Why we cry, the truths about tearing up, for each of us....

[Pinky]

So, so very sorry, Raddragn and Gary. My heart is breaking for both of you.

Our children are supposed to out-live us. My sympathies are with you both.

 

[hearlady]

Yes @Gary O' and @Raddragn, So sorry.

I have begun to realize in the past year or so that when things happen I express it as high anxiety, sometimes anger. Even humor. I am learning to release it in tears, let them flow. I can do this in private. Next step is to share my feelings with others, even cry with them. It's healthy.

 

[seadoug]

What is your secret? Intellectually I accept tears. Heck I even welcome them as refreshing when I’m alone. But when they take me by surprise in conversation I just go blank. Very disquieting. I admire women and my gay friends who strike me as so much more stable and healthy this way. Are you able to talk through it all? What is the technique?

I wish I could tell you. I'm really not sure. I don't think I was ever taught by either of my parents that I should hold in my emotions. I was an expressive kid and they encouraged that.

I rarely saw my father cry, but he was the eldest of 3 brothers. His father and his two younger brothers were alcoholics so he had to learn how to be the "strong, sensible" one very early in life. Regardless, I knew he loved me and he sincerely told me so many times. My mother cried quite often, but then she frequently suffered from depression.

I'm just sensitive that way. When something touches me it just activates my emotions and I just let it out. I wish I could help.

 

[SeaBreeze]

I cry easily over things that make me sad, happy or even raging anger will bring on the tears, guess that makes me a crybaby.

I can tear up easily, for happy things, sad things, empathy or sympathy for people or animals, etc. It's inconvenient at times, but I wouldn't change a thing. Folks like us usually have big hearts with love and kindness to share.