautiful day.

I left and came back several hours later. He was still on the roof, sitting with head in hands. The ladder had been knocked down by the garden hose. I put up the ladder. He got down. I asked why he didn’t call for help. He said because the battery was dead. I asked why it was dead. He said because he can’t remember to put it on charge and still prefers his landline. I asked him if he wanted me to remind him daily to charge his cell phone. He said only if I want him to move.
 

Hmmm, MsFox you are starting to remind me of someone I know.

I have not gotten myself into a predicament like your neighbor in several years, but I have learned to appreciate the fact that my wife looks out for me like a "junk yard dog."

…. but in my defense, I look out for her as well. …. what a team!
 

I have a friend, about my age who is married to a retired lawyer. He tells me they have a "female led marriage". She is in charge, he obeys. He seems happy....at least that is what he claims.
 
Llynn said:
I have a friend, about my age who is married to a retired lawyer. He tells me they have a "female led marriage". She is in charge, he obeys. He seems happy....at least that is what he claims.
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It must be painful having a label for your life rather than just having your own life.

I guess mine is "Sofa-Centric."
 
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Very few women would be caught with a dead battery in a cell phone. It is an unfortunate fact of a woman‘s life that we are frequently in physical danger from a variety of sources. Those sources are mostly men. Cell phones are a lifeline for us in a way they are not for men.

BTW, I’ve been up on a roof in my younger days, never fell off. But my husband fell off our roof, and my male neighbor fell off his roof. Both times I had to call the paramedics with my cell phone 😂. Agree with the OP.
 
treeguy64 said:
Janet and I are equal partners in our LTR. Coming up to fifteen years, I cannot imagine either one of us needing guidance from the other to the extent that one of us is leading the relationship. We bounce ideas off each other, and that is helpful to both of us.
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That’s great, wish I could say the same. But I can’t and I’ve been married over 48 years. I would like to guide my husband-somewhere, somewhere far, far, away. 🤣
 
MsFox... Thanks for bringing up a memory...
As I drive by my grandparents... Im shocked to see my 84 year old Grandfather bent over at the edge of the roof cleaning gutters... Grandma holding the ladder...Slam on the brakes, go and get him down and finish up... Grandma tells me hes wanting to trim some limbs too..
I "Borrow" the ladder and take it home to clean our gutters... and a few weeks later, he calls about needing his ladder...
I bring it down do the work and take the ladder back home with me... I'm not done with ... excuse.... and so it went....a few years...
I drive by and at 90 he is up on the roof.... WHAT THE HELL....
He got tired of bugging me to borrow his own ladder and went and bought another....
I still have both.
 
Well, there are a couple of areas where my wife needed my guidance:

- I came home from work one day and found that she was using my chainsaw to trim some bushes. My chainsaw is about the most dangerous thing I own. I got her to promise that she would never do that again.
- My wife seems to cut herself with her kitchen knives fairly frequently and has needed stitches several times. I try to get her to remember to let me cut larger items like watermelon.
- My wife is not very good about locking the doors at night, and when I travel, I have to remind her every night during our pre-bed phone call.
- The "technique" she uses with her checkbook is a mystery to me and when I balance the books, it sometimes takes some mental gymnastics to figure things out. (I don't bother mentioning this to her, because somehow it works, and she is actually pretty good with money. I have never found fault with her spending.)
I could go on and list more areas where a well placed reminder is useful to her, but that would not be the main point.

Neither of us is "bossy", and we do augment each other and appreciate what the other brings to the table. I recognize the degree to which I am dependent on her for her intellect, hard work, companionship, love, and occasional GUIDANCE.

Oh, and I did comply with her guidance that I stay off the roof after I turned 75, and that I would let my motorcycle go at that same time. Who knows, she might have saved my life. One of my neighbors fell off his roof last year and he is still messed up.
 
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MsFox... Thanks for bringing up a memory...
As I drive by my grandparents... Im shocked to see my 84 year old Grandfather bent over at the edge of the roof cleaning gutters... Grandma holding the ladder...Slam on the brakes, go and get him down and finish up... Grandma tells me hes wanting to trim some limbs too..
I "Borrow" the ladder and take it home to clean our gutters... and a few weeks later, he calls about needing his ladder...
I bring it down do the work and take the ladder back home with me... I'm not done with ... excuse.... and so it went....a few years...
I drive by and at 90 he is up on the roof.... WHAT THE HELL....
He got tired of bugging me to borrow his own ladder and went and bought another....
I still have both.
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Thanks for appreciating my story. So many do not get my humor. It wasn't funny at the time, nor am I the micromanager I make myself out to be. We simply just looked after each other as good friends. We all laugh about this story now. He has moved to his daughters now he has no jobs to do and can go fishing and do all the fun things he wants. He is an amazing man for his age, but one that couldn't let things go or call for help. He was always looking for jobs to keep busy while living in the city even dangerous ones and his daughter asked me to look after him after his wife died. I could reverse the story and tell of the times he yelled at me for doing stupid things. He was the best neighbor I have ever had.
 
MsFox said:
Ladies, tell us your story about why men in your life need your guidance. Here is my favorite with my former neighbor.

I see my neighbor, age 82, on his roof, washing it off and then sweeping it clean with a large push broom. We both live by ourselves and are independent. We watch out for each other as others in the neighborhood are couples and still working.

I go over and ask if he needs any help. I am going to a meeting, but will postpone it if he wants me to stick around. I check the ladder and it is secure. Ask if he has his cell phone. Yes! Ask if he has drinking water. Yes! Ask how long he will be up there. He answers an hour if I will go and quit nagging him. I comment he should be more careful getting so close to the edge. He responds with my neighborly concern is turning into spousal style nagging, so please go and enjoy my day so he can enjoy the quiet of the neighborhood and the beautiful day.

I left and came back several hours later. He was still on the roof, sitting with head in hands. The ladder had been knocked down by the garden hose. I put up the ladder. He got down. I asked why he didn’t call for help. He said because the battery was dead. I asked why it was dead. He said because he can’t remember to put it on charge and still prefers his landline. I asked him if he wanted me to remind him daily to charge his cell phone. He said only if I want him to move.
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I can imagine what was going through his head as he sat there:
"Gee, maybe I should have listened to that woman. If I had, I would not be sitting up here on this roof feeling like a dummy. Maybe that neighbor actually cares about my well-being and I could have been more appreciative. It is getting hot up here, and I need to take a leak, and ……)
 
Pecos said:
Well, there are a couple of areas where my wife needed my guidance:

- I came home from work one day and found that she was using my chainsaw to trim some bushes. My chainsaw is about the most dangerous thing I own. I got her to promise that she would never do that again.
- My wife seems to cut herself with her kitchen knives fairly frequently and has needed stitches several times. I try to get her to remember to let me cut larger items like watermelon.
- My wife is not very good about locking the doors at night, and when I travel, I have to remind her every night during our pre-bed phone call.
- The "technique" she uses with her checkbook is a mystery to me and when I balance the books, it sometimes takes some mental gymnastics to figure things out. (I don't bother mentioning this to her, because somehow it works, and she is actually pretty good with money. I have never found fault with her spending.)
I could go on and list more areas where a well placed reminder is useful to her, but that would not be the main point.

Neither of us is "bossy", and we do augment each other and appreciate what the other brings to the table. I recognize the degree to which I am dependent on her for her intellect, hard work, companionship, love, and occasional GUIDANCE.
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I agree that if she is not skilled with a chainsaw, she should not be using it. I have run chainsaws my entire life, including professionally as a faller, but last year sold them all and got a small battery-operated Stihl that is so safe because the chain stops when one lets off the trigger. I got a special carving bar for it to do sculptor and prune limbs without fear of kickback. You did the right thing! Reminds me of a friend that got out her husband's chainsaw to prune shrubs and it kicked back and hit a metal fence post and then as she jerked it back cut a gash in her leg. Luckily it had a quick brake system to stop the chain. I fixed up the saw and suggested to her husband to buy her a super safe battery hedge trimmer and teach her how to use it.
 
Pecos said:
I can imagine what was going through his head as he sat there:
"Gee, maybe I should have listened to that woman. If I had, I would not be sitting up here on this roof feeling like a dummy. Maybe that neighbor actually cares about my well-being and I could have been more appreciative. It is getting hot up here, and I need to take a leak, and ……)
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Ha Ha I didn't inquire and he was glad I didn't make any smart remarks or say I told you so. He made me swear to never tell his daughter because she would tell his friends at the fire station where he was retired as a paramedic/firefighter. I accompanied him to a firefighter fundraising dinner (as a fake date) and he actually asked me to tell the story. I did and after that, I was known as Zek's wifey. I had to ask a young lady skilled in modern lingo what wifey meant. As far as taking a leak he had gutters and may have used them, I didn't inquire.
 
Interesting thread...made me think. One time, years ago, a man I didn't know needed guidance. He was the ex of our company receptionist and had been banned from calling her at work due to "abuse" I was told. He called threatening her... he was "coming with a gun" to get her. I told her to go in the back with the rest of the employees. When he came through the door I met him in the lobby.

Took out the 38 police special we kept, deliberately loading it in front of him. Told him he could have the first shot. He took off running and dropped a "water" pistol in the parking lot. Later heard from another couple employees she had been meeting him on the side at the local "stop and rob" down the street. Fired her. Moral of the story, hey, betting both men and women need guidance sometimes.
 
MsFox said:
Ha Ha I didn't inquire and he was glad I didn't make any smart remarks or say I told you so. He made me swear to never tell his daughter because she would tell his friends at the fire station where he was retired as a paramedic/firefighter. I accompanied him to a firefighter fundraising dinner (as a fake date) and he actually asked me to tell the story. I did and after that, I was known as Zek's wifey. I had to ask a young lady skilled in modern lingo what wifey meant. As far as taking a leak he had gutters and may have used them, I didn't inquire.
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Now one of the questions remaining is: "would he have listened to a man any better?"
In my view, maybe yes, and maybe not especially if the man were much younger.
 
MsFox said:
I agree that if she is not skilled with a chainsaw, she should not be using it. I have run chainsaws my entire life, including professionally as a faller, but last year sold them all and got a small battery-operated Stihl that is so safe because the chain stops when one lets off the trigger. I got a special carving bar for it to do sculptor and prune limbs without fear of kickback. You did the right thing! Reminds me of a friend that got out her husband's chainsaw to prune shrubs and it kicked back and hit a metal fence post and then as she jerked it back cut a gash in her leg. Luckily it had a quick brake system to stop the chain. I fixed up the saw and suggested to her husband to buy her a super safe battery hedge trimmer and teach her how to use it.
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Where did you work "as a faller?" Were you a climber, as well? If so: What spikes did you prefer? What was your favorite climbing hitch? Did you use a DRT, DdRT, or SRT system? What was your biggest chainsaw rig?
How do you like the battery system? How many cuts do you get with it, approximately? I'm thinking of getting a battery operated climbing saw.
 
treeguy64 said:
Janet and I are equal partners in our LTR. Coming up to fifteen years, I cannot imagine either one of us needing guidance from the other to the extent that one of us is leading the relationship. We bounce ideas off each other, and that is helpful to both of us.
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Hmmm, .......... I wasn't aware that what I posted had comedic value. :ROFLMAO:???????
 
treeguy64 said:
Where did you work "as a faller?" Were you a climber, as well? If so: What spikes did you prefer? What was your favorite climbing hitch? Did you use a DRT, DdRT, or SRT system? What was your biggest chainsaw rig?
How do you like the battery system? How many cuts do you get with it, approximately? I'm thinking of getting a battery operated climbing saw.
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I use a large pair of scissors to cut weeds and wear gloves as a safety measure. 😂
 
Pecos said:
Well, there are a couple of areas where my wife needed my guidance:

- I came home from work one day and found that she was using my chainsaw to trim some bushes. My chainsaw is about the most dangerous thing I own. I got her to promise that she would never do that again.
- My wife seems to cut herself with her kitchen knives fairly frequently and has needed stitches several times. I try to get her to remember to let me cut larger items like watermelon.
- My wife is not very good about locking the doors at night, and when I travel, I have to remind her every night during our pre-bed phone call.
- The "technique" she uses with her checkbook is a mystery to me and when I balance the books, it sometimes takes some mental gymnastics to figure things out. (I don't bother mentioning this to her, because somehow it works, and she is actually pretty good with money. I have never found fault with her spending.)
I could go on and list more areas where a well placed reminder is useful to her, but that would not be the main point.

Neither of us is "bossy", and we do augment each other and appreciate what the other brings to the table. I recognize the degree to which I am dependent on her for her intellect, hard work, companionship, love, and occasional GUIDANCE.

Oh, and I did comply with her guidance that I stay off the roof after I turned 75, and that I would let my motorcycle go at that same time. Who knows, she might have saved my life. One of my neighbors fell off his roof last year and he is still messed up.
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Pecos, Your wife sounds AWESOME!!!!
 
treeguy64 said:
Where did you work "as a faller?" Were you a climber, as well? If so: What spikes did you prefer? What was your favorite climbing hitch? Did you use a DRT, DdRT, or SRT system? What was your biggest chainsaw rig?
How do you like the battery system? How many cuts do you get with it, approximately? I'm thinking of getting a battery operated climbing saw.
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Yes, get the Sthil battery saw for climbing. Amazing saw! The battery last a long time. I get about an hour doing carving with it. I had other brands but the Stihl is the best. I would get 2 batteries. You don't have to worry about the chain running when down by your side or hot muffler. I was a faller in the 80's for a small family sawmill. This was in the Idaho/Oregon mountains. I fell everything from lodgepole pine to huge Douglas firs. I used a Husky 2100 with 40" Oregon bar for falling and a smaller Husky 262 with 32" Oregon bar for limbing. I never did climbing and always hired that done for my yard Sycamore trees upper reaches. I preferred Husky for softer woods because of the higher rpm, but the Stihl for hardwoods with a slower RPM. That Husky 2100 was a beast. I was featured a few years back on the Real Stihl Girls page.
 
MsFox said:
Yes, get the Sthil battery saw for climbing. Amazing saw! The battery last a long time. I get about an hour doing carving with it. I had other brands but the Stihl is the best. I would get 2 batteries. You don't have to worry about the chain running when down by your side or hot muffler. I was a faller in the 80's for a small family sawmill. This was in the Idaho/Oregon mountains. I fell everything from lodgepole pine to huge Douglas firs. I used a Husky 2100 with 40" Oregon bar for falling and a smaller Husky 262 with 32" Oregon bar for limbing. I never did climbing and always hired that done for my yard Sycamore trees upper reaches. I preferred Husky for softer woods because of the higher rpm, but the Stihl for hardwoods with a slower RPM. That Husky 2100 was a beast. I was featured a few years back on the Real Stihl Girls page.
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Wish my crew was using battery saws, last week. We did a big job, where the client had astroturf in her back yard. Well, you can guess what happened when hot saws were laid down on her new "lawn." Yep, a few melted spots.

I read up on patch replacements, no big deal, but the client decided to let things slide. I felt bad, but she admitted that she didn't know her lawn could melt, or she would have warned us.
 

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