I hope I don't get attacks for this. Yesterday I finally had time to get my hair cut. The woman I like hadn't been at this place in a time, finally returning. She said her 99 year old mother died last year and she had paid for part of her care at a very upscale assisted living place in my town. As a hair dresser, I don't know how she did it. I told her that must have left her very little money and she said it did.
My stepfather has had health issues and is back home. For now. Very stressful for me, with no support. Not even verbal support from my brother. In fact he puts me down from 3000 miles away. My stepfather has a decent income, much more than I will ever have yet it doesn't cover assisted living places, even at their starting price should he ever need it. He's 700 a month short. I could never supplement this. I work part time now and really at my age, I don't think I can work full time on my feet as an RN anymore. My extra time I had hoped to have for myself right now is gone, helping him and constant worry. Jumping when the phone rings. He has a medical button.
I also found out the day before he landed in the hospital he had written and sent 20 donation checks. He was likely donating more than 500 dollars a month receiving 700 if not more solicitations a month which I am battleling like crazy. Sending back, I have called and e mailed over 110 organizations and counting. Finally seeing some progress. I told my brother this who barked "JUST IGNORE IT" and then told my step father I didn't want to "collect" his mail. Some support huh.
I'll do what I can but helping to pay assisted living or other great expenses is impossible for me. Would you be able and willing? The home health social worker was out and asked if he had ever thought what he would do if he couldn't live independent. He said he never thought about it. He remains alert and oriented and the home RN told me he passed the cognitive test but clearly he does not make good decisions. He could never live with me as I hated the house I grew up in and have lived alone all my adult life. That is not an option.
My stepfather has had health issues and is back home. For now. Very stressful for me, with no support. Not even verbal support from my brother. In fact he puts me down from 3000 miles away. My stepfather has a decent income, much more than I will ever have yet it doesn't cover assisted living places, even at their starting price should he ever need it. He's 700 a month short. I could never supplement this. I work part time now and really at my age, I don't think I can work full time on my feet as an RN anymore. My extra time I had hoped to have for myself right now is gone, helping him and constant worry. Jumping when the phone rings. He has a medical button.
I also found out the day before he landed in the hospital he had written and sent 20 donation checks. He was likely donating more than 500 dollars a month receiving 700 if not more solicitations a month which I am battleling like crazy. Sending back, I have called and e mailed over 110 organizations and counting. Finally seeing some progress. I told my brother this who barked "JUST IGNORE IT" and then told my step father I didn't want to "collect" his mail. Some support huh.
I'll do what I can but helping to pay assisted living or other great expenses is impossible for me. Would you be able and willing? The home health social worker was out and asked if he had ever thought what he would do if he couldn't live independent. He said he never thought about it. He remains alert and oriented and the home RN told me he passed the cognitive test but clearly he does not make good decisions. He could never live with me as I hated the house I grew up in and have lived alone all my adult life. That is not an option.