Wife wants hubby home, even though he tried to kill family

The wife of a doctor, whom she admitted that he tried to kill to the entire family in a suicide attempt. He drove over a cliff with his wife and kids in the car. Are you ready for the reason she wants him back home-the kids miss him.
😲 Is putting children into a home/environment with someone who already tried to kill them not child endangerment in a legal sense?! Unbelievable. I remember this story and I'm pretty sure he's been diagnosed as psychotic... he's probably smart enough to know that there's no room for failure the next time he tries. I really hope someone protects those children. :mad:
 
The courts don’t forgive wife beaters, even if the wife wants to withdraw her complaint. They’re not going to back off on an attempted murderer.

Maybe she’s getting pressure from her extended family.
 

I've just spent the day in a domestic violence training room. I've learnt quite a bit about FDV since starting my studies.
Stockholm syndrome, trauma bonding and a complex range of factors come into play, so much so that most of us really don't have a clue what is happening in the minds of women in these situations. Sometimes the only change they want is for the violence to end.
It's so easy for an outsider to ask ' Why doesn't she just leave ', even though this is not what she's capable of doing.
Right now FDV is a very topical subject in Australia.
 
I remember hearing something about it on the news a while ago but know nothing.
I would think moving on would be the mothers best choice. The Tesla and the smart
phone could show if he actually had a bad valve stem air leak and his stops if so. I
once had a bad / cracked valve stem that leaked at speeds above 50 mph. It would
sit on the drive and not leak at all. Even with soapy water.
 
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I've just spent the day in a domestic violence training room. I've learnt quite a bit about FDV since starting my studies.
Stockholm syndrome, trauma bonding and a complex range of factors come into play, so much so that most of us really don't have a clue what is happening in the minds of women in these situations. Sometimes the only change they want is for the violence to end.
It's so easy for an outsider to ask ' Why doesn't she just leave ', even though this is not what she's capable of doing.
Right now FDV is a very topical subject in Australia.
Stockholm syndrome really messes with the minds of those who live through a lifetime of domestic abuse. Victims start believing they are a worthless POS and will protect the villains at all cost. It’s a very complex disorder.
 
Stockholm syndrome really messes with the minds of those who live through a lifetime of domestic abuse. Victims start believing they are a worthless POS and will protect the villains at all cost. It’s a very complex disorder.
Yup! And now I put up with my elderly stepfather who says he wishes he never married my mother and other complaints. All valid. But he was in his 30's. I was 6. I had not power. He had the power to leave her when he discovered who she was.

He complains what he went through with her. I complain a lot too. But he never protected us kids. It was all fun and games and no matter how the kids with no power were treated, stuck in that house, not allowed to have friends, exposed to and abused. These nuts just don't get it and this woman sounds like a first class nut.
 
Do you think he is just trying to please you? How long is your mother dead?
Oh no way Pepper. He's elderly and just wrapped up in his own stuff. I asked him once, twice, if he had any empathy for what my brother and I endured as children (again he never once said anything to my mother when she was especially raging at me) he didn't answer. Complete silence. It's no use trying to talk to him about it. He doesn't get it. My mother's been dead about 12 years. She was about 7 years older than him.
 
My first thought when seeing this headline was "What an idiot!" But I know that gaslighting and the Stockholm Syndrome are very real things. The method can be used to make someone feel it's their fault that the abuser commits terrible acts against them, That poor woman was probably brainwashed and gaslighted. It's one of the reasons why so many women stay with abusive husbands or boyfriends, even though they constantly fear for their lives.

Mrs. Patel maybe feels if she "does better" it won't happen again. It's also likely she feels the family needs her husband for income purposes. But hasn't his ability to continue earning a living been compromised by this incident? So sad but hopefully this story won't end in tragedy.
 
If hubby spared the wife and tried to kill the kids, no wonder wife is siding with hubby to finish the job.
 
I have different feelings about this case. I am thinking maybe they came from India to this country as immigrants because the name Patel is very common in that country, so maybe the culture of their country has something to do with it.

However, I think it’s even a reach for California to leave that man back into the home after dropping charges, if that was even an option by the judge, unless he received treatment and evaluation first.

Only my opinion, but I would prefer to see the case go to trial and let the jury decide if he’s not guilty due to a psychotic event or if he is guilty and it’s proven that he did actually want to kill his family. I would lean on the side of some sort of psychosis being involved, but then again, maybe not and this is why a trial should be conducted and the jury can weigh the evidence from both sides.
 
I have different feelings about this case. I am thinking maybe they came from India to this country as immigrants because the name Patel is very common in that country, so maybe the culture of their country has something to do with it.

However, I think it’s even a reach for California to leave that man back into the home after dropping charges, if that was even an option by the judge, unless he received treatment and evaluation first.

Only my opinion, but I would prefer to see the case go to trial and let the jury decide if he’s not guilty due to a psychotic event or if he is guilty and it’s proven that he did actually want to kill his family. I would lean on the side of some sort of psychosis being involved, but then again, maybe not and this is why a trial should be conducted and the jury can weigh the evidence from both sides.
Exactly, either he's criminally responsible for attempted murder, or he's mentally unstable enough to warrant a court order to stay away from the children. In order to get out of one problem, he has to admit to the other.
 
He drove over the cliff with all of them. Maybe she feels that he has had time to think about all that. She may just love and miss him.
 


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