Would it bother you if your adult child lived far away?

If your adult child lived abroad, how much would it bother you?

  • It would bother me a lot

    Votes: 10 40.0%

  • It would kind of bother me

    Votes: 3 12.0%

  • It would bother me a little

    Votes: 4 16.0%

  • It wouldn't bother me at all

    Votes: 8 32.0%
  • Total voters
    25
  • Poll closed .
my sons all live in the same county-haven;t seen them for 9months or more due
to the virus etc , they live about 2 half hours drive from me ....yes i miss them
especially the the eldest who is splitting up with his family; due to she wants freedom .:(
 

toffee said:
my sons all live in the same county-haven;t seen them for 9months or more due
to the virus etc , they live about 2 half hours drive from me ....yes i miss them
especially the the eldest who is splitting up with his family; due to she wants freedom .:(
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Well, I am beginning to want freedom myself. While my circumstances might be different from hers the necessity might be similar. I, however, find my journey to freedom extremely difficult and frightening and am not sure I can do it.

Is she excited to break away? You don’t need to answer, I am just curious as how other people manage to leave.
 
Aneeda72 said:
Is she excited to break away? You don’t need to answer, I am just curious as how other people manage to leave.
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toffee is talking about her DIL breaking up with her son. I doubt toffee is rooting for her over her own kid!
 

Pepper said:
toffee is talking about her DIL breaking up with her son. I doubt toffee is rooting for her over her own kid!
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I thought she meant a daughter and she might want the DIL to leave. I love my sons significant other and if they broke up I’d still love his significant other. Their relationship with each other is seperate from my relationship with them.

A couple of years ago they almost broke up and she asked if she could still see me, at the same time I was saying I would still see her. 😍. And I told my son she was the best thing that every happened to him, and she is, and she still is. I’d love her to be a DIL.

Edited: She SEES me as a person, I find very few people see me. I am just another not so fat anymore insignificant older woman waiting for the grave.
 
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It certainly would bother me. My daughters husband is in the military. For awhile they moved frequently.
We made many trips to visit them. Twice to Oregon by car which is all the way across country for us. Of course we enjoyed the trips and saw so many wonderful places but It wasn't enough time for the grandkids to really get to know us.

A few years back my son in law landed a great position in Washington DC. and though he gets deployed now and then for short periods of time we are only 5 hours away and see them often.
Now the grandkids come running when we walk in the door or when they visit us. This means so much to me.

I don't ever want to be that far away from them again.

My son has his cabinetry business only a few miles from our home so I doubt he will ever move far away.
 
Felines are superior said:
Hi

I'm thinking of living abroad for a few years or permanently, but I worry it would bother my parents. They're healthy and independent, but they're in their eighties.

I have a brother and three nieces who live walking distance from my parents and stay in touch, so they won't be alone. I'm 55 and have no children, so I won't be taking their grandchildren away. Have one sister who lives abroad with my two nephews.

We've never been what you'd call a close family anyway, and if I move, I intend to talk to my parents in video chats once a week.

The question is: if your adult child lived abroad, how much would it bother you? A lot, a little, not at all? What is your opinion?
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You claim that your family has never been close, yet you're worried about being away from your parents. That tells me that you're closer than you claim to be, which is a good thing. To me, talking to your parents once a week is extremely close! :)

On the other hand, you have to live your own life. Where are you thinking about moving to?

I would think that living in Israel would be a bit stressful, with the threat of attack from every direction, which makes wanting to get away understandable. Plus all the sand. I've never been there, though.
 
I never had kids but still voted, no it wouldn't bother me. I think adult children are free. I follow a couple on YouTube that live and travel in their 5th wheel. They go back to New York in the summer for a job and to be near the man's elderly mother. He has siblings in the area all year. Sounds like your parents have help also. I say do what you want. You deserve it.

And yes, felines are superior.
 
My oldest and my youngest live 1/2 the country (USA) away. No it doesn’t bother me as long as they touch base every once in a while via chat or phone and let me know they r ok
 
Our children and grandchildren all live within 1 to 2 hours drive. That is close enough that we are able to get together fairly frequently, yet far enough away that we don't interfere with each others routines. That is working out well for everyone.

If any of them ever moved far away, we would certainly miss them.
 
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