Wondering about waning libidos

[Glenn]

I am a 64 year male. My libido has been on the wane for what seems to be about a decade. I am delighted with it. My life has become calmer, quieter, less complicated. I have more time to enjoy my children and grandchildren.

And more time to pursue interests that were secondary to satisfying the relentless demands of my libido. It is as though I have been reborn into a saner less demanding world.

I have wondered whether any other men feel as I do. So I made several searches using several different internet search engines and several different query constructs. The only conclusion I can make is this: if my attitude is not unique, then any others are remaining silent.

What I found on the subject are nearly hysterical complaints to the effect that “I have lost my libido. Please, tell me how to get it back!” While that desire is not to be demeaned, I must add that the response is virtually always “OMG, you poor soul. You must do something to regain what you have lost. Here is what I suggest…”

I guess what I am getting at is not one person asking about their waning libido wonders whether it is a normal process, and no responder ever suggests that it is normal and that learning to live with it is an acceptable alternative to medications.

Well, that’s why I stopped by. Now I will go visit the remainder of the website.

 

[SifuPhil]

I think the loss of one's libido is very much a natural process, one that is constantly being fought against by little blue pills and big advertising agencies. Society's perception of "manliness" is pretty much warped at this point, and it's sad to see so many men chasing after the ghosts of their past instead of accepting the new challenges that lie before them.

I had a good 35-year run, one that was (I like to think, anyway) above-average in both quantity and quality. For the last few years I've been doing the "monk thing" and I have to say that at least in terms of mental fatigue I feel like a new man - no more game-playing, no more expectations and no more societal mores to dance around.

I won't say I'm done with the game ... I'm just taking an inning or two off and catching a nap in the dugout. If I should oversleep the end of the game, oh well - there's always peanuts and Cracker-Jacks.