Working on SELF.....

[Lewkat]

There is no way I am going to stress over who or what I am or if anyone likes me or not. Life is too short for that. Take it or leave it. Not everyone is going to like everyone else. It's human nature and I am fine with who I am. If you aren't, then move on.

 

[grahamg]

There is no way I am going to stress over who or what I am or if anyone likes me or not. Life is too short for that. Take it or leave it. Not everyone is going to like everyone else. It's human nature and I am fine with who I am. If you aren't, then move on.

I suppose there will always be a range of views on the thread topic, like much else in life, and not everyone will feel strong minded enough to always take the view you've stated. Paul Newman said something about "if you haven't got enemies you have no character" didn't he too(?).

A very good friend of mine who is no longer with us, having died a couple of years after having had a stroke. She might have recovered from successfully had her partner not suffered from dementia, and failed to listen when she told him she needed to get to hospital as quickly as possible, so he waited for an ambulance which took too long to get her there.

Anyway, she'd been in a caring profession, but also run successful businesses, such as a bar for a couple of years when I first met her. At a party in her house, when most had drunk too much, she came out with the line, "You're mistaking me for someone who gives a damn"!

Now that wasn't Faith at all, and I mention it because I'd guess she was similarly strong minded to your good self, in order to say thr line abive. She bore her illness when wheelchair bound with great fortitude, but she did make mistakes with the men in her life, (she admitted that). Maybe it cost her in the end, as it can anyone perhaps, no matter how strong we might think we are.

 

[Ladybj]

Have you ever met a partner who could do the same thing for you, be both a counsellor at times, plus your own special person?

I admit I haven't, whilst at the same time I did meet one lady who I hankered after a great deal, and I felt she knew me really well, quite early in our relationship. Maybe this was a delusion, and she kept emphasising our different perspectives, and though I didn't want to acknowledge it, she was right there, and her cleaning fanaticism would have been wearing from my perspective too.

No.. My hubby told he at one time that he is not my counselor..which I respect his honesty. First and foremost, I am my own special person, therefore I can accept my hubby as a special person and I have no doubt I am special to him. I have several special people in my life. I am very grateful.

 

[Ladybj]

I'm a work in progress. Haven't considered looking internally to see what makes me tick, probably a waste of time since I'm happy with how life has been & still is.

As long as you are happy with how life has been for you that is what matters. For me, I had to take a trip into internal lane... was not easy but well worth it. It was not to see what make me tick but more so, nothing or no one can take away my Peace, Joy, Happiness, Compassion and control my emotions. Had to find ME.

 

[Ladybj]

I suppose there will always be a range of views on the thread topic, like much else in life, and not everyone will feel strong minded enough to always take the view you've stated. Paul Newman said something about "if you haven't got enemies you have no character" didn't he too(?).

A very good friend of mine who is no longer with us, having died a couple of years after having had a stroke. She might have recovered from successfully had her partner not suffered from dementia, and failed to listen when she told him she needed to get to hospital as quickly as possible, so he waited for an ambulance which took too long to get her there.

Anyway, she'd been in a caring profession, but also run successful businesses, such as a bar for a couple of years when I first met her. At a party in her house, when most had drunk too much, she came out with the line, "You're mistaking me for someone who gives a damn"!

Now that wasn't Faith at all, and I mention it because I'd guess she was similarly strong minded to your good self, in order to say thr line abive. She bore her illness when wheelchair bound with great fortitude, but she did make mistakes with the men in her life, (she admitted that). Maybe it cost her in the end, as it can anyone perhaps, no matter how strong we might think we are.

I agree.. we are not as strong as we think we are. Life will bring us to our knees. I came close to a nervous breakdown many years ago. That's why working on self is soooo important to me and I am at a MUCH better place in my life. I handle external changes a bit better because my internal is a LOT better.