Worrying: Do You Relate?🥺😗🙃🥲😐🥴😏

I'm not a worrier, I'm a regreter. I lie awake at night and think about all the wrong and stupid things I've done in my life, all the red flags I ignored, all the opportunities I didn't take, all the times I was reading when something terrible was happening -- frankly I don't have time to worry.
 

Ronni said:
it opens the door to the deeply unsettling realization that the worst CAN in fact happen, that the “it won’t happen to me or mine” mindset is sheer fallacy and that no one I care about is safe.
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I went through that when my son got an incurable disease. We don't realize how much we get through life with that, "that sort of thing happens to other people" mindset. I'm glad most of us have it most of the time. I had anticiapatory anxiety so bad for awhile I would almost faint when the phone rang.

I've settled down since, it's been 30 years, and returned to a little bit of that, "It won't happen to me" state. There's even another false confidence going on with the "lightning won't strike twice" belief. I hope you get some of that back soon, Ronni.
 
I feel terrible for those who suffer this. My brain found some sort of escape route years ago…and the result is I will stress and worry for a very limited amount of time…then I do not think about it. I try every day to silence whatever negative voices that are out there and listen to the birds..the wind chime…and to consciously feel lucky. This has worked in almost all scenarios except about three years ago when my son was so very mentally ill and addicted. I had to bring him back home in order to sleep at night. He still hears persistent voices..is unemployed and rides a bicycle back and forth thru my house. But I sleep. Drives my guy friggen nuts though…
 
Bella said:
The tree fell in the middle of the night and woke me up! 😲 My house was damaged, but not nearly as badly as it could've been, thank God. I had some damage to the roof and the ceilings in two of my rooms, and the back gutter was smashed. What really pissed me off is that I just had both the roof and gutters replaced before the tree fell. 🤨
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I'm so sorry that happened Bella, but thank God you weren't injured!! That is serious. Will your homeowner's insurance cover getting those things repaired again?
 
Maybe you could gently check in with your brother, let him know you’re there if he ever wants to talk. Sometimes just sharing a coffee or a walk can make both of you feel better, even if you don’t dig into MS every time.
 
I worry about everything but most frustrating for me is my spouse worries about nothing. I worry that she doen't worry and I worry about how she will survive after I'm gone. I wonder if I will worry in the after life.
 

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